18-year-old roommate begs 18-year-old friend for a job interview after being fired from 3 jobs, sneaks into her workplace anyway when denied, gets banned: 'Security tells us she came back and was caught sneaking into the back area'

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Brad Dickson • Managing Editor
Jun 3, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

When you refer someone for something, say a friend for a job, you're staking your own reputation on them. That's kind of the point of a "recommendation" in the first place, you're telling people that you have a history with and know and trust this person, and that they should trust them by extension of your own relationship. So, when you vouch for someone and they don't live up to the expectation, sometimes falling disasterously short. It leaves you wishing that you'd never stuck your neck out for them in the first place. 

And, let's be honest, we might like our friends for some things—they're our friends after all—but it's the same principle as roommates. Just because you're friends doesn't mean that you want to live or work with them, or that you aren't keenly aware of their glaring personality flaws and know that things just didn't work out. Sure, if you have an understanding manager with whom you have a good relationship, they'll probably be able to shake off a bad hire that you've recommended, but even then, it's guaranteed that they're not totally going to forget it. 

That's why this friend made a good call when she refused to give her roommate a recommendation or get her an interview at the place where she worked, knowing it would harm her reputation there. This was solidified when the roommate tried to gaslight her and her boss, and then snuck back into her place of work after being denied again.

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    I (18F) have been working at a clothing. store in the mall for a few months now. It's my first steady job, and its a perfect fit for me. Great co-workers, a decent manager, and I finally feel like I'm getting my life together after moving out and going to college. I live with my high school friend turned roommate (18F), let's call her Kayla.
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    Kayla's been struggling with jobs since we moved in. She's been fired from three part-time places in the past few months for being late, slacking off, and calling out last minute. She constantly borrows money from me and is always short on rent. I have always given her the benefit of the doubt due to her struggles, and payed the portion of the rent she owed every time.
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    Last week, she found out my work was hiring and practically begged me to refer her. I told her, very politely, that I didn't feel comfortable doing that. I said something like, "As much as I want to help you, I would like to keep work and personal life separate." She got passive-aggressive but dropped it... or so I thought.
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    A few days later, I'm on shift when Kayla shows up to my store, dressed extremely inappropriately (mini-skirt and a showy top), and tells my manager that she's there for an interview... that I "set up for her." My manager looks confused, asks me in front of her if this is true, and I'm standing there like ??? I say no, I never arranged anything and never referred her. Kayla looks shocked and says she was "told" to just come in and introduce herself because "that's how they do things here." She t
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    Kayla storms out and texts me a wall of rage saying I "embarrassed her," "humiliated her on purpose," and "ruined her chance to finally get her life. together." But here's the kicker: a few hours later, security tells us she came back and was caught sneaking into the back area where employees clock in. She said she "forgot her water bottle" even though she never had one. She got escorted out, and my manager had to file a report. Kayla is now banned from the store.
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    Now she's barely speaking to me and has been telling people I sabotaged her future and am a "toxic fake friend." One of her friends even DM'd me saying I could've "at least warned her" instead of letting her "walk into a trap." So... AITA for not helping her get the job, and "embarrassing her" when she showed up anyway?
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    OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the a hole: Her friends text and her just being upset at me is turning me towards being the a-he but idk.
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    ColdstreamCapple • 8h ago NTA But OP Kayla is NOT a friend and you need to stop enabling her No more letting her borrow money, No more covering her rent and I'd be either looking for a new place to live or telling her to leave Kayla is a user and a drama queen, let her "friends" take care of her You need to let your boss know you had NOTHING to do with what happened and that you will NOT recommend her
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    Don't ruin your credit and risk your career for someone like this, She needs to be held accountable for once in her life
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    Even_Budget2078 8h ago • NTA But, more importantly that seems to have escalated from tiresome minor disaster of a life roommate to full blown unhinged super fast. I'm not trying to sound alarmist, but I really think you should consider new housing arrangements. This "friendship" seems to be going (at a quick pace) in a bad direction.
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    • totallyworkinghere ⚫ 8h ago NTA. Girl sounds crazy. You might want to start looking for a new roommate.
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    SlinginChitlins4u ⚫ 7h ago • NTA! You should break all contact with this person ASAP. Obviously she cannot be a friend or roommate. Rid yourself of this juvenile before you get seriously hurt. Your roommate needs psychological help.
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    MrP2471.8h ago I am sorry to say, she is absolutely using or trying to use you and you need to change your arrangements. Great high school friends and great roommates sometimes can be both, either, or none. You are defo NOT the A.
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