‘I'm just tired of everything falling on me’: Mother of 6, 4, and 1-year-old children ‘blows up’ on husband after he fails to get their child to overnight camp on time

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Apr 8, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

One of the biggest rewards in life is knowing you gave your children exactly what they needed to have a happy, healthy childhood. All moms go through periods of emotional turmoil because, let's face it: Being a mom isn't a walk in the park.

Despite this, mothers make things work because that's what parenting is all about: sacrifice (but not to the point of depletion). That's why it's helpful if you have a spouse or partner by your side, helping you make ends meet when your ends feel a bit frayed. Most of the time, we pair up with a person who can help us in the exact ways we need. Other times, well, we end up marrying someone who can barely parent at all.

The woman in this next story, who is a mother of three young children, calls out her husband after he can't even manage to do the bare minimum and get their son to overnight camp on time. The woman was relying on her husband to make ends meet this time because she will be away for a relative's baby shower, but he can't manage to do it. He then tries to excuse himself, which rightfully sets her off. Scroll below to see how the situation unfolds.

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  • The couple has been married for eight years, but apparently, relationship age doesn't always mean increased maturity and responsibility. Why is it always on the mothers to make things work? You'll see this type of dynamic in many marriages: A parent checks out of their normal parenting duties because they assume the other parent has it under control. Newsflash: This is not parenting; it's child and spousal neglect. Maybe not to a dangerous degree, but we all know how slippery of a slope parenting can be…

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  • "AITA for blowing up at my husband after being late for son's camp?"

    I (34F) have been married to my husband (37M) for 8 years and have 3 children (6,4, and 1). I had a cousins baby shower on the same weekend my son was going to an overnight camp. I knew it
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  • would be hard on my husband to get him to the camp with the three children so I arranged childcare for the youngest. I also got everything packed and put
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  • out for him for the camp. I left at 10am and the kids had ball hockey at 11:30-12:30 and then had to be at the camp for 6:30. The rest of the day he had nothing else to do. I asked him to
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  • give the kids a bath after ball hockey because they got muddy. At 3:30 I left the baby shower and let him know I would be back at 5:20 and to meet me at my parents at that time (closer to the
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  • camp location). At 5:15 I text him and he said the kids were still getting dressed so I instead had to get my mom to drive me back to the house. At this point it's already after 5:30 and the kids
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  • are just getting outside with soaking wet hair. He said he put the kids in the bath a long time ago but "couldn't" get them out. I exploded on him because how could he not get them out as the
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  • parent? On the way there, already late, I ask where his scout necker is (which was a requirement for identification) and he says he forgot it even though I set it out with all the stuff he was
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  • supposed to wear. He says he didn't know he wore one even though he takes him to scouts every week. Then we get there and he also forgot to bring my son's jacket or even a sweater
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  • (we are in Ontario and it's still cold here). I was so upset I didn't talk to him the whole way home. He says I'm an a hole for exploding on him and ruining our night. He says he does way more
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  • than most fathers. I am just sick and tired of having to manage everything. Planning and packing every single thing and he is still late and things get forgotten. I
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  • asked what he did all day and he said he "cleaned" and "tried to install a light in my sons room" but the light is sitting in the exact same spot as when I left and the
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  • house was a total mess when I got home so I'm not sure what he did that whole time. I'm just tired of everything falling on me and still things like this happening. So Reddit, AITA?
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  • Temporary_Orchid2102 NTA- "he does more than most fathers.." that alone makes my bl Id boil... not only you have to leave everything ready and tell him what to do, he still managed to screw up. I would understand if it was the first time or something, but after 8 years... common...
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  • cdaffy NTA - it's frustrating feeling like you have to do everything yourself. As an older version of you, I would offer the following advice. 1 understand that this is who you are, regardless of what others are doing. Understand he is not this way. Understanding these things will help with the frustration.
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  • 2 do less for them. Allow failure and imperfections. If you always take care of everything, they will never learn, and they need to learn. 3 take time for yourself Mama. The world keeps turning even if we aren't spinning it.
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  • RadioSupply NTA. He doesn't do more than most fathers. Most fathers would have managed to pack everything that was already laid out, and would put coats on their kids in an Ontario winter. This is weaponized incompetence. You made it so easy the kids could have done better without him there.
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  • BunchSweet3322 NTA. He's a father, he has responsibilities. You'd done so much prep work for him and he couldn't even sort the bare minimum.
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