Black sheep middle child refuses to share her lottery winnings with her family after they plan family vacation without her, they call her a brat: “Share the wealth”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Apr 7, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Being the middle child is never easy. At least when you're the eldest, though you have a harder time getting leniency, niceties, or new gifts, at least you're noticed. The stereotypes about children's positions growing up tend to be pretty true. When you're the first born, you probably knock heads with one of the parents, you have the most pressure put on you, you probably have to do the most chores, and you have the most consequences for your actions. The youngest gets to do whatever they want essentially, they have no consequences, and they get all the clothes, shoes, and technology hammy downs from their older siblings. The middle child on the other hand…is usually quite forgotten. 

That's exactly what happens in the story below. The protagonist is the middle child and black sheep of the family, claiming she has golden child siblings. It goes so far that the family plans an entire family vacation and excludes her on purpose! Then when she comes into a large sum from the lottery, they expect her to give them a portion. Read the full story below for all the juicy details. 

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    AITA for refusing to give my lottery winnings to my family after they excluded me from a family trip?

    "This is family money"
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    1 (28F) come from a family of five -my parents, my two siblings (30M, 25F), and me. Growing up, I was always the "black sheep." My siblings were the golden children, and while I wasn't outright ignored, I definitely got the short end of the stick.
    via u/TooGiftid
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    A few months ago, my family planned a big overseas trip. I found out through my sister's Instagram posts, not from them directly. When I asked why I wasn't included, my mom said, "We didn't think you'd want to come, and besides, we're tight on budget." It hurt, but I let it go.
    via u/TooGiftid
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    Fast forward to a month ago: I bought a lottery ticket on a whim and ended up winning a life- changing amount-over $2 million. I decided to use the money wisely: paid off debts, invested, and set aside some for fun. I didn't tell my family right away because I didn't want them to treat me differently.
    via u/TooGiftid
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    Well, word got out after I bought a new car, and now they're furious I didn't offer to "share the wealth." My mom said it's selfish to keep all that money to myself when they're struggling (news to me, given the vacation). My sister hinted that I should pay for her student loans, and my brother outright asked me to buy him a house.
    via u/TooGiftid
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    I calmly explained that I wasn't obligated to share just because we're related, especially given how they've treated me in the past. I mentioned the trip as an example of how I've been excluded. My dad said, "That was different; this is family money."
    via u/TooGiftid

  • It's never fun to be the middle child, or the black sheep of the family. But to be both must be so much pressure. How do you enjoy the world or crate a successful life when you don't have the love and support from family? There's no reason this woman should share her lottery with her neglectful family. 

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    Now they're all calling me an ungrateful brat and saying I'm ruining the family dynamic. AITA for standing my ground and not giving them any money?
    via u/TooGiftid
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    Fearless-Fennel4... NTA this is not "family money" it's your money. I'd suggest cutting them off they'll probably just keep harassing you for money. They're just here to use you.
    via u/Fearless-Fennel4929
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    KxyPresident NTA. You won the money it's yours to do with as you please. Full stop. Even without the mistreatment they aren't entitled to your winnings
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    Roger PenroseSm... Don't give them one red cent. In fact, I'd get a solid will and trust set up so that in case anything happens to you, they don't get sh : either. If you don't have next of kin or family who actually treats you well, then give it
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    to a charity of your choice and with a locked down trust there is no way they can fight it in the worst case scenario. NTA
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    1 [11] [211 Board A '] [11. [21] [31] [41] Mark here to en ST [14] [24] [25] 4] [35] [3 [45] First Draw: LOTTERY [1] [2] [3] [12] [13] [ [23 18/01/2022 [7] [8] [9] [10] [16] [17] [18] [19] [20] [25] [26] [27] [28] [29] [30] [35] [36] [37] [38] [39] [40] 5] [46] [47] [48] [49] [ ] $1 VOID US 5 [1] [2] [11] [12] [21] [22] [31] [32] [ [41] [42] [4. 123-456-00012-347 06 07 12 29 33 QP 10 ERY WED JAN18 22 123458 987656 123-456-00012-347 B $2.00 6] [7] [8] [9] [10] [17] [18] [19] [27] [28] Boa PLAY AN
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    [deleted] It's not family money, it's your money. You don't owe a single one of them anything
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    Rough-Medicine... "That was different, this is family money" DDD J hilarious!!! NTA Screw them!!!
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    [deleted] Don't. Give. Them. A. Dime. If later, you want to help with specific things, do so, but YOU pay for them. Never hand over a check, never transfer into their accounts.
    via Reddit
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    Ride herd HARD on where it goes and it comes from YOU, never them, to whatever you're paying for.
    via Reddit
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    That is, if you decide to do that at all. You're under no obligation to these lampreys who just wrote you off without even an apology when it suited their purposes. Great thing is, you don't ever have to see any of them again if you don't want to. They stay nasty, walk.
    via Reddit
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    [deleted] NTA. 'Dear family, i find it sad that you can pick and choose when I am your family and when I am not. It seems I am only family when it suits you for me to be family, when it doesn't cost
    via Reddit
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    you anything or when you can get something out of me. You didn't invite me on the trip, it wasn't even a hey we can't afford to take you but if you can pay your way please come. It was a complete exclusion. Now I have money I am supposed to just pretend you don't.
    via Reddit
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    repeatedly hurt me and give you my money. No it doesn't work like that. I'll tell you what. You don't have to pay anything for me again and you can pretend you only have two children. I will not give you anymore and likewise pretend I don't have a family.'
    via Reddit

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