Woman criticizes future sister-in-law’s parenting after babysitting for her nephew, she’s uninvited to the wedding as a result: “You have no right to question her parenting”

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    AITA for refusing to speak to my brother's fiancée after revealing her "parenting methods"?

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    My brother Tom (34M) recently got engaged to Melissa (32F), who has a 6-year-old son, Dylan (chaged the names). Last weekend, I (29F) was babysitting Dylan while they went out for dinner. Dylan was playing with some toys when he accidentally broke a glass figurine. He
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    immediately started crying and said, "Please don't tell my mom! She'll give me the quiet time!" | asked what "quiet time" meant, and Dylan explained that when he misbehaves, Melissa makes him kneel facing a wall for an hour, sometimes longer if he cries or moves. If he speaks, she adds more time. This shocked me, but I
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    kept calm and told him accidents happen. When Tom and Melissa returned, I told Tom privately what Dylan had shared. Tom. defended her, saying I don't understand parenting and that Dylan is "dramatic." He claimed it's just a "time-out" and I'm overreacting. I later confronted Melissa directly, telling her I
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    thought her "quiet time" punishment was excessive and potentially ab ive. She completely flipped out, saying I had no right to question her parenting when I don't have kids. She accused me of trying to sabotage their relationship and twisting a child's words. Now my entire family is divided. My
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    parents think I should apologize for "overstepping," while my sister agrees with me that the punishment sounds problematic. Tom is demanding I apologize to Melissa before their wedding. I refuse to apologize for speaking up about something that seems wrong to me. Making a child kneel silently for extended periods
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    doesn't seem like appropriate discipline. But now I'm uninvited from their wedding and causing family drama. AITA for refusing to let this go and apologize?
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    Honest_Weird_9715 An hour on his knees?!?! As a mom myself I am horrified. Also he accidentally broke something and started crying because he was scared of his mom. So no overreaction their.
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    Giving children a time out okay but not for an hour and not on his knees for god !
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    Naay 23h ago NTA but I'm worried about how Melissa will punish Dylan for opening up to you
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    In... Don't go to the wedding, and tell everyone that asks the reason why.
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    MyFriendsCallMeE... i dont get the whole "you dont get to judge because you dont have kids" fk i know i cant deal with kids so i dont have them That gives me a pretty keen perspective when i see you
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    abusing your kids and think you're the monster i didnt want to become. NTA - sounds and looks like ab e to me.
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    BodaciousBonnie Time out is like 5-10 mins on a step then talking out the problem. Not an hour facing the wall in knees.
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    Mother Search3350 • 23h ago Doing that to a 6 year old child is abive AF.
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    I would be calling Child services and requesting a wellness check on that little boy Both her and your brother need to have mandatory Parenting classes and some type of counseling for that child
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    I would also be telling his father that he is being abused by his mother and your AH brother who sees nothing wrong with it Where's Dylans father in all this? NTAH
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    Rana Misteria NTA. My mom made me do this exact same thing and she was abive in almost every other way one can imagine. Make sure your nephew knows you're a safe person and he can talk to you about anything because he might need your help in the future.
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    SykeoTheFox • 21h ago If a child is crying, terrified, begging you not to tell their mom, that's a huge red flag.
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    Zealousideal_Yak_36 NTA. You saw something wrong, and spoke up about it. Those giving you cr pare the A, and your brother and his fiancée are as well. Making a child kneel for an hour is ridiculous and accomplishes nothing.
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    Seems like a religious fh to me but that's a discussion for another day.

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