21-year-old girlfriend overhears boyfriend telling pretty waitress that she is his sister, she storms off leaving him at restaurant, her mother claims she should have just played along: 'Your brother is hilarious'

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    "He introduced me as 'a friend of a friend? Another time, he pretended he forgot my name in front of his college buddy"
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    AITA for leaving my boyfriend at the bar after he told the waitress I was his “sister” as a joke?

    Okay, so this happened last weekend and I'm still getting heat from my friends and even my mom for how I handled it. I (21F)
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    have been dating (27M) for about 8 months. Things have been mostly grea, he's cute, charming, a little c ky sometimes, but whatever
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    he has this habit of "joking" about not being serious with me when we're around other people. At a party once, he introduced
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    me as "a friend of a friend." Another time, he pretended he forgot my name in front of his college buddy. Every time I've
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    brought it up, he's brushed it off as "just a joke"... Anyway We were out with a few of his
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    friends at this bar. It was pretty packed, and the waitress was definitely flirting with him smiling a little too hard, touching his arm,
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    that kind of thing. I wasn't too. bothered at first. He can be friendly and doesn't always realize when someone's hitting on him.
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    But then I got up to go to the bathroom, and when I came back, I heard the waitress laughing and saying, "Oh my god, seriously?" I
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    asked what was so funny, and she said, "Your brother is hilarious." I looked at him, and he smirked and said, "Yeah, I told her you're
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    my sister. Just messing with her." I didn't laugh. I just said "Cool," grabbed my stuff, and walked out. I took an Uber home. He
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    didn't follow me, but he texted saying I was being "dramatic" and that it was "just a joke." I haven't seen him since.
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    Now his friends are messaging me saying I embarrassed him, and even my mom said I should have just "played along" instead
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    of storming off like a child. She said guys do dumb stuff sometimes and if I want to keep a man I need to “pick my battles."
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    I don't know. It just felt icky. Like he was trying to downplay our relationship or seem available for the attention?
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    SadyLoko OP UPDATE: He texted a few more times after i posted saying that I was "overreacting" and that I "can't take a joke," but no actual apology... Like... The audacity... Im so done
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    lamhungry_94 If you stay this will be your life Everything "is just a joke"
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    SadyLoko OP That's why im here now...
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    greyhounds4life1969 Then he's disrespecting you by ignoring your feelings, and this won't change. Do you really want to be humiliated every time you go out becuase of his 'jokes'?
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    Corella Deville007 Your mum's advice is terribly outdated. OMG "if you want to keep a man"... dear lord (and I'm in my 50s...)
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    SadyLoko OP Oh no... I love my mom and i respect her opinion. Id never do anything like that... On the other hand no one ever said that i will do what she said. Im a person of my own
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    jagjam that's him not caring about your feelings. You're not overreacting he's showing you he doesn't respect you or the relationship.
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    shinemyrtle NTA, I would just never speak to him again
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    Here_IGuess NTA He isn't joking. You aren't laughing. You aren't in on the joke. It's a comment being made at your expense.

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