In-laws force their way into daughter-in-law's annual summer vacation to Greece, DIL reconsiders the relationship: "It makes me not even want my kids around them"

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Jun 25, 2025 12:00 PM EDT

Welcome back ladies and gentlemen of the internet. Summer is the quintessential time for vacationing. Everyone likes to take a summer holiday, experience the uniqueness of another culture, to feel the fresh breeze on their skin, to even meet a summer lover for a fun and ephemeral time. 
Greece is a common destination for anyone's summer getaway. Who can resist the crystal clear waves, the bright blue skies, and the feta cheese sweating on every plate of meat or salad. It's the best of every world. But when you're going on vacation, some people don't always want to drag their in-laws with them. 

In the story below, in centers around a woman, her family, and her in-laws. We all want a good relationship with our in-laws, especially when the marriage is fresh and nascent. No one wants to have combative fights with their dear MIL, or argue about politics with their FIL. When you marry, you don't just marry the person, but you marry their whole family. 

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    AITA for being upset that my in-laws decided to join us for 2 weeks of our summer without asking?

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    My family is Greek, and since my first year on this earth I have been lucky to go back to my village each summer to see friends and family.
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  • What would you do if you were the protagonist? She claims that in the past she tried to involve her in-laws more into her family. If they weren't responsive then, does it revoke their acceptance into the family? Is the opportunity gone? I would let them involve themselves now. 

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    I now have my own kids, and since I can work remotely I can do the same with them. My parents are still there and it's a beloved
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    homecoming each year. We have a little life here with our family. and neighbors, and it is very special to us.
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    This year, my in-laws (who have been to Greece before) decided they would be joining us for 3 weeks. They didn't tell us until
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    after they booked their tickets and essentially announced it. Thankfully my husband convinced them to dial it back one week, so
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    now it's "just two". They were very upset about this change.
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    I feel disrespected and manipulated.
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    context my family went to great lengths early in our marriage to invite them and include them in our community events, and each
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    time they have shown no interest in speaking or engaging with anyone, even when people went out of their way to connect. When
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    they come to our (any) house they are there to be served - they do not even take their own plates to the sink.
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    They arrived a few days ago, and since then have made several jokes about coming for longer next year, and maybe even buying a place near us.
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    They seem to either not understand that dictating what 2 weeks of our summer will look like with no consultation crossed
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    a line... or perhaps they don't care. Either way, any ounce of trust or respect I have for them has evaporated.
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    This kind of manipulation makes me not even want my kids around them—will they manipulate them too? AITA here? What would you all do?
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    [deleted] ΝΤΑ Don't tell them about future plans.
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    Icy-Doctor23 DH needs to talk to them and tell them that inviting themselves to your yearly family vacation to your home and family is ride.
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    They should have talked with you about a joint vacation and not invite themselves on yours.
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    Live Western 1389 Tell them this is your time with your family and they need to arrange their own
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    accommodations and plan their own activities without your family.
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    You know why they do this... jealous of the time you spend with your family, and controlling need to included
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