“You’re too responsible sometimes”: 29-year-old man backs out of friend group vacation when they change plans last minute, they try to force him to ‘treat himself’

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You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Everyone knows the struggle and pain of a breakup, but a friend breakup? It can hurt just as much. When you're in a tuff with a friend to the point where you have to end the friendship is just as painful and traumatic as breaking up with a boyfriend or girlfriend. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a man who's in a spat with his friends over a vacation they all planned together. It was originally going to be cheap, local, and a cabin in the mountains. His friends have decided to upgrade to something more expensive, out of the state, and a beachside resort. Read the full story for all the juicy details. 

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    AITA for backing out of a group vacation after my friends changed the location to somewhere 3 times as expensive?

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    Me (29M) and my friend group of 5 years had been planning this trip for months. The original plan was a cabin weekend in the mountains about 3 hours from where we all live which was super reasonable at like $150/person for 3 nights plus food/drinks.
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  • If I were him I'd also probably ditch out of this. That's a huge price difference, and even besides the money aspect I would also take myself out out of annoyance. It's annoying that they changed from mountain cabin to a beach! Mountains are better and everyone knows it. 

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    Two weeks ago, three people in the group (out of seven total) suddenly decided we should "upgrade" to this beachfront resort in a different state that's somehow still available. Now the cost is jumping to $400+ per person just for
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    accommodations, not counting flights which weren't even part of the original plan. When I told the group I couldn't swing the new location and would have to back out, two of them got super weird about it. The thing is that I can afford even the second trip due to some savings that I've been able to save up, but this sudden change of plans is just stupid.
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    My closest friend in the group texted me privately saying he understands but thinks I should "treat myself" and that I'm being "too responsible sometimes." AITA here?
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    2cents0.s⚫ 17h ago "My closest friend texted me saying I should treat myself."
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    "Putting myself in unnecessary financial strain is not treating myself. Staying in the cabin could have been treating myself without also breaking the bank. Unless someone else is footing the difference in cost, I'm going to have to bow out."
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    It does not matter if you can technically afford it; 1) that's none of their business, and 2) it's never a wise idea to dip into savings unless you need to. And 3) who's to guarantee that there won't be more "surprise" expenses sprung on you at the last minute? NTA.
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    Independent-Win90... 17h ago ΝΤΑ The price jump would actually be more, I'm sure. Cabin in the mountains suggests kitchen facilities, cooking meals, maybe eating out a time or two. Hiking, exploring the area.
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    Resort? All meals at restaurants, paying for potential outings around the resort.
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    The dynamic and the costs changed dramatically. If I'm signed up for mountain time, I'm not in the mood for resort time, and vice versa.
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    repthe732⚫ 17h ago ΝΤΑ I've had friends also push me to treat myself more and until recently I always declined.
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    Now I'm the only one in the group who owns their own home even though until recently I earned less than most of the group
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    Open Equal_1515 • 18h ago NTA. you agreed to one trip not a full-on luxury detour with flights and triple the cost. just because you can afford something doesn't mean you should have to blow your savings on a trip you didn't.
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    sign up for. being financially responsible isn't a flaw.. it's smart. if they wanted to upgrade they should've checked in with everyone first not just made a group decision and guilt-tripped you for bowing out. you're not being difficult.. you're holding your ground
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    SockMaster9273 • 18h ago NTA You were treating yourself. You were treating yourself to a nice time with your friends in a cabin in the woods. I would have been ped if my friends.
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    did that to me. I would have used not so nice language to tell them I'm not doing that. That's a major price hike one needs to plan for.
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    SomeGuyInTheUK ⚫ 17h ago My closest friend in the group texted me privately saying he understands but thinks I should "treat myself" and that I'm being "too responsible sometimes."
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    LOL. Be as responsible as you want and feel like. Whether you can afford it is somewhat immaterial its about whether you want to spend that much.
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    I turned down a pretty expensive holiday with friends a few months back. Most of them are still going. I could easily afford it indeed I'm going on some other holidays
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    that cost more. I just don't want to spend that much on that particular holiday. It didn't seem like good VFM to me.
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    The difference is none of my friends were Is about it. They understood my reasoning and would do the same themselves on other vacations.
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