'They keep our toddler up late and just sit at the table drinking beer': Wife lets 5-person family crash at their new house for an extended stay, husband wants to kick them out

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Jul 17, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

Having guests stay at your house can be a blessing and a curse. You probably feel good being useful to those who need a place to stay, and maybe you'll cash in on that favor when you want to stay in their neck of the woods. Maybe you like the idea of getting a guestroom together, buying all those little soaps from HomeGoods, and making sure they have what they need. 

But having people stay at your house can also interrupt your routine in crucial ways. You're not used to having them in your space, so you have to adjust your morning routine accordingly. Maybe you're used to waking up slowly and not having to say a word before you have had your first cup of coffee. But Cheryl and Todd are here, and they need directions to the Metropolitan Museum of Art before you've had your first sip. It's a double-edged sword, especially when you have kids. 

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    AITA for kicking my wife's family out after they kept extending their stay?

    AITA for wanting to kick my wifes family out? We just bought a house 2 weeks ago. We're not even fully unpacked, when my wife's parents said "hey next month can we come stay 3 nights over the weekend?" It
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  • Interrupting a kid's routine can be detrimental to everyone's mental health. That's why the people in this situation got so fed up with their relatives' extended stay. But they weren't sure who was in the right, so they turned to the internet for opinions. Read on to see what happened in this story. 

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    would be her mom, dad and the two youngest siblings. The week they asked they changed their mind, packed the car and just drove here. They got here on a Sunday and said we're only staying 3 nights. Then 2 nights into it said
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    we want to stay 1 more night. Now her sister wants to come up here and spend the weekend. This whole week there's a few people staying over. I WANT EVERYONE GONE. I'm working late to not come home. My routine is gone. I need to mow and do other house chores. They keep our toddler up late and just sit at the table
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    drinking beer. Yeah sure they bought us some great house gifts and I feel twisted. I do care about them and want my wife's family and want her to see them. Am I the ahle for telling my wife never to do this again and asking them to leave early? Also never allow people to stay here during the week when I have to go to work?
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    Commenters understood where he was coming from.

    glamorouslionsurge... • 2h ago NTA. You don't have an in-law problem, you have a wife problem. Why is she allowing her family to invade your brand new home, a home you've been in for only TWO WEEKS? Her job is to manage her family and protect your
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    new life together. Instead, she's letting them turn it into a free-for-all hotel. You need to have a serious talk with HER. The two of you are a team, and she's letting the other team run all over you.
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    FinanciallySecure9 • 2h ago NTA. It's totally understandable. But maybe tone it down a bit, especially if you haven't said anything to them about this. Maybe tonight, at dinner, instead of avoiding them, you open a conversation about the date they plan to leave. Let them know you would like your home back.
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    To them it's a house. But to you, it's your home. Big difference. You deserve to live in peace. Don't ask them to leave, instead, tell them something like, "it has been great having you here, thanks for coming. We will be needing to resume our regular life before the weekend, so I'd like to do a final farewell on Thursday evening. What kind of food would you like?"
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    OptimistPrime527 • 2h ago NTA. Your wife needs to tell them it's time to dip.
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    Moron-Whisperer ⚫2h ago NTA. Only issue I have is your spouse should have did it instead of you. Got a problem with her family, tell her and ask her to take care of it. She should do the same to yours.
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    Fair_Theme_9388 • 2h ago NTA, but have you even talked to your wife about it? Is she annoyed with the situation at all? Either way, she needs to be the one to tell them to leave, and also have the conversation that they can't just show up and stay during the week unplanned.
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    Commercial_Blood2... 2h ago . Remember this is Reddit bud and you're going to have to live with whatever decision you make, so all these people stating NTA won't have to deal with the fallout from this. Meaning they can say you're in the right all they want, that doesn't mean that's how your wife will see it. You better
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    have a discussion with to her before you do anything, and realize this might be how her family operates, in which case you could inspire a negative reaction even suggesting they leave. Personally I'd want them to leave at this point to, but that doesn't mean it's going to sit well with the wife. You know her better than any of us, think about how you think she'll react and then plan accordingly.
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    Fumblre 2h ago NTA for wanting to kick them out, but you would be TA if you just told your wife "never do this again." That's just going to lead to a fight and create resentment.
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    Instead of just telling her what to do, start the conversation by telling her how you feel. Explain that you're uncomfortable in your own new home because her family feels free to just drop by whenever. Tell her how disruptive this is to your routine and your toddler's routine. It sounds like you
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    haven't asked your wife how she feels about all this, she might be just as uncomfortable as you are but feel pressured by her family. Start by laying your feelings. out, then have a discussion about boundaries your wife can set with her family. And
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    note I said discussion, not "never again and never while I'm working." That's you making unilateral decisions, that's not partners working together to solve a problem.
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    Visual-Lobster6625 ·2h ago NTA - you need to have this conversation with your wife. You need time to unpack the house without a bunch of people in the way and without having to host anyone. They can plan visits/stays after you've settled in.
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    Icy-... . 2h ago Edited 2h ago Sometimes we gotta s k it up for those we love. Esp if they're not harming anyone or being obnoxious. We have to pick our battles PUT THEM TO WORK, GIVE THEM SOMETHING TO SO DAILY. Cut the grass, put up a fence, etc...
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    If you kick them out YWBTA in her and her family's eyes. Have a conversation with the wife, tell her they need to go this weekend and you guys need to set boundaries going forward with them. No visits during the week. You both must agree on company going forward
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    Alarming_Finish_88... 2h ago . Not the a h le at all and you and your wife should have been able to enjoy the start of a new chapter in your life in your new home without anyone planning visits. As it's your wife's family I would suggest she tell them they overstayed their welcome and you both and toddler need your NEW space back.
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    Long_Ad_2764 • 2h ago NTA. You need to make it clear to your wife that just showing up for a weekend visit is not appropriate.
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