Woman doubts if she should pick up his 11-year-old stepdaughter's birthday cake after boyfriend claims he's leaving her: 'For four years I've been dealing with these types of blow ups'

It is rarely an easy process to end a relationship, and this is doubly true if there are children involved. When this is the case, it is not only the feelings of the couple at stake but also those of the kids, who are, for the most part, not at fault for whatever has failed in a connection between two adults.

Nonetheless, it is all too common for children to be caught in the crossfire of a relationship that is reaching its end. If it is messy, it is almost guaranteed that they are going to receive some of the fallout. It isn't fair, but at times it winds up being unavoidable.

As an adult in this situation, one of the most important parts of walking away has to be minimizing the negative impact on any kids involved. Obviously, this is not always possible, but there are some things that can be done to soften the blow.

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This was a dilemma that one woman was faced with after her boyfriend announced that he would soon be leaving her after several years of an unhappy relationship. The issue was that the younger of his two daughters was celebrating her birthday, and he expected her to pick up the cake.
Throughout the duration of the relationship, the woman had assumed a stepmom role with the two girls, so she felt some responsibility towards them. At the same time, she resented doing any more favors for her soon-to-be ex. She wanted a second opinion.
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Would I be wrong for not taking my boyfriend to get his daughter's cake for her birthday?

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Commenters had different opinions, although many felt she should make an effort for the kids.

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