37-year-old coworker accuses 23-year-old roommate of stealing promotion, has meltdown when she refuses to move out until the end of the month: 'She didn't even apply'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Jul 20, 2025 9:00 PM EDT

I don't know about you, but colleagues rank pretty high on my list of people whom I would rather not share a home with. It's not that I don't get along with them; it's that there is a high risk of potential drama that comes from mixing the personal and professional in this most inescapable of ways. When things are tense in the workplace, the place where you live should be able to be a refuge from that, and vice versa. Having the two be completely separate saves a lot of stress.

It isn't exactly common for coworkers to cohabitate, at least not with standard 9-to-5 office jobs. Still, sometimes circumstances lead colleagues to both live and work under the same roof. This is a situation that can test even the most rock-solid of relationships, so it is inevitable that the two-facedness that comes from the workplace can make things extra messy. 

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    AITA for taking my roommate's promotion and then not leaving when she kicked me out?

    I (23f) moved into a spare room of a coworker (37F) in March after leaving an emotionally ab ive relationship. We were friendly and things started out great. There was a third person that also lived in the 3 bedroom 1 bathroom home. In May I applied went through the interview process and was offered a promotion. This is where things go sideways..... my roommate stops coming home for multiple days at a time (not a huge deal, her kitties are pretty self sufficient) Things begin to be tense in pass
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  • One young woman dealt with this after she got a promotion at work, to the displeasure of one of her roommates, who also happened to be her coworker. After she received the good news, she started noticing that the other woman was spending less time at home and committing time theft at work, and some of her other colleagues were not speaking to her.

    She eventually found out that her roommate felt that she had taken a promotion that she should have had, although she never applied for the position. Things got increasingly difficult at work and at home, leading the other woman to demand that she move out. She refused to do so until the end of the month, but she wondered if she was being unreasonable.

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    things happened close together. First I caught her doing this. While she is on the clock hiding in a back office scrolling when I stumble upon her. I am a supervisor on shift this day. She is not a direct report for me but is among the level of staff that I supervise. As being new to the role and knowing this was an established issue i felt the need to report it to my superiors. To my knowledge she doesn't know it was me to report this (no she didnt get fired or anything) but she's a smart enoug
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    internal applicants. So when I asked I asked how her interview when I was FLOORED her reply was that she DID NOT even Apply! After this and her ranting and venting about it we had very little contact. More than passing in the hallway or being at work together. Though I worked hard to maintain professional standards and distance. Until last week. I am supervisor and her and one of her best friends are my "team". In short it was an emotionally exhausting day where I made extra efforts to let them
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    us). Anyway she declines this also. A few more days go by and I run ibto her at home. I hand her my rent money and just ask how we can move forward. She essentially tells me the only moving is going to be me moving out. I say ok I can be out in the next 7-10days but. I'll need some rent back because im not paying for a month when I have to leave by the 15th. She starts yelling about how thats bulls and how disrespectful I've been as a roommate and how she's not giving me anything back. Her examp
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    Commenters advised her on how to proceed with the situation.

    JMarchPineville You can't steal a promotion that she didn't even apply for. She's jealous and decided to try to make your life miserable. You may want to let HR know what's going on for their awareness for when she escalates, because it's coming.
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    CatsGotMyBack You may want to let HR know what's going on for their awareness for when she escalates, because it's coming. Definitely do this and do it ASAP.
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    doyoudesirepayne81 She's what we like to call toxic, miserable, and unable to accept she's the problem. Move out, move on. NTA. You paid for July, stay till the end. Sorry you've found yourself in this situation, congratulations on the promotion. Oh, and, the cats will not drown in the toilet. She's an idiot.
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    curiousblondwonders "I didnt steal your promotion that you never even applied for. And im not leaving unless you either pay me for half of the month or im staying as I have every right too." Then you march your behind to HR and ask to have it documented that she is saying these things about you and the company you work for because her behavior puts your job at risk as a supervisor andnot going to get in trouble for her drama.
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    rosegarden207 NTA. If she didn't apply for the promotion how would she have gotten it? And if you paid for a whole month of rent definetly stay but be careful she doesn't damage any of your things. I totally wouldn't trust her and would start moving my stuff out asap. Be purely professional at work and maybe even have a discussion with HR about potential problems due to being an ex roommate.
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    Environmental-Cell21 When you do move out take pictures of everything as you leave, with timestamp. Tell the landlord now..(unless she's the landlord I don't remember) also she can't legally kick you out without going to the magistrate and filing an eviction if she is the landlord and she needs cause. Yes she can ask you to leave but if you have a lease she can't force you out. Even if you don't, she still needs to go to court. And as everyone else said, be in HR 1st thing in the morning and wit
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    Vivid-Farm6291 She is beyond delusional. So she thought that she is such a fantastic employee that she would get a promotion she didn't apply for?? Delusional. Made complaints against you but won't discuss them. Now she wants you to pay rent but get out of your PAID room? Delusional I think you should talk to HR about all of this before she ruins your job. ΝΤΑ
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    Dismal Knee_4123 Be careful when people tell you to report what happens at home to HR. Firstly, your living arrangements are really none of their business, they aren't going to get involved in a rent dispute. However, where they may have an issue is with you renting a room from someone who reports to you - this could be considered a conflict of interest and may cause you more trouble than it causes her.
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    AtlJazzy2024 NTA. Even if she had applied for the promotion, you didn't steal it. It was offered to you. She is mad because you're younger, and she knows it would have been offered to you even if she had applied. HR might already be on to her, but do tell them anyway. They need to see how you handle conflict.
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    pacodefan "I'm so ped off at Travis Hunter. I should have won the Heisman Trophy." -"Oh? You played college football?" "No, but I always wanted one."
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    Mental-Pitch5995 This made me laugh. Of course you're not the AH. This coworker roommate is a ticking time bomb of BS. She's the one with a problem and quite frankly it's time to let her ship sink without care or concern. Next work misstep formally write her up. Let her know that the gloves are officially off.
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    MeowfiaVsHoomans Definitely NTA. Please, you're young and just got promoted and she's extremely jealous of you. Talk to HR, so there will be no chance for her to ruin anything for you at your job.
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    Due-Apartment-5471 This whole situation is nuts. How does one get a promotion without applying? And how does one think they can kick out a roommate who paid their rent for the month? She's delusional, take pics with timestamps when you leave (I'd even do it NOW), and go straight to HR in the morning and start a paper trail to cover your a This has hostile work environment/workplace . bu ying all over it.
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    Beneficial-Sort4795 You need to let HR and your supervisor know you are living with this woman, she's upset at your recent promotion and it has bled in to her interactions with you at work. You can't have her (or her minion) on your team because they're actively trying to get you demoted. That you need concrete specific examples of their issues with you at work because otherwise, they are creating a hostile work environment for you based on drama outside work and their complaints have no merit a
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    Jazzlike-Bird-3192 What a load of nonsense this woman is spouting. You didn't "steal" her promotion. She didn't apply. It's a cr p situation you are in a the moment, but she's bonkers. Log everything that has happened and what has been said. If she comes at you again at work, make sure you are prepared. She will get her due. NTA
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    FlashyHabit3030 NTA. You didn't still a non existent promotion because she never applied. Also, you're entitled to stay until the end of July. Document everything and hopefully you'll find something quickly that's even better than where you are currently living.
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    Emotional_Bonus_934 You're a tenant so she has to give you notice. Not just tell you to be out. You've paid for the month she can't kick you out in the middle
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    Whatevergrowup First, stop saying you stole a promotion. You can't steal something you applied for and she didn't. So stop saying that, it only feeds into her narrative. Second, you are not refusing to move out, you are refusing to give her two weeks rent without living in the space. She is a brat that doesn't understand how the real world works. Third; I'd go to HR and explain everything to them so they know what is going on in your life and ask that you not be assigned to supervise her again.
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