Divorced father buys his only son a luxury car for his 16th birthday, sparking conflict with his ex-wife, who demands that he buy equivalent gifts for her new husband's children: 'With the money, you could have gotten all three kids cars'

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    Father and son driving together
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    AITA for getting our son a luxury car when I never have money for my Ex Wife’s kids?

    I 47M have one son 16M with my Ex-wife 44F "Anna" we actually have an okay relationship but things just didn't work out because I put my career first and
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    she's more of a "follow your heart" kind of person (financially irresponsible).We divorced when she was pregnant with our son and then she had his brother 15M
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    and sister 14F. Anna always complains that I have money to spend on our son but I never spend anything on his siblings when their dad (her husband) gets my son things.
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    While that's nice of him I'm not interested in the whole blended family thing, I have one child and that's it. So I don't buy them birthday or Christmas gifts, take
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    them on vacation or anything like that but of course I get my son those things. And there's always a fight when I take our son out of
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    school to travel, she thinks it's unfair to his siblings and I'm making him fall behind but I that's honestly not the reason she's just in denial...
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    Angry woman shouting
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    He turned 16 last week and I got him his dream car which is was a "luxury" car. But the way I see it any car is a luxury since any new model car can be expensive so I
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    don't think it makes him that spoiled, it would be one thing if I was breaking the bank but since I'm not and he's my only son he should have whatever he likes.
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    Anna is overprotective in my opinion, she accused me of getting him a car he could "k I himself" with. And she was upset because with the money I could
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    have gotten all three kids cars or at least money for ones in the future... I got mad too, because first of all her kids aren't old enough to drive in the and when
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    they do get old enough why would I be the one to buy them a car? I might be the a because | did call her THAT word, in front of our son and I told her I didn't
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    care about her kids when she pointed out I never get gifts for their birthdays or holidays. She said I was heartless but that's just how I really feel, I don't want to be anything to them.
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    Right now I have the car because she won't let him keep it at her house which just feels petty.
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    2muchlooloo2 Your wife and her new husband have a blended family you have your son and your son only. Yes it's nice that her husband is buying gifts for your son because that is his stepson. Her children ..are not your stepchildren. She is weirdly delusional.
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    Heavy_Can8746 No. NTA. tell her that she can buy one of the other two a car and the dad can buy the last kid a car. Now all 3 have gotten a car bought by 3 people.
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    Dizzy_Air_9542 You really should have talked to your ex about buying your son a car. You share the child and frankly, need to get on board with the messaging you're giving him.
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    shammy_dammy While I consider it insanity to have bought a car like this for a newly minted teenaged driver, you are allowed to do that. And you have zero obligation in any way to support her other children. Their father can buy them a car. Her husband can likewise choose to not buy your son things.
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    hagglethorn NTA for buying him a car. He's your kid, your responsibility is to him, not his siblings. But YTA for a first car being a luxury car IMO.
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    Right_Cucumber5775 Sounds like it is time for your son to move in with you.
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    GoodArchitect_ YTA for calling your son's mum a name in front of him. Kids want to love both their parents, refrain from using derogatory language about each other in front of him. NTA for getting your son a car, you don't need to get his step sibling anything.
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    wolfcrownebox She married someone like her. So she needs to stop. Her husband needs to take care of his children. Unless he's too busy "following his heart" to get a job. NTA.

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