Mother calls son cruel when he refuses to give inherited house to struggling brother, they debate about what their recently passed grandparents would have wanted: “Maybe they would have left you something if you had visited them once in a while”

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    AITAH for refusing to give my brother the house our grandparents left to me and telling him maybe he should have visited them once in a while?

    "Suck it up to help your brother"
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    My grandparents passed away a few years ago and left their house to me. It was not some random decision. I was basically their third child. I lived with them during college, helped them with everything in their later years, and we were incredibly close. My brother, on the other hand, barely visited. I think he saw them twice in the last five years of their lives.
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    They noticed and they were not happy about it.
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    Now my brother and his wife are struggling financially. They have two kids, rent a tiny apartment, and suddenly he is very interested in our grandparents' house. He sat me down and said that since I do not really need the house, I should give it to him so his family can have a home.
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    I told him no. He got mad and said I was being selfish because I do not have kids and I would not understand. Then he got our mom involved. She called me and gave me the whole "family comes first" speech and said I should at least sell it to him for a family discount.
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    I told them both no. If I ever sell, it will be for market price. My brother lost it and said our grandparents would have wanted the house to go to the person who needs it most. That is when I snapped and told him maybe they would have left him something if he had bothered to visit them once in a while.
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    Now he is furious, my mom is saying I was cruel, and the rest of the family is split. Half think I am right and the other half think I should s k it up and help my brother. I feel like he is the one prioritizing his problems over my boundaries, but now everyone is making me second-guess myself. AITAH?
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    Federal-Wolverine-... • 12h ago NTA. Who cares what anyone else thinks. Your grandparents left the house to you, period. Tell anyone who says "family comes first" that they are so generous to contribute to his finances to make his living situation more to their liking.
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    And again, WHO CARES WHAT ANYONE BESIDES YOUR GRANDPARENTS THINKS. They made their wishes perfectly clear. You would be an ah le to disregard their final wishes.
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    Mothra Didlt 12h ago NTA. What's interesting is the number of times stories similar to this get posted. For the ones that aren't Al, I'm always perplexed why they feel entitled to anything.
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    Abject_Staff_2813 • 12h ago Change the locks on the house and upgrade the security cameras some people are loco!
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    slyest fox 12h ago • NTA. They wouldn't have wanted it to go to the person that needs it most because that's not who they left it to. They left it to you intentionally. Actions have consequences.
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    Ok_Play2364 • 11h ago "Struggling financially"? How does he plan on paying property taxes, home owner insurance and utilities for an entire house? The city would end up seizing it for nonpayment of taxes and then he's back where he is
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    now AND you basically have nothing. Tell mom to give him HER house
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    imf4rds • 12h ago NTA. If they wanted him to have it he would have gotten it. Anyone that says anything to you, tell them to pool their money and purchase a home for him and his family.
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    Inner-Confidence99 • 12h ago Have locks changed immediately to grandparents house. Put up security cameras all over inside and out. This way if they try any you have proof of what they did.
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    Ok_Childhood_9774 • 12h ago NTA. Honor your grandparents' wishes. If your parents feel so strongly, they are welcome to subsidize a house for your brother.
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    Old-Meal2640 • 12h ago NTA, whatever you do, don't let them move into that house, even as renters. They may start squatting and you'll have a bigger problem on your hands. The house was left to you for a reason, you're just honouring your grandparents wishes.
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    FordWarrier . 12h ago NTA Leaving you the house was what your grandparents chose to do. Honor their wishes.
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    You gave your grandparents a gift. The gift of your time. Your brother chose not to. Stand your ground.
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    plantprinses 12h ago Don't let them make you second-guess yourself. The house was left to you and you only. It's yours to do with whatever you want. Your grandparents had the measure of your brother: that is why they left him nothing.
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    How does your brother know what your grandparents would have wanted if he rarely visited them? Is he a psychic? You are not responsible for solving your brother's financial struggles. As for your mother, if 'family is family', how come your brother never visited his grandparents? Apparently
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    'family is family' only applies to you and not to him: it's an argument they trot out because they want to force you into doing something you shouldn't do. Respect the last will and testament of you grandparents. If anyone is ever deserving of an inheritance, it's you. The rest
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    are mere vultures preying on your -- grandparents. M
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    INHERITANCE

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