25-year-old boyfriend is hurt when his 24-year-old girlfriend greets his dog before leaping into his arms: '[She's] making me feel less important'

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    r/AmlOverreacting ⚫ cheesyjerky3 AIO for feeling hurt my girlfriend greets my dog with more enthusiasm than she greets me? relationship
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    My (25M) girlfriend (24F) and I have been together for almost a year. We've gone through a lot of ups and downs but are very committed to making things work. We love each other deeply, and she's a great person overall.
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    Here's my issue. I have a dog, Milo, who my girlfriend absolutely adores. And that's wonderful. I love that she loves my dog. But every time she comes over to my house, this same pattern happens: I stand by the door excited to greet her. •
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    We hug and give a quick hello kiss. Then she immediately runs into the house, calls Milo, sits on the floor, and spends the next 10-15 minutes completely zoned in on him, talking to him, cuddling him, kinda making me feel less important ⚫ When I try to chat with her during that time, she answers, but her focus stays on Milo.
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    Eventually she'll come sit with me, but even then, she keeps petting Milo and giving him attention.
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    It's not that I'm jealous of my own dog (which sounds hilarious). I love that Milo has her affection. But I can't shake this feeling of being...second place.
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    Earlier in our relationship, she'd come over and basically leap into my arms, excited to see me. She was engaged, affectionate, and fully present with me. Now, it feels like she's more excited to see Milo than to see me.
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    I finally brought it up to her recently even though it can be difficult to bring up my feelings because I never want to make someone feel bad if I feel sad but I made it clear that she's not doing anything wrong, it's just how I feel.
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    it's less about Milo and more about how I'm wired: • Growing up, I often felt like the sibling who was "less important,” or like I wasn't the center of anyone's world. • So with my partner, I crave feeling like their #1, at least for those first few moments when we reunite. And to be honest she is the first relationship I've been in where I've felt like #1.
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    My girlfriend listened and didn't get defensive (which I appreciate a lot). But she said she doesn't agree. she feels she does give me plenty of attention and thinks it's not a big deal. To be clear she does make me feel loved and gives me attention and affection. I
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    think we just may have different love languages. I'm very thankful that she heard me out and did not get defensive. It was very embarrassing if I'm being honest because it sounds like it's about a dog.
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    So...here I am. I want to stress again: I don't think my girlfriend is doing anything wrong. She's not malicious. She loves Milo and she loves me.
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    But is it unreasonable for me to feel a little hurt that her first big burst of affection goes to my dog instead of me? I don't even think any of this is a big deal, it's just something I've felt. I don't want this to be a big situation ya know.
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    Or does anyone else get why this might feel significant, because it's not just about a dog, but about wanting to feel prioritized and special in those first moments together? I think
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    it'd be a lot different if after our big greeting after a long days work and we had a cute catch up convo of closeness then by all means, go for the dog and I'll play piano in the living room for the house to enjoy. That's all I'm saying.
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    Thanks for reading. I genuinely want honest perspectives and please feel free to share if you think I'm being too sensitive or needy because if I'm being honest, I'm sure you can tell from this post that I am a very emotional guy. (Cancer sign here lol) I'm trying to understand my own feelings.
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    Dooraven Your feelings are valid, but you are slightly overreacting yeah. Earlier in our relationship, she'd come over and basically leap into my arms, excited to see me. She was engaged, affectionate, and fully present with me
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    Yes this is the normal phase all relationships go through - relationships go from infatuation to partnership to commitment. She's just no longer infatuated with you and that's ok and that's normal
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    Few-Regret4002 ⚫ Top 1% Commenter NOR totally understandable especially if this brings up past trauma/issues. good that she listened, she can agree to disagree however.. she needs to work on putting her love & excitement toward you first especially if that's what you need & are requesting.
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    Rivulet_Girl ⚫ Top 1% Commenter your feelings are valid. it's not about the dog, it's about wanting to feel seen and prioritized in that first moment. she's not wrong for loving your dog, but it's okay to want a quick moment of closeness with her first.
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    Not-a-Cranky-Panda ⚫ Personally I could not be with someone who was not like that.
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    Beneficial-Cell-6355 YOR who wouldn't want someone to greet there dog like this? That just screams green flag

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