'My immediate gut reaction was no': New homeowners get pressured by entitled friends to let them move in for an entire year for free

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Ben Weiss • Writer and Editor
Mar 16, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

The things friends do for one another…

Look, we're all supportive of the fact that some friends are closer and more reliant on one another than others, but boundaries are kind of important. Otherwise, you might end up like this couple, whose friends assumed they could just move into their new home for an entire year without paying rent.

Let this story serve as another reminder to establish limits with any needy friends in your life before it's too late.

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    The image does not depict the actual subjects of the story. Subjects are models.

  • This couple was excited to share with their closest friends that they were going to be homeowners. Now, it just so happens that their new residence will be in the same area that their close friends are suddenly planning to move to next year. However, instead of considering moving somewhere adjacent to them, these friends had the audacity to ask if they could fully move in for an entire year. Not a month, not a couple of weeks while they get on their feet…an entire year!

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    "We got an offer on a house, our friends asked if they can move in"

    My husband and I received the notice that our offer was accepted! We're super excited and started sharing the news with our close friends and family.
    via jeoonjun
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    One of our friends who is going back to school in our state said congrats and then said asked since the timing works out, can him and his wife come live with us for a year.
    via jeoonjun
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    My immediate gut reaction was no because we haven't even lived in the house yet and we'd immediately have to share the space with them. They also have not shared any plans of paying rent, helping with groceries, etc.
    via jeoonjun
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    I would feel like a huge a_h_le telling them no and having that uncomfortable confrontation, but something tells me as first time homeowners we'd be frustrated If we immediately let them move in when we haven't settled in ourselves.
    via jeoonjun
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    Also, I can't help but wonder what was their plan if we didn't get a house and still lived in our apartment... this just feels like they jumped on the opportunity of living somewhere free.
    via jeoonjun
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    Just looking for others opinions because I'm feeling pretty worked up about it.
    via jeoonjun
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    The image does not depict the actual subjects of the story. Subjects are models.

  • Many folks in the online community chimed in and informed the author that it's about time they confronted this entitled couple. We're all sympathetic to the fact that not everyone is in the financial position to buy a home, but mooching off of one's friends while providing nothing in return is a step too far. Here's what they had to say about this doomed friendship!

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    F... 13h ago 13h ago Edited 13h ago DO NOT DO IT. do not let them move in. No chance no way. Take it from someone that's been there. Had a friend move in est was 6 months to get on his feet. It took 3 yrs
    via jeoonjun
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    and a gf to get him to move out. His stuff is still at my place 8 months later I keep hounding him to get his stuff out. He won't.
    via jeoonjun
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    It's the most frustrating thing ever. NTA don't invite him in. It may strain the friendship for a bit but it's better than the friend being a burden and straining it for a long time and you grow to resent them.
    via jeoonjun
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    I couldn't be comfortable or happy in my home. It will dampen your relationship with your husband
    via jeoonjun
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    Eta what makes it worse is he wants to move his wife in too (then she gets pregnant theyll guilt you about putting kids out on the street). You'll never get them out. If you tried to kick them out they'd try and pull squatters rights on you and take over. While your stuck footing the bill.
    via jeoonjun
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    Just don't do it op, keep your sanity. I was lucky our friend was a single guy. But he latched onto a successful woman and is now living in her place. He's not my
    via jeoonjun
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    problem anymore (well until he gets his stuff out, I'm about to pay someone to haul it away and send him the bill)
    via jeoonjun
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    teresajs 13h ago NTA Just straight up say, "Sorry, no, we aren't interested in having tenants or roommates."
    via jeoonjun
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    S2Sallie 13h ago • It's definitely perfect timing, tell them your old apartment is for rent
    via jeoonjun
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    ReadTheRealms • 13h ago Okay, so you just got your dream house, and your friends are already asking to move in for a year. That's...bold. Look, you're right to feel put off. You
    via jeoonjun
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    haven't even had a chance to paint a wall or figure out where the couch goes, and they're already planning their year-long stay. Plus, no mention of rent? Come on.
    via jeoonjun
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    NTA for wanting your own space. They're definitely taking advantage, or at least being incredibly inconsiderate
    via jeoonjun

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