"I feel like I lost my best friend and my boyfriend in one night": 26-year-old maid of honor humilates boyfriend by publically rejecting his marriage proposal during best friend's wedding reception, both BF and BFF ghost her after fiasco

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    AITAH for publicly rejecting my boyfriend's proposal?

    "We hadn't even discussed marriage!"
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    Myself and my boyfriend (T) are both 26 and have been together for 1.5 years. My bestfriend (E) got married just over 1 week ago. Me and E have
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    been friends since we were 5 and in preschool. I was her maid of honour and my boyfriend was invited, he's friendly with E's husband, not so
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    much E but they do get along fine. The ceremony was perfect and the reception was going absolutely great.
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    Like halfway through the reception, me and my boyfriend had obviously had a few drinks. We were dancing and singing with E, her husband and
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    others when my boyfriend got down on one knee, pulled out what looked like a ring box and started to say my full name in a serious voice. Obviously
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    my heart absolutely dropped, E's face dropped, literally everyone was looking over at us. I laughed and
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    pulled him up and carried on dancing. He looked confused but put away the box.
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    E looked like she was about to cry and when I say I have never been more embarrassed, I mean I have never been so embarrassed
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    in my life. E's whole family saw, some of my family were there and saw, all of our friends saw. If we disregard how completely tacky it is to propose at
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    someone else's wedding and steal their day, it was so obvious that he hadn't even asked permission from the bride or groom before hand!!!
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    After about 5 mins of awkward dancing, T took me outside and basically asked "what the f was that". I went off at him for the above
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    reasons but he just doesn't seem to comprehend why it's wrong to propose at someone else's wedding.
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    would you gate crash Why the f someone else's party? Why steal someone else's special day? Why steal their thunder? We hadn't even
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    discussed marriage!! He took a taxi to his parents after we argued for about 15/20 mins and I went home when the reception ended.
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    Obviously I apologised profusely to E. She is understandably upset and has asked for space which I'm obviously devastated about. I feel like I lost my
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    bestfriend and boyfriend in one night and neither of them have really spoken to me much in the past week.
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    T is saying i completely humiliated him. AITAH here? I feel like I couldn't have done much different in the
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    moment but I've now lost the 2 most important people in my life due to my decisions. Any advice is so so much appreciated right now. Thank you
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    Competitive_Tale_799 Best friend should come around once emotions have calmed down and realizes you don't support BFs actions. I think you and BF are over, though. NTA for rejecting the proposal.
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    Capable_Morning4127 OP I hope so. I feel like I'm missing a limb without her. I've not really attempted to contact T, like I've not gone out of my way to beg for
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    forgiveness but I have messaged to check in on him every now and again as I get it would have been embarrassing for him too. But this is the kind of thing I'd vent to Emily
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    about but she's trying to enjoy her honey moon and hasn't responded to any of my messages since Wednesday. She's like my sister so I really hope we can recover from this.
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    sceadusquirrel NTA. Proposing publicly without even discussing marriage beforehand is stupid enough on its own, but to do it
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    at someone else's wedding without getting permission from the bride and groom is beyond stupid.
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    Aggressive Trade2016 If he's not emotionally developed enough to understand how ride it is to propose at someone else's wedding, he's not the one for you. I'm so sorry he embarrassed you like that.
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    dismal-duckling He may as well have worn a wedding dress himself

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