26-year-old's aunt demands that he give 19-year-old cousin his old car for free, she refuses to pay him due to his success: "She's always had this weird resentment toward me for getting out of our small town and doing well"

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    AITA for not letting my cousin have my old car, even though my aunt says I "owe" the family for being successful?

    "[She] asked when I could drop it off.There was no question about buying it"
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    I (26M) work in tech and recently bought my first new car. It's nothing crazy, just a reliable sedan. My old car, a 2009 Civic, still runs but has a ton of miles on it. I planned to sell it cheap or trade it in.
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    So, my aunt, who's my mom's sister, heard about the new car through our family group chat. She texted me saying her son (19M) could really use a
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    starter car and asked when I could drop it off. There was no question about buying it. It was just straight- up asking when I could give it to them.
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    I told her I wasn't planning to just give it away, but I'd sell it at a reasonable price. It's not worth much, but I've taken good care of it, and it's mine. She
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    immediately got snippy and said I make enough money now. She insisted it wouldn't kill me to do something nice for my cousin.
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    Honestly, she's always had this weird resentment toward me for getting out of our small town and doing well. Her tone turned passive-aggressive
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    really fast. She said things like, some of us didn't get handed life on a silver platter, even though I worked full-time through college and took out loans.
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    Now she's telling the rest of the family I'm selfish and that I've forgotten where I came from. Even my mom gently suggested I should consider giving them the car just to avoid drama.
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    But I don't think I owe anyone a free car just because I make a decent income now. I offered to sell it fairly, they refused, and I left it at that. So, AITA?
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    FOR SALE
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    kmflushing Trust me, you should sell it to someone else. Save yourself the headache. With that kind of entitlement, any little thing that happens with the car in the future, is going to come back to haunt you.
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    "Well, OP, you shouldn't have sold it if the tires need changing, so you should pay for brand new ones now. So what if my darling precious has had it for 2 years and put 78,000 miles on it since we got it."
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    LogicalMove2482 OP And the worst part is, if the car ever breaks down, they'd go crying to the whole family again about how I 'screwed them over with a junk car.' Lose- lose situation.
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    lamtheStinger OP. Sell that car right now. They can all b and moan as much as they like. You can ignore them.
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    kmflushing Exactly. Sell it to someone else. At least this way, you get paid and no future headaches. now about how no someone Just some doesn't value fAmiLY, but oh, well.
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    cannafriendlymamma Exactly this. Sold a car to a "friend" many years ago, and they blamed everything that went wrong on me. They bad mouthed me to others saying I
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    screwed them over with a junk car. The car was 10 years old, and had a lot of miles on it. I sold it to them really cheap too, because it had xyz wrong, and I told them about it.....
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    lapsteelguitar "$5k and it's yours."
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    But- kmflushing 6k, it is.
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    Usual-Canary-7764 I will make you a final offer and if the word out of your mouth is not "yes we will take it"...the price goes up by 500 for every extra word u use.
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    Rebel4211 NEVER DO business with family!! Trade it in or sell to a stranger. As one mentioned-if something happens to it, it will be your fault.
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    Drpeppermd1990 Just because you've worked hard and found success doesn't mean you owe anyone, especially people who demand things with entitlement instead of gratitude or respect. NTA
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    Ok_Childhood_9774 If your mom gently suggested you give her entitled nephew your car, she can gently pay you for it and give it to him herself. I just love it when people are generous with other people's money/stuff. NTA
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    Flashy Habit3030 NTA. I'm tired of entitled family members and family members who want you to cave to 'avoid' drama. Yes, your cousin can have the car if he pays for it...in advance. Congratulations on your success.
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    RepeatSubscriber People used to imply that my dad was handed everything. "You're so lucky to [have all this]," they'd say. "Yes," he'd reply, "and the harder I work, the luckier I get." Auntie can pound sand. Of course NTA.

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