Meddling mother-in-law tries to secretly test grandchild’s DNA, forcing daughter-in-law to ban access to the baby: ‘She went full drama mode, telling everyone I was "tearing the family apart"’

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  • "AITA for refusing to let my mother-in-law hold my baby after she told my husband to get a paternity test?"

    "She was hoping to get a strand of my baby's hair"
  • The story 1:1 (28F) gave birth to my first child, a beautiful baby girl, three weeks ago. My husband (30M) and I have been over the moon, but his mother has been causing nonstop drama.
  • She never liked me. From the start, she made snide comments about how I "trapped" her son, even though we've been happily married for four years.
  • When I got pregnant, she constantly joked about how the baby might not be his. I brushed it off as her usual passive-aggressive behavior ―until I found out she took it way further.
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  • Two days after I gave birth, my husband got a text from his mom saying, "You should get a DNA test. You never know these days." I was devastated when I saw it. My husband was furious
  • and told her off, saying he had zero doubts about me and that her comment was disgusting. She tried to backtrack, saying she was "just looking out for him."
  • Hey! Grandma! leave me alone!

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  • Now she wants to come over and meet the baby. But I told my husband that she will not be holding our daughter. If she wants to
  • question whether my child is even her grandchild, then she doesn't get the privilege of bonding with her. My husband
  • understands why I'm upset, but he thinks we should let her come “just once” so she doesn't play the victim with the rest of the family.
  • Now she's crying to everyone, saying I'm “keeping her granddaughter from her" and that I'm punishing her
  • over a "harmless question." Some family members think I'm being dramatic and should "be the bigger person."
  • But why should I let someone who disrespected me and my child hold her like nothing happened?
  • AITA for refusing to let her hold my baby?
  • Update: Well, I wish I could say things got better, but MIL made sure that didn't happen.
  • After my husband told her off, I thought she'd at least try to apologize-but instead, she doubled down. She started calling my
  • husband, telling him I was "turning him against his own mother" and that I was "overreacting to a simple question." She even pulled
  • the classic victim act, crying to the rest of the family about how I was "keeping her grandbaby from her."
  • Then, things took a ridiculous turn. I found out from my SIL that MIL was actually trying to get a DNA test done behind our backs. Apparently, she was hoping
  • to get a strand of my baby's hair or some spit to "confirm the truth." When my SIL told me, I was absolutely done.
  • I told my husband that until she apologizes-not a fake "I'm sorry you're mad" apology, but a real one- she is not welcome around me or my daughter.
  • Thankfully, my husband backed me up 100%. He told his mother that if she can't respect his wife and child, then she doesn't deserve to be part of our lives.
  • MIL lost it. She went full drama mode, telling everyone I was "tearing the family apart" and that she "might never recover from this heartbreak." At this point, I don't even care.
  • She disrespected me, she disrespected my marriage, and she disrespected my child. Actions have consequences.
  • So yeah, MIL still hasn't met the baby. And unless she does some serious apologizing and self- reflection, she won't be anytime soon.
  • 18k_gold Tell her you want a DNA test on your husband as you don't think his father is the real father. She must be projecting from her own whoring days.
  • Saffron Wavee NTA She's the one tearing the family apart with her toxic behavior, not you. Stand your ground. Your husband's backing you, and that's what matters. She needs a serious reality check.

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