Woman asks mothers of 8 and 10-year-old boys to cancel their sons' joint birthday party because she's throwing a party for her 2-year-old on the same day, boy moms refuse: ‘She said a 2nd birthday party was more important than 8 and 10’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Jun 19, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

Birthday parties for moms are like the Olympics. You want to make sure everything is as perfect as perfect can be for your little tots, and you will go to any length to ensure they have a great time celebrating another year of growing up. What matters at the end of the day is that your favorite fellas enjoy themselves with their best friends, and no other entitled parent can change that, no matter how hard they might try.

This next story features three mothers, all of whom coincidentally had children on the same day. Their children are years apart, one being two years old while the others are eight and ten years old. The mothers of the two older boys are throwing a joint birthday party, while the mother of the 2-year-old girl asks them to cancel the festivities. Why? She claims a 2-year-old's birthday is more important. Not to be that person, but a two-year-old won't know the difference nor remember the festivities anyway… and the two other moms planned this party first. Scroll below to decide for yourself who might be in the wrong.

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  • It would be a different story if the mother of the young girl had made plans to celebrate before the two other mothers made plans for their boys' birthdays, but that doesn't seem to be the case. The two mothers explain that they would not be attending the little girls' party because they had already booked the laser tag/bowling venue, and they weren't planning on switching it around. This led to a fallout between the three of them.

  • "She then tells us we were supposed to cancel their party and come to her daughter's."
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  • "Friend wanted me to cancel my kid’s party to attend her kid’s party"

    So me and my two friends (all 33f) have been a trio since middle school. Ironically, all three of our oldest children have the
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  • same exact birthday but different years. Me and Tonya have boys aged 8 and 10. Lauren has a 2 year old daughter.
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  • A few months ago, Tonya and I decided to plan a bowling/laser tag birthday party for our boys.
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  • We told Lauren about the party and invited her. She said she would try to make it. Cool. The party was on a weekend, not the day of their actual birthday.
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  • A few days before the party, Lauren FaceTimed Tonya and I to invite us to her daughter's birthday party. It was for the
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  • same day as our boy's party. No big deal. It's the weekend after their birthdays so we knew the parties would eventually clash. We told her we wouldn't be able to make it and we thought that was that.
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  • The day after the party, Tonya and I FaceTimed Lauren to ask how her daughter's party went.
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  • We saw pictures online and thought the decorations came out beautifully. We were all ears just waiting on the details of baby girl's 2nd birthday. Instead, we
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  • were met with anger. Lauren starts asking why we didn't show up. Ummm we were at our boy's party and she knew this. She
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  • then tells us we were supposed to cancel their party and come to her daughter's. When I asked her why she would think we would
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  • even consider doing that she said a 2nd birthday party was more important than 8 and 10 and we should have just picked a different day.
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  • I'm not one to argue so I tell Lauren she's tripping and hang up the video call. The next day I noticed she logged me out and
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  • changed the password to a streaming account we shared. Is it that serious? I guess to her it was. I haven't talked to Lauren since.
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  • Alarming_Paper_8357 So NTA. Not even a contest. Wow just wow. "A 2 year old's party is more important"?! to WHO? Certainly not the 2 year old -- they barely understand what all the fuss is about in the first place!
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  • Your friend Lauren is so wrong on this, I'm not even sure what the word is for "so stupidly wrong and so amazingly self-centered". How about YOU getting mad right back at her and telling her that YOU scheduled your party first and
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  • invited HER, and she SAID she would try to make it, but then went and scheduled her child's party for the exact same day with no thought for anyone else. Who in their right mind would think you would CANCEL a much- anticipated party for an 8 and 10 year old to go to a toddler's b-day party?
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  • FunnyCharacter4437 Curious in what world a 2nd birthday party is "more important" than an 8th or 10th. The kid doesn't even remember it and no one but the parents give a sh since it isn't the 1st. Hope you haven't been paying towards the streaming account or letting her keep access to one that you control.
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  • _MidnightMuse bruh, Lauren is wild for this one Imao. like sorry but expecting y'all to cancel a whole party you planned MONTHS in advance just 'cause her kid turned 2? nah. two- year-olds don't even remember their birthdays, meanwhile your boys were probably hyped for laser tag. NTA at all, but maybe hit her with a "you good?" text when she chills out-if she ever does.
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  • Primary_Wonderful It's that serious for her. Main Character syndrome.
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  • blueberryyogurtcup She did this on purpose. She knew, months before her party, about yours. And waited until a few days before your party, to tell you about hers. She's not a friend to you two.
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  • This was a test, to see if she could force compliance from the two of you to her wants. She didn't care at all what it would do to your children, or all the people invited to their party.
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  • Her anger at you, and her reasons for her anger are unreasonable, based on her unreasonable expectation that her wants should be first, for both of you and your children. Very entitled. I'd just let her go.
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