'I've always felt like an outsider': Woman refuses to spend $4000 on father-in-law's 60th birthday trip since they always ignore her, husband is torn over her decision

Using your vacation days on something you don't want to go to is definitely not how you want to live your life. At least it's not how most of us want to spend our lives. We probably want to be choosy about who gets our time and who gets our money, seeing as there's not an infinite amount of it to go around. You most likely have places you'd like to visit, friends you'd like to see, and stuff you'd like to buy, so spending time and money on someone else's vacation is not at the top of your list.

It's hard to be around people who you don't get along with. It can take it out of you, mentally and emotionally. You might bend over backward trying to be their friend and then end up wishing you hadn't. It's better to know to choose your battles and let some things go.

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That's what one woman tried to do when her not-so-nice in-laws invited her on a trip. She considered just going in order to smooth things along but thought better of it when she considered the cost (emotional and financial). Her husband was torn, though, about her decision. Read on for the details and see what happens.
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AITA for refusing to go on a week-long vacation with my husband's family for his dad's 60th birthday?

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