Man informs wife he doesn't want to be with her during the birth of their child, she considers divorce as a responds: ‘This proves he doesn’t prioritize me’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Mar 4, 2025 11:00 PM EST

I am pretty sure I don't have to explain to anyone here what women have to go through while they are trying to bring a baby into the world. We understand what sacrifices need to be made, how painful and difficult it is, and don't get me started on how emotionally taxing these 9 months (and usually much longer than that) are.

It should be basic common sense that women are incredible.

When a woman gets pregnant, the least, and I mean the absolute bare minimum, her partner can do, is be there for her no matter what. The support she should be getting from the one who put that baby inside her belly is non-negotiable, and any man who thinks differently does not deserve to be a part of his partner's life, their baby's life, or anyone else, for that matter.

It seems like the woman in the story below has come to this exact realization after her husband told her he doesn't want to be with her in the delivery room while she gives birth to their third child. Keep scrolling to read her reaction.

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    "AIO for considering divorcing my husband who doesn’t want to be with me for the birth of our child?"

    I'm 33F, he's 40M. We have two kids together and a third on the way. Just last night we had friends over for dinner and we were talking about childbirth and what it was like with our
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    first two, and he said that he didn't even want to be there for the birth of this one because it's too traumatizing for him, and that he wants my mom (who lives in a different country and
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    has Parkinson's) to come be there with my in the delivery room instead. He said he doesn't want to be in the room and deal with my
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    shouting and screaming and saying "ohhh *!" over and over because it's too stressful for him. Like... I'm sorry I was in pain while giving unmedicated birth to our beautiful healthy children?
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    He's never mentioned to me that he doesn't want to be there for the birth - this is the first time it's come up, and it was in front of other people, which was kind of embarrassing.
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    Tbh if this were the only issue in our marriage, I would chalk it up to him just having a few too many beers and maybe being a bit too blunt about it. But there have been so many other
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    instances that prove to me he doesn't prioritize me and I'm so sick of it. Am I overreacting? Would I be an absolute idiot to divorce him while I'm pregnant with our third child?
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  • Ending a marriage with three kids involved is not an easy decision, and I genuinely do not think any of us are eligible to make that decision for this poor woman, but I do hope she finds peace with whatever decision she makes.

    What do you think? Keep scrolling to read the comments and let me know yours in the comments section below!

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    Separate Security472 Have you tried marriage counseling?
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    Siamese CatofaGirl OP Yes... multiple times. Each time he only does it for a few months then decides to stop because "they always side with you (me)"
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    lilchocochip Exactly. Seems like there were red flags before now
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    Siamese CatofaGirl OP There totally were. I'm an idiot and keep hoping things will change, despite all the evidence to the contrary...
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    balconyherbs NOR. Especially if he has a habit of always putting himself first. It's unlikely to change, in my experience. Talk to an attorney about what the divorce process would be and don't tell him until
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    you have had that discussion and have a plan. See if you can find a good doula in your area so you have someone to advocate for you and support you. How did the friends you were with react to him spewing that nonsense?
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    Siamese CatofaGirl OP I wouldn't say it's that he always puts himself first, but that he often puts me last, with work, his parents, his sisters, etc. before me
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    Main-Occasion815 Prioritize your 3 children and let them grow up with an intact family. Humans aren't perfect...neither are marriages.
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    Siamese CatofaGirl OP Thank you for your response. One of the few that expressed that essentially it would be a bad idea to divorce, but without calling me a monster and a bad mother. I appreciate your perspective
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    ZucchiniBudget147 Wow how nice that he has the option to not be apart of the birth. Must be great to be a man.
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    Connect_Guide_7546 NOR you're probably a single mom already.
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    kikivee612 Aww!! Poor husband childbirth is difficult for him! He doesn't have to do anything but be present and that's too hard for him? Wow! No, you wouldn't be wrong to divorce him. I would too!
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    Jennifer_Layne NOR! Not by a long shot. Your husband sounds like an immature child who only cares about his feelings.
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