“You should get a real house instead of that shoebox”: Older sister makes fun of younger brother’s apartment for years, comes crawling to stay for free there when her relationship goes under, he refuses

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    AITA for not letting my sister move into my apartment after she made fun of me for living alone?

    "Our parents are saying I'm being too harsh"
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    I (26M) have my own apartment, which I worked really hard to get. My older sister (29F) used to tease me about it, saying stuff like "must be lonely" and "you should get a real house instead of that shoebox." She's been making little comments for years about how she'd never want to live alone and how I should "grow up" and move out of an apartment.
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    Well, last month, she broke up with her long-term boyfriend, and guess what? Now she suddenly wants to move into my place. She called me, crying, saying she needed somewhere to stay for a few months. I asked if she had other options, and she said she could stay with our parents, but she "didn't want to deal with them."
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    I told her no. I like my space, I've never lived with her as an adult, and I don't think it would work out. She got ped, saying I was "selfish" and that "family should help each other." I reminded her of all the times she made fun of me for living alone, and suddenly, she started backtracking, saying she "never meant it that way."
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    Now, our parents are saying I'm being too harsh and should let her stay "just for a little while." But I don't want to. I know if I let her in, she'll start acting like she owns the place, and I'll be stuck living with someone who doesn't even respect my lifestyle.
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    Faye00754 OP ⚫ 10h ago For some context: • She makes good money. She's not struggling, just doesn't want to pay rent on her own.
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    • Our parents live in a nice house and have space for her, but she doesn't want to move back home.
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    . • When I brought up the way she used to talk about my apartment, she said she was "just joking" and I was "being sensitive."
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    • I know my sister. If I let her move in, she'll treat it like a free ride and stay way longer than she promises.
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    spymatt •10h ago NTA, she needs to be an adult and pay for her own place or live back with mommy and daddy. Stand your ground.
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    SamuelVimesTrai... • 10h ago You live in a shoebox, right... She cannot fit.. NTA ..
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    . grayblue_grrl • 10h ago If she stays with your parents she'll have incentive to move out quickly. "If my life and my home are a joke to you, you can deal with our parents." NTA
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    T... 10h ago • Edited 10h ago ΝΤΑ You already know it would be a bad idea for her to move in. She can stay with your folks. Don't back down! Edited for misspelling.
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    CivMom 10h ago • Haha your parents don't want to deal with her, either. Just tell her there isn't room. Because there isn't. When she argues say something like "I am done with this conversation, I am happy to help you find listings near
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    your job if you are interested." but only if you mean it. Otherwise just tell her you are done. And tell your parents that your place is set up for you, and your peace of mind, and that they are welcome to help her but you are not going to and they are beginning to damage your relationship.
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    Additional_Bad7... • 10h ago Tell your family they're right, family should help family and you applaud them for doing so.
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    Numerous_Audie... • 10h ago Yeeeeaaaah that'd be a hard pass for me. Huge adjustment especially as adults.
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    FairyFartDaydrea... • 10h ago NTA especially since she can move back in with your parents
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    Ravenmn 10h ago NTA. Wow, she is profoundly ignorant of the effect of her own words. It would take a really creative writer to explain how "that shoebox" was "never meant" to be an insult or taunt! "I've dreamed all my life of living in a shoebox! How cozy and warm!"
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    Check with your landlord: you may not be allowed to have a roommate under your current lease. And if all else fails, find a long, detailed roommate contract on the web and demand she sign it before moving in so you both understand expectations. Good luck!
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    wulfblood_90 • 10h ago ΝΤΑ I love how convenient it is for your parents to say you're in the wrong and should let her stay, but aren't volunteering their own home. The hypocritical parents always kill me.

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