“Focus on being a real man": Grandma smashes 7-year-old grandson's lego set to spite his dad, he bans her from their home until she apologises

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    AITA not letting my mother law come over after she destroyed my Millennium Falcon Lego set?

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    I (38M) live with my wife (37F) and my seven year old son. I work as an engineer and my wife is a senior supervisor at a law firm. I have always loved Legos since I was a kid, and sure, it's kind of childish but it makes me happy so I've kept it as a consistent hobby
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    throughout my adult life. In 2024 I spent months building the Millennium Falcon with my son. It's me and my son's pride and joy and I often show guests who come over. My wife doesn't really get the hype but doesn't mind either.
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    In early March my wife's parents came over for a week to spend time with us. As I usually do with guests, I asked them if they would like to see my Lego collection. They agreed, and I showed both her father and mother my Millennium Falcon. Her father
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    was amazed at the time it took to build my sizable collection, but her mother said that it was a waste of time and that I should focus on being a real man and move up the corporate ladder. I laughed it off because she's pretty old and I figured she just held
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    very old fashioned beliefs. We left the room and nobody really mentioned it for a few hours, but at dinner her mother said out of nowhere that I should give up on all this Lego "nonsense" and be a real man. We ignored this and moved on, but you could see in her expression that she was not happy.
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    Nobody said anything about it for the rest of their stay, and all seemed well the morning they left. They left at 3AM to catch a flight, and we waved them off. I went back to bed but the next morning awoke to find my Millennium Falcon smashed to pieces with a
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    note from my wife's mother calmly saying that this was for my own good so that I can be a real man and focus on what matters. It turns out she had quietly destroyed it in the night and left in the morning. Me and especially my son were very upset. I called her in
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    the morning but she refused to apologize. I said that until she apologized they would not be coming back again. My wife is not happy with my decision on this matter and honestly I'm starting to wonder if I overreacted. Did I go overboard or am I in the right?
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    Subspaceisgoodspace NTA. Hopefully you can rebuild it. If not send her a bill for a replacement. Lego is a healthy hobby that you enjoy quality time with your son doing. Your MIL is awful.
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    KayLeeey Totally agree she crossed a huge line he's not just protecting lego he's protecting a special bond with his son NTA at all.
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    NurseRobyn MIL is awful, and I think the wife is pretty terrible too for not having her husband's back. She should have shut down her mom right away as soon as mommy started with the disrespect. She also should have been the one to ban her from the home until she makes amends.
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    RobZagnut2 Actually, your wife is the AH in this situation. Instead of being 'not happy with my decision' she should have had your back and kicked her mom's a (verbally). You, "If my mom smashed up all your makeup, because she didn't like you wearing it, how would you feel?"
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    Loved AJackass Your wife should have told her mother (and father) that they have to replace the LEGO set.
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    Separate-Ad-3677 Right! She must secretly agree. Although he should not have unilaterally made this decision
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    UNLV 4Runner NTA. What kind of "Grandma" does that? I get it's mostly yours, but your son helped and had pride in it. She needs help, hopefully your wife will
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    understand your decision that an apology is necessary. TBH, I don't even think I could accept an apology for something like literally destroying my property because of a "you need to grow up" lesson.
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    Turbulent_Trip9398 Exactly. It wasn't just plastic bricks it was something he built with his kid. That kind of "lesson" is just cruel. Shes the one who needs to grow up.
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    Chewiesbro Plus it's a bonding thing with his lad, too few dads get to spend time with their kids, especially on shared interests.
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    oldncreaky2 And what kind of spouse doesn't protest along with her offended husband and son? I'm not an alarmist, but I'd keep an eye on the wife as well.
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    Huge-Shelter-3401 I'm disappointed in your wife. What her mom did was beyond ride and she should have been the first to go off on her. Your MIL overstepped big time. Your wife understepped big time.
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    Klutzy-Contest-1640 Respecting someone else's property is common decency. You and your son invested time and interest in a hobby that brings you joy. That is just as (if not more) important as increasing your earning potential. When your son is an adult he will retain memories of the time you spent together.
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    ReaderAz730 NTA When are you visiting her house? I wonder what's most important to her in her home? Too bad if it got damaged.
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    Large-Effective-4498 Plates with cats portraits, I bet.
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    hoboteaparty Not only was it an expensive set, but the dude built it with his son! That was a project that they bonded over and were proud of, so the sentimental value is even more important.
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    SoonerRed If your parents destroyed something worth nearly $1000 that belonged to your wife and refused to apologize and you blew it off... I wonder what your wife would think?
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    hoboteaparty Not only was it an expensive set, but the dude built it with his son! That was a project that they bonded over and were proud of, so the sentimental value is even more important.

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