Entitled woman demands to be a bridesmaid at brother's wedding despite being 40 weeks pregnant, bride refuses, leading to a family dispute: ‘She stopped talking to me’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Mar 12, 2025 9:00 AM EDT

Some people see everything as a competition.

No matter what you do, they always have to do it better. They have to feel like they are 'winning' in life, like it is a race and they need to be in first place. They can't just be happy for other people's success, because for some reason, they see another's success and their own failure.

These types of people are absolutely exhausting. 

You just can't have a normal conversation with them, because they will always try to one-up you no matter what you say. "Oh, you got a promotion at work? Well, I just won an award"; "You're pregnant with your first child? Well, I am actually pregnant with twins"; "You won a Tony? Well, I actually just completed my EGOT". (Okay, the last one might be far-fetched, but you get what I mean).

Unfortunately, even though most of us would love never to be associated with these people again, sometimes we don't have a choice. Like with a family member, just like in the story down below.

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  • This entitled woman not only makes everything into a competition, but she actually gets upset and makes a scene every time she feels like she is losing.

    Like when she walked out of her brother's engagement announcement because she was mad he was getting married before her. Or when she made a scene when she couldn't be a bridesmaid because she would probably give birth by the time the wedding comes.

    For now, her future sister-in-law refuses to give in to her self-centered demands, keep scrolling to read the full story.

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    "She's making my wedding all about her"
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    "AITA for kicking my sister out of my wedding?"

    Last year I got engaged to my elementary school sweetheart. When I announced the engagement my sister in law (then just my siblings girlfriend) left thanksgiving at my
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    grandfathers house and didn't return. She didn't say anything to me. Meanwhile my brother went outside with my parents and freaked out about how his girlfriend would be ped that I got engaged and now he would
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    have to also propose, which he stated he was not ready for. I was really disappointed as this really ruined my announcement. My brother proposed later that month & I was happy for them. I
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    was a little hurt though to find out they got engaged via Facebook. My family is no strangers to sharing announcements as the previous year on Christmas my sister and
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    cousin both announced they were expecting and shared the joy without any competitiveness. Fast forward, my sister in law insists on getting married before me since they are older. We're on good terms and my sisters and I
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    help with a lot of their wedding and a few months after their wedding they are getting ready to go on their honeymoon. My older sister asked our now sister in law casually if they were planning on having kids anytime
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    soon and my brother says he isn't ready yet. My older sister pointed out that if my brother and our sister in law got pregnant on her honeymoon, my wedding is exactly 40 weeks later meaning her due date would be my
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    wedding weekend, and she's pointed out to them that they should try to be extra careful. Obviously she would NEVER say this if they wanted to start trying right away, but since they weren't, it seemed alright to mention.
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    Fast forward 2 months and my older sister calls me to let me know that our brother told her that day our sister in law is pregnant and her due date is my wedding. My sister in law didn't
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    actually tell me this for weeks after telling the rest of my family. It's now been months. My sister in law was meant to be in my wedding but I've realized that the dresses my other bridesmaids
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    have already purchased and can't return don't come in maternity sizes and she's going to be 40 weeks pregnant in August for my wedding if she can even attend since sometimes babies just come early.
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    There has since been several large fights between her and my brother in which she has threatened to divorce him and go stay with her parents in Montana. My parents are pretty religious
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    and the threat of my brother's marriage being dissolved while his wife is pregnant has cause a huge rift. Today I let my sister in law know that given the change in
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    circumstances she should just wear what she's comfortable in and sit in the front with our family. She and my brother stopped talking to me in response.
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    Am I the ah le? I feel like one. UPDATE: Thanks for all the comments and reassurance. While I wasn't necessarily coming here to read hate on my SIL, it
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    does make me feel a little better recognizing that I need to take care of myself and put some serious distance between myself and my families strange interconnections.
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    Clarifications: 1. My SIL & brother are not the oldest siblings, I have two older bl d sisters. 2. My family live very close. together and my parents insist on weekly dinners. While I do my best to create
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    While I do my best to create space, the ties I would be breaking would ultimately have to also be to my parents which I am not willing to do yet.
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    mimka79 NTA. Your SIL suffers from a bad case of main character syndrome with a side case of keeping up with the Joneses. She wants what everyone else has before they're allowed to have it - a permanent
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    3-year-old. I'm amazed you've been so toleran of her tasteless behavior. It's your wedding, and you get to choose who stands with you for any reason you want. I agree that it's unlikely she'll even be able to attend. I hope your brother is able to make it. Enjoy your wedding day!
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    Solid-Feature-7678 NTA. You SIL seems to be in some insane one-sided competition with you. She has deliberately frozen you out of her and your brother's life. Given what she has made your relationship, a simple invite without being part of the bridal party is appropriate.
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    BlueMoon-9786 NTA This is way beyond whether your SIL should sit with family at your wedding. There are way more problems with your SIL's marriage to your brother than you a) should even consider being
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    responsible for or b) try in any way to broker/resolve. They are adults - they can figure out their issues. Don't let them impact your wedding.
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    Crnken No way someone who would be 40 weeks pregnant o the wedding day would want to be in a wedding party.
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    Suspicious_Ratio_557 NTA SIL did this to make your wedding about her She's already made your proposal announcement about her
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