'Do you want to stay in a relationship with someone so selfish and inconsiderate?': Boyfriend eats all 8 jalapeño poppers girlfriend made for dinner before she can eat any of them

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Sep 3, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

You know that feeling when you've been looking forward to something all day? Maybe you purchased a new game and you're trudging through the workday. Looking forward to that moment when you're finally off the clock and you can play it for the first time. Maybe you're getting a package in the mail and you just can't wait to get home, rip it open, see whatever's inside, and test it out. Maybe you've been planning a trip for six months. You've requested time off work. You've bought your flights, you've booked some tours, and even planned a few outfits. And all of these situations, your expectations are oriented in a certain way. 

You're excited about something that will come to pass. So imagine if it didn't. Imagine if you come home and the game has a bug that makes it unplayable. Your package got stolen from your front doorstep. Your trip has just been canceled. You would probably be pretty upset. Expectations can lead us to be disappointed later. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't have them. 

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  • A man takes a bite of food.
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  • That's what happened to this couple on a small scale that speaks volumes. One woman set out to make her and her boyfriend dinner, but when she finally freed herself up to enjoy it, her boyfriend had already spoiled the fun. Read on to see what happened in the story and to see people's reactions in the comments.

  • AITA for being mad that my boyfriend ate all 8 jalapeño poppers I made before I even got one?

    Tonight, I cooked dinner for my boyfriend and me. I made a main dish and a little appetizer: jalapeño poppers. There were 8 of them, and I was excited because I love jalapeño poppers and hadn't had them in forever.
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  • We sat down to watch a movie, and I was still getting settled before starting to eat. Over the course of about 15 minutes, he ate every single one of the poppers. By the time I was ready to grab one, the plate was completely empty. I didn't even get ONE.
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  • I asked him why he didn't leave me any, and he just shrugged and said, "You didn't say you wanted any." I was like... I made dinner for BOTH of us. Obviously, I wanted some! He said I was overreacting because they're "just snacks" and he was hungry.
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  • Now I'm annoyed because 1) I went through the trouble of making them and 2) he didn't think to leave me even one. He thinks I'm being petty for being mad over food. So, AITA for being mad that he ate every single jalapeño popper without saving me one?
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  • Commenters agreed that this was unacceptable behavior.

    Antique-Commerci... • 14h ago This stage of your relationship is about as good as it gets. He sounds selfish and then insults your intelligence by trying to deflect and calling you petty. Find a better man.
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  • Silver_Ad_219 • 14h ago Whyyyyy do people stay with people like this? Inconsiderate, disrespectful, r de. I don't get it. He will only get worse with time, guaranteed.
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  • . RugbyKats 13h ago So he sat on his a eating the whole appetizer while you were working, then blamed you for not getting any. Yeah, uh, NTA except for staying with such a selfish person.
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  • HOUS2000IAN • 14h ago . NTA. He acted like a greedy b Ird who doesn't know how to share.
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  • JJOkayOkay • 14h ago He sounds insanely selfish and disrespectful of both your time and your feelings. Do you really want to make a life with someone who is so careless of you?
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  • Scary_Sarah • 13h ago "DARVO (an acronym for "Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender") is a reaction that perpetrators of wrongdoing may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior."
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  • Deny: I didn't think that you wanted any Attack: you're petty Reverse Victim and offender: he was hungry
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  • j NYCStoryteller • 13h ago NTA. No. Tell him off. Do not allow him to say "you didn't say you wanted any." Dude. It's not overreacting to expect that you should get to eat the food you make. It's not a low- effort snack like making guac and opening a bag of chips. It's a bit more of a process. Your boyfriend is a selfish
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  • cassowary32 • 14h ago . NTA. Do you want to stay in a relationship with someone so selfish and inconsiderate?
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  • TALKTOME0701 13h ago NTA • He was so greedy he had to stuff them down his pie hole at the rate of a popper every 2 minutes I hate it when people call a legitimate upset "petty" What's petty is eating all of a shared appetizer before your partner can get one bite
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  • Due... • • 13h ago Edited 9h ago Any normal person would assume you would split the "appetizer" equally. It is absolutely ride of him. If he somehow forgot to stop and save you some, a loving partner would apologize profusely and maybe even offer to make it up to you in some way. It is even more r de of him to not apologize and instead defend himself. Red flag spotted. NTA
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  • Informed Triangle • 13h ago This is going to sound a little bit hyperbolic over such a seemingly little thing but, that shows such an astounding lack of thought and consideration for his partner (you) that I question the relationship as a whole. What even. You're NTA but he definitely is.
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  • Green-East-2851 13h ago NTA Until he realizes his bad behaviour and acknowledges the hard work you put in, don't cook for him. He's an adult. He should be able to cook his own food.
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  • Be clear though. Tell him you're not being petty over food. It's him whose taking advantage of you, while simultaneously not being appreciative of your hard work.
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  • Background_actor... • 13h ago NTA But now he has to cook for you tomorrow night. Appetizer and dinner! So I was just in here last week complaining about my husband saying he didn't want anything to eat and then eating my food. I get it! It's really frustrating when that
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  • happens, especially when you don't have a replacement! Your boyfriend is selfish and the fact that he's minimizing it as being mad over food (you know that thing you need to not di ) instead of apologizing and being rightfully horrified that he did that. Like, I can understand if
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  • he wasn't really paying attention and then realized he ate them all when you said something, but somebody that didn't do it on purpose would be very apologetic because they didn't mean to do it. They would be horrified that they did it without thinking. He immediately got defensive which is pretty much proof that he did it on purpose! He was just hoping you wouldn't call him out on it.
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  • He's not apologetic because he meant to do it and he didn't care that you didn't get any because he's more important than you in his mind. I'm sorry.
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  • Ssn81 11h ago . NTA. He did it on purpose. Who eats 8 poppers in 15 mins? He scarfed those down in a hurry because he wanted to be done before you realized. Is he always this inconsiderate?
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  • louielou8484 • 13h ago Were they frozen or homemade? I'm already furious if they were "just" frozen.. let me get a little angrier for you.
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  • Bearliz 13h ago NTA. I would have made him go to the store and buy more before he got the rest big the meal, and if he refused, I would ask him to leave. Such greed is ridiculous.
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