27-year-old man leaves his gabby girlfriend stranded at wedding after she tells the bride he used to be in love with her in college: "I thought she deserved to know the history"

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    AITAH for leaving my girlfriend at a wedding after she told the bride I used to have a crush on her?

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    I (27M) was invited to a friend's wedding last weekend, not someone I talk to every day, but we were close back in college and stayed in touch. The bride and I had a flirty friendship back in the day.
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    Nothing ever happened but I did used to have a bit of a crush on her. Early in my relationship with my girlfriend (26F), I mentioned that in passing, just one of those "haha yeah, college was messy" conversations.
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    The wedding itself was great. My girlfriend and I got dressed up, had a couple drinks, danced a little. At some point I noticed her and the bride talking by the bar. They were smiling, laughing....nothing seemed off. Up until the bride started acting really weird around me. Like distant, uncomfortable.
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    Later, one of the bridesmaids (who I also know) pulls me aside and goes, "Hey, just so you know, your girlfriend told the bride you used to be in love with her, and that she should 'watch herself tonight.""
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    I honestly didn't know what to say. I confronted my girlfriend about it, and she didn't deny it. She said, "I didn't want to cause drama, but I thought she
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    deserved to know the history." I told her there was no history, and even if there had been, saying something like that at someone else's wedding was completely out of line.
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    She got SUPER defensive. Said I was blowing it out of proportion and caring more about the bride's feelings than hers. I told her I was embarrassed, hurt, and honestly kind of shocked by how casually she'd tried to stir the pot at someone else's wedding.
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    She ended up dismissing everything I said, told me to get over it and stop making a scene. So I said f ☐☐ and left. I got in the car and drove home without her. I figured she'd find a way back with one of her friends (she knew several people
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    there). She eventually did, but now she's saying I "abandoned" her, and a couple of her friends are messaging me saying I humiliated her and I'm an awful person for just leaving without her.
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    I don't feel like I was wrong to walk away but I was just super upset and I'm starting to think the way I handled it was a bit over the top. AITAH?
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    Reasonable_Low_4120 NTA. Completely inappropriate. You had a crush you weren't "in love." Your girlfriend completely blew it out of proportion and made the situation uncomfortable for both you, the bride, and her husband. Your girlfriend is an Ahle
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    CasualRazzle Dazzle This is the worst part of it. First of all, "She deserves to know your history," is a perplexing take on this, not only because OP and the bride HAD no history beyond friendship, but also because if we lived in a world where we were
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    morally required to disclose all of our personal feelings and secrets, it would be shambolic and humanity would be even more neurotic and paranoid than it already is. So JUST the fact that she thought she should tell this woman someone's personal secret is beyond inappropriate.
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    But then to do it at this woman's wedding reception takes it from inappropriate to malicious. This is quite possibly the only wedding the bride and groom will ever have, and remembering the
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    moment you both agree to make a life together, whether that's with a wedding or not, should be one of your happiest memories. OP's gf didn't just spill OP's deepest inner thoughts (that he felt safe
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    sharing with this gf, no less), but she used the spillage to puke all over the bride and groom's celebration of love. To each other. I'd be VERY hard to convince that this choice wasn't at least malicious. somewhat
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    Kiltwarrior_87 And everyone is glazing over the fact that OP's girlfriend said to "watch herself" because of the crush. Why frame it like that? Insinuating OP might try some creep sh.
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    Gefun123 Agreed. She weaponized OP's past to create drama during someone else's special day.
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    NTA Candyland Canada I'll bet $5000 that any one of the friends who criticized you would have lost their minds had this happened at their own wedding.
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    HollisWhitten NTA she stirred up drama at someone else's wedding over a de d college crush, then played the victim when you called it out. That's not love, that's insecurity with a side of immaturity. I don't think you abandoned her, you just removed yourself from a mess she made.
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    [deleted] NTA. You shared something vulnerable in trust, and she weaponized it to create unnecessary drama at someone else's wedding that's incredibly disrespectful to everyone involved. Walking away to avoid a scene was mature. You didn't abandon her, you set a boundary after being humiliated. Her reaction says a lot.
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    Havanesemom43 He said he had a bit of a crush on her. GF is a bit of a drama queen, crush doesn't equal IN LOVE. Lose her.
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    Ok-Structure6795 My husband and I just attended a wedding where the groom and I used to have a crush on each other. No drama, and the couple is beautiful. GF is psycho.
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    No_Statistician_3846 Drop her off at the edge of town. She'll either feed a family or start acting like a normal member of society.
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    Which-Month-3907 NTA. I hope she is humiliated. She got insecure and jealous at your friend's wedding. Instead of talking to you about her feelings, she humiliated you and hurt your friendship with the bride. This girl deserves to be an ex.

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