New mother creates 70-person WhatsApp group to send daily pictures of her newborn baby, child-free best friend leaves group chat, claiming that she is always seeking attention: 'She added me during the most important weekend of my career'

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Emma Saven
Aug 18, 2025 11:00 PM EDT

When we are young, the girls' group chat is the only appropriate form of communication. It holds the hottest gossip, the hottest guys, and screenshot after screenshot of whether he said 'hey' or 'hi'. Its shared media reaches the thousands pretty soon after its establishment, and it's filled with the girls looking their absolute best and their absolute worst…But as we get older, and our lives become a rollercoaster filled with big-girl responsibilities, the group chat tends to pass on…however, there will always be those who are ever so desperate to resuscitate them..

Except now, the 'Which shoe is better for the club?' pics have turned into endless baby photos nobody asked for! Especially for this friend, who has chosen to be child-free. How does she tell her friend that scrolling through a 70-person WhatsApp group with endless identical pictures of her newborn baby is not really how she enjoys spending her free time… We can get behind a monthly update with a cute little sign reading '2 months', but this is starting to get a bit excessive! 

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  • First, it was a 120-person group chat for her labor journey…like who does that? Each to their own, I guess. Now, this friend is stuck in an awkward situation…Does she tell her friend how she feels about her entitlement and disregard for understanding that the world does not revolve around her and her baby…or does she keep quiet and learn to press the mute button?

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    Mother taking a picture of her baby
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    AITA for not joining my best friend’s 70 person what’s app with daily photos of her baby?

    My best friend had a baby and she LOVES to take and send photos of that baby, which is understandable. Babies are adorable and all consuming. I live
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    far away from her. Sometimes she sends me like 25 photos at a time. I know she's just wanting to share her life with me, and her kid is the most important part of her life.
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    I am childfree by choice and while I love my friends' kids, I'm not much of a "baby person." I try to love and appreciate babies, but it's always a stretch. I feel bad
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    about this sometimes, but that's just how I feel. My friend is very comfortable starting huge group texts and welcoming lots of cross talk.
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    When she was in labor, she started a 120 person group what's app, for example. When she has a mental health crisis, she'll start a 30 person group chat
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    with a bunch of people I don't know. In some ways, it's something I admire about her - she's unafraid of asking for support and to be witnessed
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    during the big moments in her life, and she values including people. Other parts of me find this behavior to be kind of entitled. Maybe I'm too afraid to
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    Just start a huge group chat about a big thing in my life, and therefore I judge her for it. But I also just find it intrusive. Anyways, recently she added me to a 70 person what's app group
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    for daily photos of Her baby. I messaged her that sadly I did not want to participate because I use what's app for work and other things, and I find huge chats overwhelming, but that I'll gladly
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    continue to receive pics in our 1:1 texting. She seemed pretty hurt and pointed out that I have no issue being in another friend's what's app group about her baby. That's true but that's because -
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    that other friend only posts once a month or so and is much more thoughtful about how much she uses the group. I feel this is honestly causing a rift between us. It feels so petty - and
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    yet it also feels deep somehow. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just a huge curmudgeon and should have sucked it up and been quietly annoyed about the group but not said anything. However
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    it's clearly about a deeper issue - the ways in which we feel or dont feel entitled to the attention of others. One last thing to note - she added me to The group during the most important weekend of
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    my career, where I was facilitating a very high stakes and emotional retreat (which my friend knew about). In some Ways, because I am childfree by choice, my career IS my baby - but it's not something seen and cherished by others like a baby is.
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    SoccerProblem3547 Just put that convo on silent, you won't get notifications I feel like this is really easily to ignore without hurting anyone's feelings
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    Smarterthanuthink867 Definitely NTA. Honestly your BF really seems to crave attention. Being in labor and starting a 120 person group chat...W F?! As another commenter said, just put the conversation on silent. Respond when you want.
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    Phoenix Rising Today NTA Not understanding why someone would not want to get daily photos (of anything/anyone) is immature and self absorbed.
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    FrayCrown NTA. I've noticed that as a child free Millennial, a lot of my friends and family who are having kids are...obsessed.
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    NoHorseNoMustache NTA, nobody needs that many pictures of their friends baby. My bff had a kid like 13 years ago now and I think she sent me one pic because there's absolutely no need to send dozens of pics of your baby on a regular basis. Your friend sounds exhausting.
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    Careless-Ability-748 nta I'm not joining any group with that many people, I don't care what they're posting about.
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    Worth-Season3645 NTA....Tell your friend this is not about her baby. This is about being in a group that you are receiving a bazillion texts a day from anyone. You simply do not have time for that. It could be about a baby, a dog, a spouse, etc.
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    Traditional-Swan-130 NTA. You're allowed to have boundaries around how much digital noise you wanna deal with
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