Woman backs out of girls' trip and offers to pay her $200 share of the Airbnb, her friends want her to pay the full $300 cancellation fee: 'I decided to not go anymore for personal and safety reasons'

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JR Atkinson • Writer and Editor
Jul 19, 2025 10:00 PM EDT

Organizing a trip with a lot of people isn't always the easiest task. There is a lot that goes into making sure everyone is happy. Let's say you're going with four friends. One of you would rather stay in a hotel, and one of you would rather stay in an Airbnb where you can cook. Another one loves to try fancy restaurants, and the other is on a very strict budget. You love walking and taking public transportation, but your friend would rather take a car. 

Two of you are single and love to hit the bars, but the other two are in long-term relationships and want to call their partners every night. These are all normal things on their own, but put them together and you have the recipe for a fair amount of drama, especially when money gets involved, which, if you're going on a trip, it always does. 

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    AITAH for not covering the whole trip that was cancelled?

    So me and two friends (A and B) decided to rent an Airbnb and the whole cost was $600.00 (I'm rounding it up to make it easier). Friend A was the one who made the reservation and paid in full so that me and friend B would give A our share ($200.00 each) later. not to long
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  • Take, for example, what happened in this story. A group of friends decided to go on a girls' trip together, but one of them got cold feet at the last minute. Though she tried her best to make it right financially and not leave her friends in the hole, they weren't satisfied with what she had to offer. 

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    after our trip i decided to not go anymore for personal and safety reasons, but the rental Host would only give 50% refund if we cancelled and both friend A and friend B still wanted to go. I said if they still wanted to go I would give my share ($200.00) since I took the responsibility of being part of it before and they could go without me.
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    friend A said that I should pay $300.00 because I was the one who didn't want to go, not them, and if they were to cancel it that would be the total loss. I didn't agree with it, because why would I pay for half of the trip when is not even canceled yet? Friend A says they would ask another person if they wanted to go, but if they didn't then they expected me to pay $300.00. I, once again said that wouldn't be fair and that I would pay my share only.
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    the next day friend A sends a message informing me that the other person they invited did not want to go and that they had cancelled the house, a picture was sent with proof of refund. Now they expected that I paid the full amount of $300.00 because I backed out first, even though they also chose to cancel it, and also said they did not want to ask for person's B share because they too wanted to go. I told them that if they ask for person's B share or not is not my problem, my only responsibilit
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    But now that the refund was made I believe that the correct amount for each person to pay is of $100.00 and I still think it should be split equally since they opted out of going as well, I never forced them to not go but actually said I would still pay MY part in full and they chose not to go. Once again the said I was being unfair and should take all the loss. I refused and sent $105.00 for my share and told them that was my share and that it would be all I was going to pay.
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    so AITAH for not paying for the whole thing? edit: person's A reasoning for not going through with the trip was because they didn't want to split food and gas into 2, but 3. And initially they wanted a bigger and prettier house that could fit 4-5 people, but i didn't want that one because it was too expensive (about $850)
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    Commenters thought this through with them.

    NaomiiBlythe 4h ago NTA, you offered to pay your full share even though you weren't going. They chose to cancel the whole trip, that was their decision tho. Asking you to pay $300 just caused you backed out first?? They're crazy!!
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    TravisBlink 5h ago . NTA. You did everything right. I can't understand their "logic" of asking for more than $200 if they went, or $100 if they didn't
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    nnbofficial • 5h ago NTA. You backed out, yes but you offered to pay your full $200 so they could still go. They chose to cancel. That's on them.
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    Friend A can't shift the entire loss onto you just because you were the first to drop out. If they wanted to go, they should've gone you weren't stopping them. The fair thing was to split the lost 50% refund ($300) three ways = $100 each. You even paid a little extra. Honestly, they're being manipulative. You handled it like an adult.
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    Street-Teach3262 OP 4h ago . thank you guys for the comments. I thought it was simple logic but they kept going at it as if I was just being dumb and cheap, I was starting to believe I was going crazy. Burnt my last brain cells with that one not gonna lie.
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    . EternallySickened · 3h ago The 'friend' suggesting you should pay for everything is not really your friend.... But they are the AH.
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    bubble... • • 5h ago Edited 5h ago NTA. You did not cancel the trip. You simply chose not to go. You even offered to pay your full share so they could still go without you, which was the responsible thing to do. They made the decision to cancel, and that is on them. Friend A is just trying to shift the blame and cost onto you. You handled this fairly and with maturity.
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    SilverSaintCD · 5h ago • NTA you guys made a prior agreement to split the pay three ways and they both decided to cancel so it should still be split three ways evenly. you're not responsible for them not going since you would've paid your share
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    YouSayWotNow • 5h ago Nope. You were obliged to pay back only the $200 that was your share. That means they could have still gone ahead and suffered absolutely no loss.
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    And they also suffered no loss when they chose to cancel (which they had absolutely no financial need to do). NTA
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    Mela777 3h ago • NTA. Your friends chose to cancel entirely when it would not have cost them extra for the accommodation if they'd gone. Their stated reason is that they didn't want to pay more for gas and food? Gas would be a few
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    dollars, which seems ridiculous, and why would you have been covering any food costs beyond your own? Two people eat less than three if there was a plan for eating at the AirBNB instead of going out for each meal. As written, it sounds like your friend intended for you to subsidize their trip and pay for at least part of their food costs, as well as gas and lodgings.
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    Cebuanolearner 5h ago Give them 100 or nothing
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    . Nllogan 3h ago Get new friends. You decided to not go due to personal and safety reasons. You offered a nice compromise.
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    Valuable Ice_5927 • 2h ago I'm confused on why friend A&B didn't just go even after you decided not to - or are you the glue that holds the friendship together Either way - NTA - you decided to split evenly between the 3 of you ($200 each) - you offered to pay that even though you decided you couldn't go
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    Siderant - it's reasons like this why I've moved off Airbnb/vrbo and back to hotels where I can book a room without no cancellations fee up to 24hrs prior
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    NixKlappt-Reddit • 3h ago NTA There was no need to cancel, you paid your share. If they cancel, that's their problem.
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    Cinemaphreak • 3h ago not to long after our trip i decided to not go anymore for personal and safety reasons "After" the trip??? "Safety reasons"?????
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    CALLMAKERTOM 2h ago Possible YTA: If you were a "key part" of the vacation, and the other two wouldn't enjoy the holiday a lot without you, then you backing out is essentially canceling the vacation, so you should pay the cancelation fully. If the friends hadn't canceled the trip, I think it would have been fair for you to pay the 200$ plus a third of the gas cost.
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    cryptogambler99 • 2h ago Why did they cancel it when you said you would cover the cost? They canceled because they don't want to go either. All three of you should split the 300 non refundable.
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    Signal2NoisePhoto • 2h ago You're both, but different reasons. YTA for bailing after the commitment was made and lodging paid. If safety was an issue, you shouldn't have agreed from jump. Clearly didn't do your research. NTA for not agreeing to pay an extra $100 - that's just a foolish request on their part.
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    pakiranian 2h ago Assuming they chose not to go because you canceled I think it's 100% fair to expect you to pay the full cancellation. So if that's the case, I would say YTA. It's crazy to me that they expected you to pay 300 while they were still considering going though. Had they decided to go, 200 was definitely the fair amount.
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    minja134.38m ago You pay $200 and they get to split the other $100 - $50 each. That sounds pretty fair to me.
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    Truckerbarr • 2h ago NTA. You offered to pay your 200 if they went. It would have been even. Since they decided to cancel the 300 gets split evenly and you pay 100. Person A sounds like he's trying to make money off of you.
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    Bluewaveempress • 2h ago I would never trust any of you to make plans again if I was the person who originally made the plans and paid for everything however you're not the ah le
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