‘My gut was telling me something’: Roommate demands no pet sitters and volunteers to care for her housemate's cat, then proceeds to ignore her for nine whole days and nights

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Ayala Sorotsky • Writer and Editor
Sep 6, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

They say a mother's instinct is the strongest gut feeling in nature - and as cat pawrents, we believe it's true. Because we all feel it as human parents for our fluffy feline children. When you become a cat pawrent, some primal thing awakens within you - it's a mix of the need to defend, the desire to nurture, the understanding of softness, and the fierce feeling of love. That's the maternal instinct rising up in every person who adopts a cat.

This one cat mama shares she wished she had listened to her gut, because her cat pawrent instincts were screaming: "Don't leave your cat with your roommate, don't do it!" before she went away for nine whole nights. But you know how annoying, vindictive, bad roommates are - they refuse any solution that'll be comfortable for the other denizens of the house, and also won't help solve any problems. And this roommate? She refused to have a pet sitter come and take care of the cat, insisting she'd do it herself. What actually happened is that she promptly neglected the cat until these nine days were over.

When cat mama came home, she was beyond mad - and understandably so! She suspects a roommates' feud is the reason for the cat's neglect. But, seriously, who would do that to a cat for petty human revenge?

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    I'd organised a pet sitter to come to the house and drop by every two days to feed, water, play with my cat and change her litter whilst I was away for 9 nights.
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    My housemate said she was uncomfortable with this and said that she'd gladly take care of the cat and that I
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    should've just asked her instead. I made the compromise as it's my housemate's house too.
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    I just got back today and... I'm fuming. The state of her food and water bowls, her litter was packed with ... I'm just astounded. I'm so so
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    mad and upset for my poor baby who was neglected for 9 nights. There were sooo many ants and mould and pieces of carpet in the food
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    bowl! Water doesn't look like it's been changed for days. I went through two trash bags getting rid of all the
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    It's confounding because my housemate has looked after the cat before and this didn't happen. But that was
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    also before a bunch of drama with our other housemate. Those two girls paired up in a way but the
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    two female roommates in a fight, one is angry about the mess in the house, the other is on her phone and indifferent to her surroundings
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    housemate who 'helped' me out assured me our relationship had not changed just because I was no longer friends with the other.
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    kitten crying in front of an empty, dirty plate
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    But now I worry if her laziness was actually secretly vindictive. I knew I didn't ask her
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    to help this second time around for a reason - my gut was telling me something. I'm just so mad I didn't listen.
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    cat sitting in front of an empty food bowl, looking at the camera as if asking the human for food
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    AIO if I blow up at her? I feel like blowing up at her. I only have 7 weeks left in the house though and then me and my baby are out of here.
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    I guess I just want to feel validated a little. I'm so sad, mad and disappointed.
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    takingastepbackwards. NOT overreacting. in fact (praying to all heavens she doesn't!!!!) if she gets sick, at all, and requires going to the vet, ask your roommate to pay half.
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    keep an eye on your baby for constipation and urination issues, there's no way of making sure she was getting the proper amount of water during those 9 days, which let's
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    be realistic, she probably was not. watch for any sudden weight gain or weight loss accompanied by a fever and or any bathroom issues, and keep an eye on her eyes/nose for any excess discharge.
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    if she's showing any signs of being sick at any point within i'd say the next week of you being back, i would take her to the vet just to be 100% sure.
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    the mix between molding food/potential digestion of ants/bacteria buildup in the litterbox she had a lot exposed to her in a short amount of time :(
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    i hope you're both alright. if you blow up on her, tell someone first, for your own sake. 100
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    jummpscaare OP Thanks so much for this advice. I didn't even think about the medical side of things 27 ...
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    edingirl ⚫ It's not an overreaction. However, I would probably restrict any confrontation to showing your roommate how hurt and disappointed you are. Take your cat to the
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    vet, hopefully all is ok but if not then your roommate needs to pay the vet bill for any treatment. I'm guessing your cat has missed cuddles and caring while you were away as well. I would be
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    thinking about moving out asap and not waiting several weeks, those girls seem toxic and slightly unnerving. Good luck and keep us posted. 12
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    jummpscaare OP • Thanks so much for the advice. They certainly have started to unnerve me and I would love to leave earlier but I simply can't, as I'll be moving halfway across the world to another country. I've learned a lot of lessons through this. ↑ 7
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    Knight_of_Wolves69⚫ What the ever living f I'd be BEYOND livid. Wait until youre walking out with the last box, look her in the face, say what needs to be said, "bye" shut door. ↑ 3 ♡ jummpscaare OP • I'm honestly excited for this moment. 843 ...
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    Certain Commercial86 ⚫ People are absolutely brain de d. Hope she gets what's comin. 9 3 jummpscaare OP • Agree 6
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    pinkkipanda ⚫ I don't think I can even write how I'D react without breaking a few rules :/ They should have just allowed the pet sitter to come do it if they weren't going to do the job. I'm glad you're able to move away soon. If you need to leave again, just give your key to the pet sitter and that's it. 6 ...
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    Kind-Confusion3949 • Something tells me she did it on purpose some people can be very vindictive but doing that to human being an animal she's a 283 jummpscaare OP. Thank you 853 ...
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