Parents guilt trip 25-year-old son for abandoning his ex-girlfriend after finding out she cheated with his brother, they demand he help out with their baby and be a “good uncle,”: “The baby’s wellbeing should be all anyone cares about”

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    AITA for not helping my brother and my ex with the kid they had together and telling my parents to step up if help is deserved?

    "You should step up if you think help is deserved"
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    I (25m) was dating Jade (24f) for four years. We broke up several months ago when I found out she'd been sleeping with my brother Tommy (24m) for months or maybe even years. HI maybe they were secretly cheating since the start. I don't even know anymore. Jade and I lived together and I thought we were expecting a baby together.
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    Then I walked in on them. I didn't catch them in the middle of s or even in bed. But it looked intimate and way too comfortable. They told me I was imagining things and I said I didn't believe them. Tommy said he'd never do me like that. We're brothers and we're there for each other and, like that.
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    I broke up with Jade. She and Tommy still said I was crazy and nothing was going on. But once Jade realized I was serious and I wasn't supporting her through the pregnancy any further and wanted a DNA test, Tommy came crawling to me begging for me not to put Jade or his kid at risk. He told me I could be the dad and raise the
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    baby and he'd never be with Jade again but she wanted what I could offer her and the baby and he wanted the best for his kid.
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    Our parents were shocked by what had happened. But also frustrated because Tommy was bouncing from job to job after college. He had no stability or stable income and Jade wasn't in a much better position. While I had gone to trade school and was earning good money and had stable employment already. They berated Tommy and
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    Jade like crazy and I stepped away from the two of them. I said I would only step back in and communicate with Jade if the baby was mine. And I said I'd pay for a DNA test.
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    Even without knowing they tried to list me as the father on the birth certificate but luckily I needed to be there so that failed. My parents paid for Tommy to take a DNA test the same time I did and the DNA proved he was the father, not me.
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    Jade begged me to take her back and she said the baby was really ours no matter what DNA said. I blocked her everywhere after that and did the same with Tommy. They still tracked me down in public but I ignored them. I told Tommy we weren't family anymore and to remember that he was the one who broke our relationship, not me.
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    The baby's about 4 months old now. And my parents are taking issue with the fact I ignore that the baby exists like I now ignore that Tommy and Jade exist. They told me I could have sent the baby a gift or something. That I'm still the uncle if I'm not the father. I told them I wanted nothing to do with the mess and it's up to Tommy and
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    Jade to figure this shout. My parents argued that a good uncle was still important and the baby hasn't done anything to deserve being rejected. I said the baby is innocent but they're attached to the parents who are both pieces of sh who deserve nothing from me.
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    I told my parents we're talking about the same people who expected me to believe that I'd raise the kid as my own and they'd stop cheating. Who tried to force my name on the birth certificate. Those people. I said the baby might be doomed but I don't feel responsible for saving them from that life.
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    My parents said Tommy and Jade need help for the sake of the baby and the baby's wellbeing should be all anyone cares about. I rolled my eyes and my parents told me to take this seriously. And there had been a 50% chance the baby was mine. How could all those feelings just vanish like that. They said the
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    baby deserves that and even Tommy to a point because no matter what he's still my brother. I suggested that they should step up if they feel help is so deserved because I'm not gonna.
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    They said I was breaking their hearts and Tommy's heart and one day I'd break the baby's heart too. And to think about the bigger picture. AITA?
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    FirmCalligrapher639 23h ago • NTA. What about your heart? You're being cast as the villain when you've done nothing wrong. They've made their bed....
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    eratoesben • 23h ago - NTA protect your peace. You were betrayed by two people who were closest to you. You owe them nothing, reinforce this to yourself!
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    They did not make a mistake, they made conscious decisions over and over again and were even going to pass off your brother's child as your own.
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    Ignore the dog whistles and focus on yourself as they sure as h I did. Get therapy, surround yourself with people who support you and your choices. Sometimes it's not enough to cut out just those two toxic evil people but their enablers too.
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    I wish you all the best and hope you have a life full of happiness
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    ExtremeJujoo • 23h ago NTA Your parents need to knock this sh off, like, yesterday. If they are so concerned about the baby and Tommy and Jade, then they can help out. But this is not your problem, you don't owe any of them,
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    including their baby, j...!... Oh! My favorite part if Tommy saying he would never be with Jade again and she wanted what YOU could offer the her and the baby. What a pig. I guarantee you, once you took her back and played dada to her kid, she would go right back to h around, be it
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    with Tommy or some other doofus. Tell your parents if they keep up with the emotional n, they will end up on the non contact list too. Hopefully that jolts them back to reality.

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