29-year-old sibling takes in unemployed 32-year-old brother and his 5 and 7-year-old children, only to kick them out after discovering their parents give him 'allowance' that he uses for video games: ‘You have 30 days to move out’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
May 26, 2025 9:00 AM EDT

Even if you love your siblings dearly, agreeing to something as intense as them moving in with you is really brave (that is one way to put it). One must truly love their family if they agree to house, feed, and fund them for an indefinite amount of time, and without asking for anything in return. Even though it will probably take a toll, when family shows up for their members and helps them out when they are in need, that is quite beautiful, if you ask us.

The real question is, how long can that assistance actually last?

Imagine you have a sibling who is not only a divorced single parent, but is also unemployed and has nowhere to live. You might consider suggesting they move in with you, but if you do that, you must understand that this arrangement will probably last a whole lot longer than you intended. They can grow comfortable with being taken care of by you, and asking them to leave will not be well-received.

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  • The sibling in the story below surely regrets taking in their brother and his kids almost a whole year ago. Mainly because for the last year, the unemployed brother did nothing to change his status, and even used the money he was given by his parents to fund his gaming hobby.

    When the sibling had had enough and decided to ask the brother and his kids to move, the entire family got involved, leading to a whole dispute…

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    AITA for giving my unemployed brother 30 days to move out of my inherited house with his kids?

    i (29) came into an inheritance from my grandma last year. My brother (32) has been having financial trouble since his divorce, so I allowed him and his children (7, 5) to
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    stay temporarily until he could "get back on his feet." That was 10 months ago. He doesn't even pay rent or utilities, he just purchases groceries occasionally. I've
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    been patient but I'm just at my breaking point now. He's not looking for a job and spends all his time playing video games when I'm working. His kids are nice but
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    have ruined pieces of my grandma's antique furniture that were important for sentimental reasons. Last week we learned he's been receiving $2K a month
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    from our parents under the guise of saving for his own home, which he's been using for other expenses (discovered he went out and bought a $1200 gaming setup).
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    I explained to him that he has 30 days' notice that he needs to leave. He went crazy telling Ime that I'm heartless and leaving his kids homeless. Our parents called me saying I
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    owed him an extra chance because "family takes care of family." They even volunteered to pay for him to stay for a while, but I wasn't interested. I do not need money - I need my home back.
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    My mom now claims I'm heartless for not being willing to give him more time given that there are kids involved. I feel like I've been exploited for nearly a year, though. AITA for holding firm at 30 days?
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    Helpful-Item-3920 Nta Let them house him and his destructive children. His kids are old enough not to destroy things.
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    Asleep-Farm2790 OP Thank you. I suggested that too!. They have a bigger house anyway.
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    skalliwag NTA. Your brother is a lazy leach. The sooner he's out, the sooner you can get back to looking after your own mental health. He's not showing any gratitude for what you've already done for him. He's using you and believes the world owes him a free ride.
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    Asleep-Farm2790 OP Thank you. It helps to hear that I'm not crazy for feeling taken advantage of after all this time.
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    Adelucas It's always the same story. They have money coming in and months to find a new place, then when you have had enough and give them notice you are the bad guy. FYI, you aren't. This would have gone on forever with him
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    enjoying mooching off you and his untrained crotch goblins destroying your home (more than they already have). Tell your mom if she feels that strongly then she can take them in. You've done your duty. Time for someone else to step up and be the sker.
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    Useful_Context_2602 NTA. Why can't your parents take him in? Either way he's pocketed $20k and done nothing to improve his living situation
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    exippy He is a grown man... No wonder he is the way he is if your parents continue to enable him.. He is old enough to be his own problem... Tell your parents to pay his rent elsewhere if thats what they want
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    nah237cam And now you know why your brother's wife left him.
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