'Middle school relationship core': 25-year-old boyfriend calls thoughtful 22-year-old girlfriend hypersensitive when she throws out the 6-month anniversary scrapbook she made him, after he makes fun of it with friend group in public

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    AITA for throwing away a gift after my boyfriend made fun of it in front of his friends?

    So me (22F) and my boyfriend (25M) have been dating for about 6 months. A little while ago for his birthday I made him a small gift it was a handmade mini
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    scrapbook with some photos, tickets from stuff we did together, personal notes etc. I spent a decent amount of time on it
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    because I wanted to do something thoughtful instead of just buying something generic. When I gave it to him he was sweet about it. Said he loved it,
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    put it up on his shelf. I thought that was that. Anyway a few days later we were hanging out and drinking with
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    some of his friends and the topic of his gifts came up. My boyfriend kind of laughed and described mine as "middle school relationship core". His friends
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    laughed. He wasn't outright mocking me, but the way he kept describing it all and the contents like it was something childish made me feel embarrassed. I
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    smiled and laughed along, but inside I felt kind of crushed. I didn't say anything then but I cried when I got home.
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    Afterwards I quietly took it and threw it away. I know that might sound petty but I was in my feelings and it just felt like a joke
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    seeing it now, not something sweet. Like I was the only one taking it seriously. I know he doesn't really keep anything
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    sentimental, he keeps his place clean and decorations to a minimum so maybe I should've just gotten him something practical for his bday instead of
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    making something he had no use for. He noticed it was gone yesterday and asked where it went. I told him I threw it out and when I
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    explained why, he told me I was being dramatic. Said it was just a stupid joke, that I always take things too personally, and that if anything I'd overreacted instead of just telling him before.
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    Now I feel kind of dumb. I know he didn't mean to hurt my feelings, but it still stung. And I'm wondering AITA by taking it so
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    personally and escalating by throwing the thing away so now he feels like the bad guy?
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    MrsCakeakaJane Don't stay with someone who's comfortable making fun of you in front of his friends, god only knows what he's saying behind your back. you deserve better
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    9tails 1501 He DID mean to hurt your feelings by using such a belittling description of your thoughtful gift. He's still hurting your feelings and hasn't even thought to apologise.
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    SoSaysTheAngel NTA. Your boyfriend made fun of you. You put time, effort, and thought into a lovely gift, and he disrespected it, and you.
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    beckt16 NTA. major red flags OP. kick his a to the curb. my partner brags about me EVERY DAY to his friends. he would NEVER make fun of something i put time and effort into making him.
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    ohthatface I think he may have actually intended to hurt your feelings. It was extremely personal, take it that way. Very much NTA
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    dryadduinath i mean, he doesn't seem to feel like the bad guy? what part of calling you dramatic and telling you you can't take a joke says "i feel guilty," exactly?
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    MysteriousDig4656 Saying "It's just a joke" makes the offence worse, not lighter. NTA
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    eve thoughts He intentionally mocked you in front of his friends. That's not cool, he is seeking validation from that kind of friend and it's not a positive one. You gotta let him go and a find a better one. Don't allow him to diminish your self worth any further. Have a good day!

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