18-year-old refuses to pay rent when her parents demand it after she has already moved out: '[My aunt said] my parents really needed this and deserved it for raising me [but] I want nothing to do with them'

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  • [Am I wrong] for telling my parents i will not be helping them with their rent?

    I (18F) moved out of my parent's house a little while ago as soon as i could. To provide some context, my parents have wronged me many times in my life, including threatening to get rid of my dog (which i have a whole post on). Since i moved out, I've been working a job and paying rent for an apartment i
  • A young woman gazes straight at the camera with her head resting in one hand and arm on the windowsill
  • share with my friend and have had enough money left to save up a bit to go to college in a few years. I am the youngest in the family so after i moved out no one was left at home, both my siblings moved out as well. So their financial support from my brother paying them rent for his bedroom has been cut off. I am completely independent and have told my parents multiple times that i want nothing to do with them and even blocked their numbers completely.
  • Earlier this week, my grandmother called me and explained that my parents desperately need money for rent and asked if i could spare money from my college savings (which i saved up on my own so far) to help them. I outright refused and told my grandmother I would not be helping at all since every penny in my savings is gathered by me
  • working hard and supporting myself. I love my grandmother and told her that if she needed help herself i was willing to help but would not help with my parents. For this entire week, my aunt has been calling me repeatedly saying my parents really needed this and deserved
  • it for raising me. My mom's side of the family threatened to cut me off if i didn't help which is honestly so petty because i'm only 18 years old they should be helping instead. I told my friend about it and she said that i was taking it too far and i should've helped. Now im wondering if I am TAH.
  • OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the ah le: Not helping my parents with rent should be judged Not considering their financial situation makes me an a hle because they're struggling with it
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  • Available-Love7940 "They deserve it for raising you." Um, no. That's what is legally required. You have children, you raise them. They don't owe you for doing that. Your aunt and your mom's side are all welcome to contribute to the rent if they are so concerned. You? Save up for some therapy as well, and good luck! NTA
  • Aintscared61 Never tell anyone you have money saved. This happens. And it really s ks they are trying to make you feel bad. NTA.

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