26-year-old woman stops 25-year-old boyfriend mid-proposal after he ignores her warning not to propose at their friends' wedding: “Let them have their moment”

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    AITA For Stopping My Boyfriend's Proposal at our Best Friend's Wedding?

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    I (F26) and my boyfriend (M25) attended a mutual friend's wedding. They're very close friends to us and brought my boyfriend and I together. My boyfriend and I are coming up on our 3 year
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    anniversary and things were getting pretty serious. Enough so that I very much wanted to marry him. He's sweet, chatty, typically considerate and empathetic. He's the person who I thought was the first to show me what a truly healthy and
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    compassionate relationship was like. He's very serious about us too. We've had long talks about marriage and it seemed we were in agreement with no formal declaration. We had even gotten as far as looking at rings. So the chance of a proposal was more of a "when" not "if."
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    A few weeks before the wedding, us and the engaged couple at the time were hanging out. The topic of weddings was very prevalent and my boyfriend had cracked a joke about proposing at our
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    friend's wedding. The to-be-groom joked back and said "that'd be funny as h_I." This was followed by me and the to-be-bride both shutting it down; trying. to be serious but also not thinking he was serious. He was.
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    During the reception, everyone had made their speeches and people were getting their food. While our table was waiting, my boyfriend went up to the DJ, and after, they played my boyfriend and I's favorite song to scream sing in the car together -
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    Story of my Life by One Direction. I look at him, smiling and he's looking around. All of a sudden he grabs a fork, stands up and begins clanging on a glass. Immediately the whole dining room looks over.
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    I stand up and whisper the words "not. Right. Now." His face drops and he yells a mix of "I'm sorry, I was just joking." After he sat back down I verbatim said "let them have their moment, let's make this our
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    own." He wouldn't even look at me. When it was time to get our food he immediately goes toward the exit. I follow and tried to catch up to him but couldn't find him. I text him twice and call him a couple times, but got no answer, so I went back to the reception.
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    After not hearing from him for about an hour and a half or so, he returns, sits down, and doesn't even look at me. The rest of the night was terrible. He looked like his dog just d d and I'm trying to make
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    the best out of the night, but felt like I was just in his shadow. I was prepping for a breakdown or maybe a fight in the car, but the only thing he said was "I don't want to talk about it right now." And the drive was just quiet and awkward.
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    He sent me a long text about how hard it was to get the ring, how he felt rejected by his closest person and that I embarrassed him.
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    I tried to explain that it's not that I didn't want to marry him. It was our best friend's wedding and they deserve their moment. That we should create our own and not piggyback off theirs. He got offended and said that if I wanted to marry him, I wouldn't have stopped his proposal in front of everybody.
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    This situation perplexes me. I've never seen the appeal of proposing at someone else's wedding and tried to handle the situation in a way that I felt was calm and chill. But he's very adamant that I ruined the proposal, made him look like an a_h_le, and thus im the ah le. Am I missing something? Should I admit I was wrong and have just let his proposal go at our friend's wedding?
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    NTA Lunalinfortune He is not as empathetic as you think
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    External_Expert_2069 Correct! This dude is so so selfish. He made everything about him at someone else's wedding. Gross
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    Bibiloafmonster Agreed!! The bride herself said no and he still did it. Then he has the nerve to be upset with OP. He ruined his own proposal by being unimaginative
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    AdAccomplished6870 Proposing at someone else's wedding is incredibly r de. You saved him from embarrassing himself. If he can't be an adult about this and keeps sulking, you have some thinking to do. That he thought it was allright to do in the first place is a huge red flag
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    Malphas43 ESPECIALLY after she was already clear that it was not the type of proposal she wanted. He was making the entire situation about him, when it should be about them as a couple
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    hellbabe222 Who wants to be proposed to in front of a room full of other people's friends and families?!
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    No_Glove_1575 NTA. The bride to be is one of your best friends and was NOT down with your man proposing at her wedding. Who cares if the groom thinks it would be "funny"...this is a 2 yes type situation from the married couple.
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    External_Expert_2069 The would completely give me the ick. This was so SO selfish of him. The bride kindly shut him down. He did it anyway. You shut it down as best as you could because he did something so incredibly inappropriate. Then he ruined the night and made it about him. I really hope this is fake because he is awful

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