Self-admitted ‘Type A’ woman considers ending relationship with her boyfriend after he fails to purchase her favorite band's concert tickets for the correct day: ‘He had one job and still managed to ruin the experience for me’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jun 4, 2025 6:00 PM EDT

Sometimes, you have to choose yourself before someone else dulls your sparkle.

A common theme in many relationships looks a little something like this: The woman does the planning, the cleaning, the organizing. She is her partner's built-in iPhone reminder most of the time, and she even sometimes resembles their mother with the way she needs to spoon-feed them information. Spoiler alert: No woman gets into a relationship with another person just so they can be a parental figure in their life. A relationship is a partnership—feeling like you can never rely on your significant other in times of planning and crisis is something to heavily second-guess if you're thinking about making them your life partner. Sometimes, love is not enough to keep a relationship alive where both people are happy.

In this next story, a woman explains that she is heavily considering breaking up with her boyfriend after years of being the Type A planner. The nail in the coffin was a scheduling mishap regarding her favorite band's concert they planned on attending, and because of her boyfriend's mishap, they missed the concert. Sometimes, it's not just one mistake. It's representative of a core difference that won't be able to work itself out. Scroll to read the full story below, including some advice from women who urge her to leave before it's too late.

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  • "We were planning on getting married and spending the rest of our lives together, yet I don't want to end up being the only one pulling the weight."
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  • "My (24F) BF (27M) booked our tickets for a different day. I’m tired, frustrated and contemplating breaking up with him. What would you do in my place?"

    Throwaway for obvious reasons. TLDR at the bottom. I, 24 F, have been dating my boyfriend, 27 M, for 2 years long- distance. We don't live together, but due to our demanding jobs we try to see each other at least 3x/month. Overall I can say many
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  • positive things about our relationship, however things took a turn a few weeks ago and I can't seem to forgive him.
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  • For context, I'm very much a Type A person, I need everything planned and to be in order. However, since I'm always planning things (with friends, BF or at work), I get worn down
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  • pretty quickly and it takes a toll on my mood. He on the other hand is very laid back and goes through life with an "it is what it is" attitude. So naturally, it has
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  • always been me who's been planning activities, booking places to stay, sightseeing and holiday all throughout our relationship.
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  • A year ago, BF got me tickets for my favourite artist and I've been excited ever since. I still had to book transportation, hotel and plan activities though, but I didn't
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  • mind as long as we could get to see the artist in time. Spoiler alert: we missed the concert because BF booked the tickets for a different day and we couldn't get a refund.
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  • Safe to say, I've never been more dissappointed in my life. I still feel physically, emotionally and financially drained, and that I can't rely on him. I decided we
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  • needed to go on a break and I've been talking with my friends and my therapist about what to do. My therapist said that I'm processing it as a betrayal and a
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  • breach of trust. My friends are telling me it's up to me if I want to continue the relationship, but if they were in my shoes, they couldn't trust him with anything ever again.
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  • I understand that it's a mistake anyone could have made and in the end it's not that serious. He has apologised about a million times and feels very sorry about
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  • how he let me down. But at the same time, all this pent-up frustration that's inside me keeps reminding me he had one job and still managed to ruin the experience for me.
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  • Of course, not everything is black and white. Besides this character flaw, he is a very good boyfriend, kind, funny, and we have the same opinions on politics, human
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  • rights etc. (basically all the serious life stuff). I can't seem to get over this mistake though. We were planning on getting married and spending the rest of our lives together, yet I don't want to end up being the only one pulling the weight. Advice would be greatly appreciated.
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  • TLDR; I always plan every activity, BF had one job of buying tickets and messed it up. I'm tired and I feel alone, I don't know what to do.
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  • Edit: there seems to be some confusion regarding booking and tickets there were two concerts, - one was happening on the 31st and second was on the 1st. BF
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  • and second was on the 1st. BF told me we had tickets for the second concert, so I booked everything in accordance to that.
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  • Then on the 1st he realised we had tickets for the 31st - so the day after we were supposed to attend the concert. Also, only he had access to the tickets. Hope that clears it up a bit.
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  • chatgat I think this is not about him, it's about who you feel your have to become when you are with him. The dance for the two of you is that his nature brings out the most anxious and stressed part of your nature.
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  • For me, I'd part with love. This is just not a good fit. Not because of who he is in the relationship but because you don't like who you are in the relationship and it's not how you want to spend your life.
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  • SevenBraixen I just went on a trip with my partner and his inability to plan anything correctly is what put the nail in the coffin of our relationship. I think your feelings are completely valid and justified - wanting a partner that can be trusted to plan things correctly and not waste hundreds of dollars should be the bare minimum, not a minor flaw that you should be expected to overlook. There is type B and then there is just carelessness disguised as type B.
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