Woman demands that boyfriend pay off 24-year-old sister's $42,0000 student loan debt, he refuses despite her ultimatum: "It's selfish to help me but not my sister"

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    AITAH breaking up with my girlfriend after she insisted pay her sister's student loans?

    "I'm not responsible for her sister's loans."
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    So I (28M) have been dating my girlfriend (26F) for about 2 years. A few months ago, I got really lucky on Stake and won about $80K. Not life-changing money, but definitely a nice chunk of change.
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    My girlfriend has been struggling with student loans (about $35K), so I decided to help her out and paid them off completely. She was super grateful at first, crying and thanking me for weeks.
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    Fast forward to last week. Her sister (24F) is also dealing with student loans, about $42K worth. My girlfriend started hinting that since I helped her, I should also help her sister. I laughed it off at first, thinking she was joking.
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    She wasn't. She got increasingly pushy about it, saying things like "You have plenty left" and "It's selfish to help me but not my sister" and "Family helps family."
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    I explained that while I care about her family, I'm not responsible for her sister's loans. I already did something generous that most boyfriends wouldn't do, and her sister's finances aren't my responsibility.
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    This turned into a massive fight where she called me selfish and greedy. She literally said "What's the point of having money if you don't help people with it?" She then gave me an ultimatum: either pay her sister's loans or she'd reconsider our relationship.
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    I broke up with her on the spot. Now she's blowing up my phone saying I overreacted and her family thinks I'm an a h le. So reddit, AITAH for refusing to pay for her sister's loans and ending the relationship over this?
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    Aggravating-Pie-5565 Oh yes 100% this OP. Do this. Do not let that lady get away with taking your money and calling YOU greedy for not giving more.
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    KiraOndal Right! It's time to hit the 'undo; button on that payment. Wwho knew generosity came with a return policy?
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    Aggravating-Pie-5565 Oh yes 100% this OP. Do this. Do not let that lady get away with taking your money and calling YOU greedy for not giving more.
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    Normal_Soil_5442 Nope nta she's the a hole for pushing the issue.
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    mustang19671967 You're an AH for paying off her student loan, that was so stupid you probably need to pay tax on the winning. Block her on everything, if she wants you back tell her you want thrn35k back, then we can try
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    Bendrel He can reverse the payment on the loan.
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    Pageybear13 oh he absolutely has to pay taxes on the income. But he should make sure he files that he gifted her that too. He is gonna be mega f ed on taxes because i think you can only gift 18k a year or something like that. OUCH!!
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    Celesterainn NTA She's showing u her true colors, and it's not pretty. She's straight up trying to use u as a personal ATM. U did a super nice thing paying off her loans, and she repays u by demanding more? Nah. That's a
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    huge red flag. And the fact she gave u an ultimatum? That's manipulative af. U dodged a bullet, trust me. Her fam can think whatever they want, but they're just as entitled as she is. Block her number and move on, u deserve better.
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    Blue-Fish-Guy This is why you never ask ChatGPT about numbers. The robot can't count. If you paid the other one, all what would be left would be $3000 which is NOT plenty.
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    Bitter-Basket The big mistake is paying ANY debt for a girlfriend. Much less her sister.
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    LifeRound2 You paid 35k to learn her whole family are gold diggers. Run away and don't look back. NTA.

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