16-year-old refuses to let stepmom have the full experience of being a “girl mom” by distancing herself, stepmom desperately tries to guilt trip her, she stands her ground: ‘It’s not my job to make up for you only having boys’

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Aug 7, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Motherhood is something that so many women dream of and think about. From fantasizing about naming their children, to how many they'll have, to what genders they want. If you're a woman who ever grew up wanting children of her own, you know that it's common scripture to plan out and dream about every detail of motherhood. Of course, not every woman wants to be a mother, and not every mom is a good mom. 

As ubiquitous as it is to fantasize about motherhood, we are all fully aware of the sumptuous stereotypes of moms. There's the brazen and domineering mother-in-law, the controlling and jealous stepmother, and a simply diabolical biological mom. Some people are blessed with moms they become best friends with, while others struggle to have a simple conversation with their mother. 

In the story below, the protagonist is a teenage girl who's sick and tired of seeing her stepmom fuss over her. She ignores her male siblings because she wants to be a "girl mom." 

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    AITA for not giving my stepmom the experience of being a girl mom?

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    I (16f) have divorced parents and two older full brothers (19m and 21m. I was 5 when the divorce happened and 7 when my dad remarried. My stepmom had a son
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    (20m) when she met dad and her and my dad have two sons together, my younger half brothers (7m and 5m). Back when we met my stepmom was extra nice to me
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    and even my brothers told dad it was like they weren't there. After that she was less obvious about it but she was always more interested
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    in me and made a way bigger effort to be close to me.
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    I never liked that. I don't think she was trying to make me uncomfortable but I heard her say to a friend of hers that she was excited to have a little girl among
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    the three boys now in the house and it made me feel like she wanted to be my mom. And I was always a momma's girl. There's nobody I'm closer to than my mom
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    and I never wanted another. Plus my parents shared custody of me so every other week I was at mom's
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    house and it wasn't like my stepmom was my custodial stepparent or anything.
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    She never made the effort with my brothers. Not once. She did spend time with her bio sons (step and half brothers) but she even made less of an effort with them.
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    It was always kind of awkward around dad's house when I was there every other week. And last year I decided to reduce the time I
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    spent at his house. He understood my reasons and told me he'd like me to reconsider but wouldn't fight about it.
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    Only now that I'm not there as much my stepmom's more pushy about us spending time together. She's always pre-booking spa days to try and make me hang out with
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    her. She "wins" (I know she doesn't win most of those and only says it to try and make me go) a lot of lunch for two prizes online for places I like to go to. And whenever
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    I go with her she's trying to make it last forever. So I say no 99% of the time to stuff and I always make excuses to have to leave after an hour or maybe two.
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    She told me she hates that I'm not spending time with her much and she's tried everything and she doesn't understand what she did wrong. She told me it's not that I'm
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    too embarrassed to be seen with my parents because I go out with mom all the time and she even sees me include my friends in hanging out with mom. I told her
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    that's the difference. That mom's my mom and we're very close. She said she's my other/bonus mom and only ever wanted to experience being a girl mom but the only girl
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    doesn't want anything to do with her. She said she feels robbed and I told her it wasn't my job to make up for her only having boys and
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    that she's only my stepmom not my real mom or my second mom or my bonus mom.
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    I left dad's house early because of my stepmom and dad texted me that night saying she was upset and that he hoped we could work it out. That was followed by three
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    texts from her saying I was unfair and never gave her a chance to be my bonus mom and for her to be a girl mom. AITA?
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