Husband asks wife and teen daughter to turn off music from a concert he insisted he join them for despite mom planning a girls night: 'So we ride home in silence'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Apr 15, 2025 10:00 PM EDT

Everyone is entitled to their own music taste. This doesn't mean that you have to like it, but you must respect it. Some people want to spend their days listening to Imagine Dragons. While I can't quite fathom this reality, I don't go around trying to stop their fans from buying their records. Music is personal-- it helps shape our sense of self, gets us through tough moments, and helps us reflect on our own lives. I wouldn't expect anyone else to be into exactly the same kind of music as me, because only I have lived a life that has led me to like the kind of music I do. 

However, if I was sharing my music with someone, I would hope they would be respectful. I would hope that they know that it matters, and treat it accordingly. This is the bare minimum expectation, but not everyone always abides by it. 

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    AITA for listening to music in the car my husband doesn't like after a concert?

    This weekend, my teen daughter and I went to see Megan Moroney. My husband wanted to come along even though I told him it could be just a girls night with my daughter and I. He insisted on going because he didn't want us to be out late by ourselves, even though he does not care for Megan's music.
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  • Like the man in this story, who instead of respecting his daughter and wife, chose to stomp all over their sense of taste. Even worse, he did so in a setting where he invited himself along to their excursion. So when his wife was left with hurt feelings, she took to the internet for advice. 

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    So my daughter and I enjoy the concert so much! She was so excited she almost cried from pure joy. Everything was great, concert ended, we go to our vehicle.
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    My daughter and I are still having a good time, kind of on a post- concert high. I turn one of Megan moroney's songs on and we start singing along. My husband. abruptly turns it off. At first I thought, ok maybe he just wants some peace as he drives but he says "turn it on something else!" I said "why, we were listening to
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    that?" He said "well I don't want to" or someone like that and starts complaining about how awful megan moroney is and how her songs are all man-bashing, etc. I said "whoa buddy we told you that it could just be a girls night like you insisted on coming!" So we ride home in silence and my daughter is really disappointing. One of our favorite things to do is turn the music on and sing along in the car.
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    AITA for wanting to listen to my music after a concert he didn't even want to be at?
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    Commenters quickly came to the mom and daughter's defense.

    Thedollysmama • 16h ago . Why in the world are you, as a grown-a adult, not allowed out after dark?
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    Exilicauda 13h ago • He could just have picked them up if it was the area he had a problem with Either way him choosing to do something he doesn't like and then getting pissy about it is kinda the crux of the issue imo
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    zanahorias22 • 15h ago NTA. I think it's time we put that man on the moon.
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    CocoBlushTinker 14h ago • Yep, OP and her daughter were just enjoying a wholesome moment after a concert, and he couldn't even let them have that. If someone crashes your night, they don't get to hijack the vibe too. Let the girlies vibe in peace.
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    . Arbor_Arabicae 15h ago NTA. First of all, you should be "allowed" to be out alone at night. Second, if he does insist on coming along, he should stay in his lane and let you have your fun time. He sounds like a complete buzzkill.
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    Ruth Bourbon 15h ago NTA but your husband sure is. That sounds really controlling and him not wanting you to have a girls' night out is concerning. Dad is sending a very bad message to his daughter, that her taste doesn't matter.
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    Judging YourBeha... . 15h ago NTA. Tell him you don't want your daughter growing up and thinking it's okay for a man to treat her the way her father treats her mother.
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    A... • • 16h ago Edited 15h ago NTA your husband seems like he needs some more joy in his life, if my dad did that after my mum took me to a concert i'd be so annoyed with him. You were both enjoying the post concert vibes and he shut it down because what? He's mad you had fun? And don't get me
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    started on the "man bashing" comment and how bad she is. Get over it. Yeah you turned all the music off after and that's petty but frankly I would've done the same after being shamed for having fun. I hope you and your daughter
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    had fun and can still enjoy this memory. Going to gigs. with my mum and singing to music and the her in the car are some of my favourite memories and I hope you and your daughter get to do that forever
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    Dear Equivalent_... 16h ago NTA. Your husband sounds like a big one though.
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    palmtreestatic • 15h ago NTA I myself and most of my friends will listen to the same band/artist we just saw on the way home. It's a normal. In this situation your husband is the problem.
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    BrinaGu3 15h ago NTA - I would be ped. You are a grown woman, capable of being out after dark and supervising your daughter. Way to be controlling and throw a wet blanket onto a fun night.
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    . No_Focus8949 15h ago NTA You are building memories. with your daughter, you had fun, you enjoyed, don't let it be taken by your husband. What a toxic guy! I'm pretty sure you can read all the red flags, don't let it go further.
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    RaceAF72 • 15h ago NTA. I get the impulse to want to tag along, but he should have anticipated that this would be a night for the two of you. He is the driver and chaperone if he wants to aspire to that protector role. I can sympathize with being immersed in something you don't enjoy for the sake of others you care about, but k it up. you gotta s He's the a h le.
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    sithmaster297 • 15h ago NTA. He could've said he was tired or had a headache because of how loud the concert was but no, he insulted your and your daughters favorite singer and what's worse is he didn't even have to come in the first place. He insisted on going to what was supposed to be a girls night and made the whole car ride about himself with the "woe is me" act.
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    EnvironmentalGro... • 15h ago NTA he spoiled the mood. He could have looked up the music beforehand too to understand what it sounded like. If he has a problem with the message of the music he could have had that conversation with you in private and not turned a happy memory into a sad one all about himself.
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    Cheap_Ad1098 15h ago NTA, you are enjoying the night with your daughter at a concert you enjoyed with her. He is the ahole though. Ask him if people really live all those kids song they sing to their kids, or so it to make the kids happy.
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    PonderWholAm 15h ago • NTA - your husband is a fun sucker. This is what your daughter will remember from this event. Not the fun she had with Mom but the the judgement and anger from her Dad. Is this the only one off or is he always like this?
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