Sister-in-law charges couple $140 for plate of food that they didn't eat when they missed her wedding for the unexpected birth of their twins: “I ended up taking screenshots and posting to Facebook”

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Ely Bulnes • Writer and Editor
May 29, 2025 5:00 PM EDT

At your wedding, your guest list should be made up of people that make you happy, comfortable, and safe. Unless you have a microwedding whose audience is only made up of your inner circle, you'll probably have a guest or two that your parents insisted on – a distant relative or a handful of plus-ones. Still, not everyone that you invite will actually show up; apparently, couples should expect something around an 80% attendance rate. Some will decline the invitation within hours of receiving it, while a few might have to cancel right before.

Bailing on a wedding at the last minute is never ideal, but there are a handful of reasons that would justify this decision: illness, injury, and childbirth, just to name a few. In our story today, a couple miss their sister-in-law's wedding for the birth of their twins. Despite the happy occasion, the sour bride still managed to make a mountain out of a molehill over their absence. 

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    AITA for posting screenshots of my SIL's texts online and "making her look bad"?

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    I (29F) and my wife (28F) had our sons six days ago, the pregnancy was complicated and they had TTTS (Twin-to-Twin Transfusion Syndrome) which resulted in them coming early. They are currently in the Neonatal Unit and my wife and I practically live there so we can spend time with our boys.
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    My brother and his wife got married two days ago, I didn't want to leave my sons or my wife so I missed the wedding though I sent them their gift from us and a text wishing them a fantastic day and I thought
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    nothing more of it. Yesterday I got a text from my new sister in law explaining that because my wife and I missed the wedding she'd need us to send her £140 for our plates of food. I asked her if she was
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    joking and she told me that she got my wife couldn't go as she had to stay in the hospital but that I wasn't the one who gave birth so I could have went and saved two plates of food from going to waste.
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    I told her she was being ridiculous and asked if my brother was aware she was asking his sister for money for food, she brushed that off and said weddings were expensive and she had to try and
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    recoup her losses and this should be between us "woman to woman". Between this and her thinking I should have gone anyway I admit I lost my temper. I ended up taking screenshots of the conversation and posting it to facebook.
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    This shocked several people in the family and she must have gotten bombarded with messages as she told me to take it down, as I was making her look bad and people were taking it out of context and thinking
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    she was some kind of villain. My brother called me and told me not to worry about the money that it was stupid to expect us to pay for the plates though asked me to take the post down and he'd handle it. He seemed kind of shocked by her even asking this.
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    Did I go too far? My wife is mostly upset by our sil's comment about how I wasn't the one to give birth, as if it makes me less of their mother. Maybe I should have handled it better but I admit at the time I wasn't thinking very clearly.
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  • The post doesn't need to exist anymore; it certainly sounds like it did its job!

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    Edit: I thought I said in the post but I didn't (sorry running on very little sleep) I took down the post when my brother asked me to do so.
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    NTA. EIDjee i'd take down the post as requested, though. it has served its purpose.
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    SavingsBitter1426 OP Oh god, edited post there thanks. Your post made me double check. I took it down when my brother asked me to. I seriously thought I added that. I'm running on no sleep
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    Shutupandplayball NTA - "she" made herself look bad by having the audacity to text this ridiculous request. Wishing your family speedy healing and best wishes!
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    Several_Razzmatazz51 As the father of a daughter who was born at 32 weeks, it doesn't matter if you were the parent that carried them or not. If your 4-day old
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  • Weddings are such an important and momentous occasion. Missing out on your sibling's wedding is pretty much unexcusable… except in the event of childbirth or illness!

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    children are in the NICU everything else comes second. I would have laughed in her face. I think you did the social media equivalent. Best to you, your wife, and your children for a speedy and full recovery.
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    West_House_2085 NTA New sil FAFO edit for CONGRATULATIONS on the 2 of you growing your family! I hope you all get to go home together SOON
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    SavingsBitter1426 OP Thank you! We cannot wait to take them home. This was not plan at all but when do things ever go smoothly?
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    sarabeara12345678910 Nta. It would be tacky to ask in normal circumstances, but asking the parent of preemie twins in the NICU is unhinged.
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    OrganicFeedback4451 NTA. this! But for your brother's sake, I'd take it down. Nobody is going to forget that and it will continue to spread anyway!
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    cgdivine01 Oh. My. God! Your sil true colors came out the second she got that ring didn't it? What a witch! I bet she didn't even pay for the wedding. I am just gobsmacked. I wouldnt take a thing down! Let the family see who she really is! Congrats on the birth and for being such an upstanding husband and dad already. Your sil is horrible. I hope someday she has a miserable pregnancy.
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    peakerforlife NTA. She just got married, and could be riding the high of that, but instead she's pestering people worried sick about their newborns, over MONEY. But she chose to f around, and now she's finding out.
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    And IMO, people deserve to know that SIL is seemingly devoid of compassion, so they can avoid talking about sensitive subjects around her. Who knows what awful thing she'll say next!
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