26-year-old told to shave her legs next time before date, she stands her ground: “I don’t think I should change my body for someone I barely know”

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 22, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. As a woman, we have so many pressures put on us through societal influence, both from men and women, social media, and Hollywood media. Some people would like to hijack the female experience, and say that men have similar pressures in society, but it just isn't true. I dare any man to try being a woman for a day, and see how it feels. We're just so much more physically vulnerable in different ways. We're vulnerable in a way that we need to protect ourselves from danger, but on the opposite side we're vulnerable in a way that our appearances and bodies are always up to be scrutinized. It's like being at a zoo, except you're the animal that is being showcased for everyone to gawk and point at. 

In the story below, some of these stereotypical female pressures come to life in just a measly first date. The protagonist is a woman who goes to a first date without her legs shaved. Read the full story below. 

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    AITA for not shaving my legs before a date and making him uncomfortable?

    "Next time maybe smooth legs?”
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    Hi Reddit, I'm super new here (first post actually) so please go easy on me :p
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  • This woman is absolutely right for standing her ground. It's a first date, the man should be wooing the woman and trying to win her respect and trust. I can understand that after starting the relationship he's at a point where he can ask her if she can shave, but not before being committed. 

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    I (26F) went on a second date with a guy, I wore a mini dress and didn't shave my legs (they weren't super hairy, just a bit
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    visible up close)..I just didn't feel like it and don't always do it unless I want to..The date was
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    nice, but later he texted, "Next time maybe smooth legs? ":/
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    I felt kinda weird about that..My friend said I should've shaved because it's early dating, but I don't think I should change my body for someone I barely know.
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    AITA for not shaving and possibly making him uncomfortable?
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    Specialist_Engine1... 19h ago NTA. You can text him "That's nice of you to offer! But no pressure to shave for me. Only if you want to
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    StarlightM4 20h ago NTA. Just text back "what next time?"
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    FaithCA79 20h ago NTA. He doesn't have to like body hair but to actually have the nerve to comment on it is ridiculous.
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    Once when I was in my 20s | went on a couple of dates with a 40 year old man. On
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    our second date I didn't wear makeup and put my hair up in a ponytail. I was tired after a long day and
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    didn't feel like it. While sitting in a diner waiting for food this man looks me de d in the eyes and says
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    "You need to take your hair down and go to the restroom and do your makeup. This I don't care look isn't attractive."
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    I was too exhausted to even get annoyed about it. I got up and walked out without saying a word. In my mind if
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    you have a problem with me being my natural comfortable self then you
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    don't like me enough for me to spend my time with you.
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    his place (his words). So it took a few weeks of me telling him no before he stopped trying to date me again.
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    I'm glad I had a rough day that day and didn't convince myself I was the wrong one. My friends told me I
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    shouldn't have ever gone on a second date like that. They told me I was wrong to do that to him. All I could think was if how I look 90% of the
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    time is such a problem than we shouldn't be dating.
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