Mother demands her 33-year-old daughter, Sofia, grow up after she lashes out at her sister Julie for asking their stepdad to give her away at the wedding: ‘She is way too old for this, it’s time for her to grow up’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Jun 29, 2025 10:00 PM EDT

Blended families are like assembling IKEA furniture with half the instructions missing and everyone insisting their way is best. In this household, the emotional hex key has always been Sofia.

Sofia, the eldest daughter, has never really moved past losing her dad or forgiven her mother for daring to find happiness again. Her younger sister Julie, who barely remembers their biological father, has long since adopted stepdad Jim as her real dad, much to Sofia's dismay. Therapy was attempted, but the only thing that got unpacked was a bigger box of resentment.

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  • AITA for telling my daughter she needs to grow up, and apolgize to her sister

    "I pulled Sofia aside and told her that she needs to apologize"
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  • When Julie announced her wedding plans and asked Jim to give her away, Sofia wasted no time accusing her sister of betraying their late father and managed to turn a happy family dinner into a battleground. Julie, tired of the drama, promptly uninvited Sofia from the wedding, proving she’s not afraid to draw a line in the sand.

  • My late husband d d when my oldest daughter (Sofia) was 9 and my youngest daughter (Julie) was 2. Julie has zero memories of her
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  • biological dad. I started to date 4 years after his death and remarried 7 years later (Sofia was 16 and Julie was 9). Sofia wanted
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  • nothing to do with him and looking back was a to him. My husband (Jim) never tried to force Sofia to see him as a father
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  • figure, but Julie did see him as a father figure. She refers to him as Dad. Both girls have been to therapy, Sofia hated it and I
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  • actaully think it made the issue below worse. Julie like it and helped her overcome never knowing bio dad.
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  • That was the main issue between Sofia and Julie, Sofia thought julie was abandoning and replaying their bio-dad. Julie made it very clear that Jim is her dad and basically bio-dad doesn't mean
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  • much to her since, she doesn't remember him. Many fights and their relationship was strained. Therapy didnt help, separate and group were tried.
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  • It got better when Sofia went off to college and they had space. Julie (24) is getting married. She announced this during dinner last Saturday and asked for Jim to
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  • give her away. Sofia did not take that well and started telling Julie that she was a horrible daughter and that she is replacing dad.
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  • The announcement was ruined and Julie told her not to come to the wedding. I pulled Sofia aside and told her that she needs to apologize to her sister for her
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  • outburst, that she is way too old for this and it is time for her to grow the f . That is fine that she doesn't see jim as her father but get over that her sister does.
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  • She was crying when I finished, told me it is my fault for getting remarried in the first place and had not contacted me since. I
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  • know she apologized to Julie but she won't respond to any of my texts.
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  • Their mother, who has spent years refereeing this emotional tug-of-war, finally snapped and told Sofia to apologize and grow up. Sofia, textbook toddler, blamed her mother for remarrying and then cut off contact, though she did manage to send an apology to Julie before disappearing from the family radar.

  • Sufficient-Effort760 NTA, I don't know what else you could've done, Jim's been around for 18 years? I can understand Sofia not wanting someone to replace her bio-dad, but to take it out on you and Julie for
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  • accepting Jim into the family is something else. Sofia apologizing to Julie is a step in the right direction, but seems like there's something deeper for her personally for faulting you for remarrying.
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