11 and 14-year-old refuse to share their Nintendo Switch and toys with step siblings at mom's house, she files for custody out spite: "It’s led to a lot of jealousy"

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    AITA for not making my kids share their things with their half-siblings and “forcing” my ex to move?

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    I (45M) have two kids with my ex- wife Mel (40F): Emmy (14F) and Travis (11M). We divorced several years ago after a pretty nasty split. I'm not a high-income guy,
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    but I have a family trust from my grandfather that provides a very comfortable lifestyle. It wasn't counted in the divorce, nor could
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    it be touched for child support or alimony, which Mel still resents to this day.
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    Mel never went back to work after the divorce (she used to be a teacher), and I let her live rent- free in one of my parents' properties so the kids could stay
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    close. She's since remarried and has two more kids with her new husband, but money seems to still be a major issue in that household.
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    Here's where the real issue starts..my kids have a much "nicer" life, for lack of a better term. They go to private school, get good gifts (recently, a Switch 2, lacrosse gear, and a new
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    MacBook), and take vacations with me and my family. Their half-siblings don't get the same, and it's led to a lot of jealousy and fighting.
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    My kids refused to share their stuff with their half-siblings anymore because things have been broken in the past, like a PS4 that mysteriously stopped. working after a visit. They don't
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    want their stuff ruined, and honestly, I don't blame them. Apparently, this caused yet another meltdown between Mel and her husband, and now she's
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    banned the kids from bringing their gifts to her house at all.
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    So now they're staying with me more, because why would they want to go somewhere they can't enjoy the things they own?
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    This set off a domino effect. Mel is now filing for child support (which, again, she's allowed to do), and in response to
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    everything, my parents told her she'll need to start paying rent in September. She's now claiming she can't afford it and that we're
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    "forcing her to move out of state" even though she can't take the kids with her. It's turning into a full-blown meltdown.
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    But here's the thing, and I know this is harsh, at some point, she and her husband need to get it together and stop blaming me and my kids for their lack of resources. Life isn't always fair.
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    Our kids have different opportunities, and that's not my responsibility to "balance out." I'm not going to tell my kids they have to share everything just so their halfsiblings don't feel bad. That's not how the world works.
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    I could help more, sure, but why should I keep picking up the slack because she and her husband can't provide? I already let her live rent-free for years. I don't think I owe more than that.
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    That said, maybe I'm being too blunt or dismissive. AITA?
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    No_Cockroach4248 • 12h ago Your ex has not gone back to work, remarried and her new husband and kids live rent free along with your kids, in a property owned by
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    your parents. Your ex wants you to subsidise her and her new kids. NTA, but you should go to court for majority custody, the environment at your ex's is toxic.

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