'Wedding date changed last minute to a weekday in another state': 33- and 47-year-old couple changes nearly everything about their wedding day, confused guests start to pull out

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    "Wedding date changed last minute… to a weekday… in another state"

    6:10 < Back !!!!5G+ 5G+ (10 3 Messages Λ IMPORTANT !!! DATE CHANGE hiii everyone:)! We want to make you aware of a critically important update. **The ceremony date is now June 27 and the location has changed!!! Please note this down carefully. We have decided we want to have a church ceremony in addition to our planned beach ceremony and reception. The officiant of our choice does not do weddings at locations outside of his church. Having a church ceremony is very important to us morally and eth
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    **The ceremony will now be Friday June 27 at 2:00pm at um, Oregon. The reception will be the following day at. in Port Angeles, WA. in If you cannot make the 27th we understand but please be aware that will be the only opportunity to participate in professional photos.
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    6:10 < Back 3 Messages !!!! 5G+ 5G+ 10 IMPORTANT !!! DATE CHA... A BRIDESMAIDS: We kindly ask you wear this yellow dress for the 27th. Still reserve the grey dress you already purchased to wear on the 28th. After viewing the interior of the church, grey just would not work. Thanks! GROOSMEN: yellow ties will be provided for you on on the day of the ceremony. If you have any concerns go ahead and reach out to our super girlie wedding planner at Thankkkssss! Can't wait to celebrate with you. <3
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    6:10 < Back Hi H 3 Messages 5G+ 10 IMPORTANT !!! DATE CHA... ^ From a bridesmaid coming from halfway across the country, also a relative of groom (!!) Am I understanding the above message correctly to mean your wedding ceremony is now on a weekday, during the day? If so, I have to admit I am pretty surprised and disappointed. My family booked tickets months in advance to travel to Washington and the church appears to be several hours away, necessitating another hotel stay.
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    Between that and the unexpected day off work we can't afford this extra day. I was not participating for the party aspect so much as the special memory of seeing you and A be a part of that milestone. get married and If I am misunderstanding something or if there is another ceremony that will be happening on the 28th, I apologize for the confusion, but please let me know asap.
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    The "kthx" really emphasizes the snippy attitude this couple has

    let's be respectful and take this offline please. Ladies, friendly reminder, contact directly with any concerns so as not to spam everyone's inbox kthx!
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    6:11 < Back 3 Messages 5G+ (10 Quick updates and remind... ^ Quick updates and reminders Hiiiiii everyone! We are so excited to have you as members of our wedding party, thank you to those of you who actually care and stuck with us! A few quick notes, to-do's, and FYIS GENERAL **We will no longer be using a wedding planner.
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    and I are just too quirky to fit into a box! We're doing things our own way. Please do not contact Meghan with anymore questions. She is no longer involved with the planning of the wedding. **Please come early on the 28th because we have been unable to secure enough chairs. We won't really need them, we'll be dancing all night!!
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    **If you're in the wedding party, you are not expected to send a gift! Your presence at our special day is gift enough <3<3 **As previously stated we are unable to accommodate any dietary needs or requests. Please bring your own food if you require that.
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    **After careful consideration we have decided that with the acception of our boys this wedding will be CHILD FREE. That does also include the reception. Please plan accordingly. **We'll have special goodiebags for all members of the wedding party available for pickup at the venue:):):):) (spoiler alert-it includes a plant so if you're traveling internationally please plan accordingly.)
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    BRIDESMAIDS **If you are over 5'5 please get these flats instead of the initially requested heels. **Makeup will be $300 per person per day. You don't have to get it if you don't want to on the 28th but we kindly insist all bridesmaids get it on the 27th if they want to be in any photos.
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    **For reception day will be getting ready starting at 6:45am at our Airbnb. For ceremony day we'll be getting ready at the venue time TBD. If you are not there on the 28th by 7:00am, you will not be let in, to ensure things run on a timely schedule. Nobody wants a repeat of the bach!!
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    There's a real disdain for the poor groomsmen here!

    GROOMSMEN **Per tradition the groom cannot see the bride prior to the ceremony so unfortunately there is nowhere for you all to get ready on the 28th-since you basically just need ties this is no biggie. Some people were going to get together at beforehand, feel free to coordinate amongst yourselves. Pub
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    Hiiii! A few quick updates and gentle reminders. **After careful consideration we have decided there will be no speeches. **Only confirmed Catholic bridesmaids and groomsmen are permitted to stand with us during the ceremony. Not our rules, the church's, sowwy: )
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    **Some of you have not paid the $25 per plate per person deposit for food which sets a poor example to the other guests as ya'll are the wedding party. **We're kindly insisting each member of the wedding party chip in $650 for expenses. I am sorry I have to ask at this point but it is customary for the wedding party to just offer
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    **If you don't drink we gently suggest you seriously consider whether or not you really want to come to the reception. This is meant to be a once in a lifetime celebration and it only takes 1 wet blanket to snuff out everyone's fire. This is a personal choice for you to make!! **We WILL offer translation services for those who need them. Please direct your guests who require such services to sit in the back on the left at both functions. **There will be 30 min of open bar before the other guests
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    1 NEW MESSAGE Summarize Today at 6:10 PM Heyyy ladies and himbos Would anyone be interested in helping us get a wedding cake? You'll be shouted out specifically during the ceremony if so!! It has to be dairy free. Thannnnkkssss love you all so much
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    IMPORTANT. READ THIS. If f you are no longer participating in our wedding, pulling out just days before the ceremony, we totally understand!! But please be advised we won't forget who stood with us or not... <3
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    eeyorephins Ha! she says. "As previously stated we are unable to accommodate any dietary needs or requests." Then turns around and requests for dairy-free cake! What a joke!
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    Narrow_Ant_169 I'm actually going to be local on that date. Can I come? I want to see the wreck. I don't have the $650 cover charge though.
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    BodyBy711 This has zero effect on my life whatsoever but this bride is now my sworn enemy.
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    The person who received this deluge of delulu emails answered a bunch of burning questions from commenters

    cellogirl712 i think this may be one of the craziest email threads that i have ever read-op was this person normal/ a decent friend before this??
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    OccamsReddit_56 OP In the time I've known her she's been a little erratic but overall fine. I never would have anticipated anything like this. She and the groom met and got engaged in the space of a year so I knew the wedding would be a little choppy on the organization front but never imagined something like this.
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    Efficient_Ad2249 Was this person ever told no as a child? What does their partner think? This is INSANE.
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    BRI DE
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    OccamsReddit_56 OP The partner thinks this is nuts but doesn't want to get in the way of “her day." You can tell he's on a different plane with this whole thing by how comparatively fewer instructions there are for the groomsmen.
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    qinghairpins $300 per person for makeup?? Is everyone getting a full new makeup kit as a goody? Jfc. And as a sober person, that comment on "wet blankets" would be enough to cut contact completely. It is so entirely inappropriate for so many different reasons, but just plain disrespectful.
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    OccamsReddit_56 OP Couldn't agree more. My partner is in recovery and I asked if we just shouldn't go on the basis of that offensive comment but she said won't let them determine if she gets to see the sh storm or not.
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    leepin_peezarfs Thins is wild. On top of date changes and the other big stuff, she wants bridesmaids to be purchasing additional dresses and shoes not even a month before the wedding? And for the wedding party to contribute $650 each with a $25 food fee? And a required $300 for makeup? And is giving plants as goodie bags knowing some folks are international? And is shaming folks for not drinking? And they can't accommodate any dietary restrictions but are requesting a dairy free wedding cake so
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    OccamsReddit_56 OP Oh it gets worse. Not included on this thread since I wasn't involved in that aspect-the bride demanded a bachelorette party when it became apparent no one was planning one (I guess bridesmaids assumed they'd already spent so much they weren't expected to, also none live very close together) So then the bridesmaids were expected to contribute $500 each for a DESTINATION BACHELORETTE PARTY. Overnight. With fewer than two weeks notice. I thought the girls were joking or exaggera
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    proofoflife10 They decided A FEW DAYS BEFORE to make it child free??
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    BRI
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    OccamsReddit_56 OP Yeah luckily I don't have kids but I know at least 2/3 of the bridesmaids do so... not sure what they were thinking with that. Edit also note that each of their children from previous relationships is coming... 5 and 12.
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    mamaptak The best part is I'm willing to bet these two are divorced in less than two years. I hope you backed out. There's nothing worse than putting yourself through this kind of thing and spending tons of money for them to split up. I say this from experience. When the couple in question split up (less than a year later) and were splitting their stuff as they packed up to move out of their house, I asked for my gift back. I told them it was the least they could do for what they'd put me (and e
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    The poster mentions in another comment that they're 33 and 47, which is a 14 year age gap...

    OccamsReddit_56 OP Sadly I think you're right. This is the groom's second marriage (first woman they had a courthouse wedding with no guests, ceremony, or even Facebook post!!) I really hoped he'd have one where everything works out this time. Guess not...
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    amiceandalb Former pastor here. I will put $10 down on this being a case where the couple somehow just assumed the pastor and the church would be magically available whenever they wanted. I got that all the time with weddings and funerals. People make plans, tell all their friends, and only later think to check with the church.
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    OccamsReddit_56 OP That could be. I hadn't considered that. But I guess at this point nothing is out of the question.
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