Man soundproofs his office after wife threatens to leave him over what she heard while eavesdropping on his conversation with his therapist: "She did it to herself"

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    My Wife Listened to My Call with My Therapist and Is Upset with What She Heard. AITAH?

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    I have a call with my therapist every Friday. My wife works from home. Last Friday, my wife and I were arguing. We haven't been getting along recently. I had my call with my therapist and my wife stormed
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    into the room once the call was done saying I was a liar and she would never talk about me the way I talked about her. We completely separated for the weekend, but have since resolved. Over the weekend, I soundproofed my office to prevent this in the future.
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    Today after my call, my wife is visibly upset. I ask her what's wrong and she said the thought of me being on a call with my therapist rekindled her feelings from last week, despite not being able to hear me.
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    I told her she was the one that listened into my private call with my therapist and she was not supposed to hear any of what I said. She said she couldn't do anything not to hear it, even though she could've sent me a text saying "I can hear you".
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    I don't know what I could've done. I was having a private conversation and my wife listened in. She claimed she's never been able to hear me before, but somehow this week she could hear me.
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    AITAH for blaming her and saying she did it to herself? In my opinion, I was venting to my therapist and not watching what I was saying, nor should I
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    have to. My wife had the option to tell me she could hear me, but did not. She went outside for part of the call, but not after she listened in enough to have her feelings hurt.
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    Fun-Respect-104 OK, 1. You're right, she did do it to herself. I don't know what you discussed, but therapy is supposed to be a safe space which she violated, let alone be mad about what she heard.
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    Try to explain that. I mean, therapy helps with how we see things. If you're venting because of whatever reason, the point of therapy is to help you deal with
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    that information and process it. Sometimes it changes the way you see things and get a different perspective, others it reinforces what you felt. I hope you guys can sort it out, but please tell her to respect your boundaries.
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    jfroosty OP I have tried to explain that, but she takes it as "just another thing I say she does wrong". I'm not even as upset that she listened as I could be. To me, that's a huge violation of privacy. But, from how upset she was, I tried to look past that part. But, I refuse to take blame for it.
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    AutisticPenguin2 "just another thing I say she does wrong" If she doesn't want to be called out for doing the wrong thing, then maybe she should stop doing the wrong thing.
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    Revolutionary_GRL20 Therapy is supposed to be a private relieving process. When my husband is in therapy, I do everything I humanly can to avoid listening. She could have walked away. Definitely NTA
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    sharkw33k That was not the first time she listened in to your calls. She 100% did this on purpose and all her issues now were cause by her. NTA
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    Raisins_Rock I also sincerely doubt it is the first time she listened in. I can only congratulate OP for apparently never before saying something so upsetting.
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    Sharp-Scientist2462 She could use her own therapist apparently.
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    elderYdumpsterfire If I listened in on my husband's therapy appointments I'm sure I'd get hurt too. B/c we are both flawed humans and facing those flaws is hard.
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    But I'd never do that! That's such a violation of privacy. When we have telehealth appointments we swap taking the kiddo outside to play. So no accidental over hearing happens.
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    Also, I feel like there is a possible legal issue here. My therapist always asks if I'm sure I'm in a confidential area. Like it's a big point she makes. NTA
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    jfroosty OP That's what I told her! If I listened to her therapy session, my feelings would likely also get hurt.

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