'Not now! Stand up': Woman gives her her man-child boyfriend of 2 years an ultimatum after he rudely steals his sister's spotlight at her wedding to publicly propose

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Jesse Kessenheimer • Writer and Editor
May 14, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

This man stole his sister's thunder at her wedding by attempting a public proposal during the reception, driving a wedge between himself and his dearly beloved.

Wedding proposals are so 2010. Stuck in the bygone Tumblr era of sneaker-wearing, mustache-on-the-finger brides and grooms, the fad of proposing during Bruno Mars hit song "Marry You" during your bestie's reception is over. Stealing the spotlight at another person's wedding to make it all about yourself is tacky in itself, but when this woman realized her boyfriend of 2 years was about to make an irrevocable mistake, she stopped him in his tracks. However, saving him from his own entitled actions proved to bring out his worst as he showed his true colors in the fallout.

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  • He lied, saying that he'd asked his sister for permission, which the girlfriend confirmed was totally untrue. Sticking to girl-code and protecting the peace at her boyfriend's sister's wedding cost her more than her relationship, but potentially saved her from a lifetime of grief. Keep scrolling to see how this woman stood up for what she believed in, backing up the sister-in-law who would never come to fruition. 

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  • "AITA for breaking up with my boyfriend of 2 years after he proposed at his sisters wedding?"

    I (27 f) and my boyfriend "Jake" (30 m) were at his sisters wedding last weekend. everything was going well until he tried to propose during the reception. He got down on one knee and held a ring box, I
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  • said "Not now stand up". I stopped him because if someone proposed at my wedding I would be p ed and I didn't want to make a scene. He looked like I had kicked a dog and walked off. I felt really bad and
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  • tried to talk to him. He shut me down and walked away again. I called him on monday. He didn't answer, I thought he was just busy playing world of warcraft or something and waited. I tried again
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  • the next day and he didn't answer. At this point I know he's ignoring me, so I called his mum and asked if he was okay. She said she didn't know and asked me if something happened. I told her what
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  • happened at his sisters wedding and she was ped at him. He texted me on wednesday and told me he'd gotten permission from his sister to propose. He
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  • apparently had talked with his sister before the wedding and she said he could propose. I called his sister and asked about it and she said something like
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  • "what the f..... he never asked me". I told her that I rejected his proposal, and that I'm gonna talk to him about it. It's now friday and he hasn't answered my calls or texts. Now I'm ped and I give
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  • him an ultimatum, I know ultimatums aren't healthy but it was a last resort to get him to stop ignoring me. I texted him "I know you didn't talk to your sister. If you don't respond and talk to me we're
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  • breaking up". He called me right away and apologized for lying and for ignoring me for a full week. He came over and we had a long conversation.
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  • He was offended that I gave him an ultimatum. I understand it was wrong of me but a week of almost no talking is too long. I told him I needed space and asked him to leave. He left and I thought things
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  • over. I decided to break up because of the lying and ignoring me for almost a week. He and his dad are angry at me for breaking up with him over this, but lying is a dealbreaker for me.
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  • So am I the a h le for breaking up with my boyfriend of 2 years over him proposing at a wedding and lying about it?
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  • Edit: He just texted me calling me ab and blocked me on everything lol. I dodged a bullet I guess
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  • ForeignAdagio That's not an ultimatum that's a consequence of his actions if you don't speak to me there's no point in being together, you're proving you don't care enough to work it out so there's no point in continuing. NTA and good for you not getting caught up in the moment and thinking about his sister
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  • LA-forthewin. You can break up for any reason or none at all. He has shown a major character flaw. You did what you had to do
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  • CaptainRaj ⚫ "Jake" sounds more like a 13 year old than 30. You got lucky, me thinks.
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  • Leavelnteresting3290 NTA - I think you are fantastic for stopping the proposal. Anyone who proposes at someone else's wedding is an AH.
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  • isabgol_isabgol ⚫ Proud of you OP for dumping this man child! The entitlement and the audacity never ceases to surprise me from some of the partners. Imagine how selfish he is in real life if he was totally okay with stealing his sisters thunder and then acting all bt hurt and victim over it.
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  • Echo-Azure ⚫ Look, he tried to do something ride and thoughtless, and is now deeply hurt and angry, because you didn't want to be as ride and thoughtless as he was. That doesn't make him look like great husband material, OP.
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