‘I never adopted another cat after moomoo, I was terrified … they could be used against me’: A cat's unconditional love becomes a source of contention in a toxic relationship, and his final days inspire his owner to choose her own well-being over her ex

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Laurent Shinar • Writer and Editor
Sep 25, 2025 1:00 PM EDT

Trauma is a tough thing to overcome, but when you have a pawdorable pet (especially a cat child) by your side, then the load is lightened significantly. You have someone to lean on, someone to sit with, without having to utter a single word, someone who no matter what will be by your side when things get tough. And while this is an amazing kind of a relationship, it does create certain difficulties when you want to bring another hooman into your closest circle of trust.

Especially if that hooman has also been through trauma and has an emotional support doggo of their own. And that is the basis of this story, which details the drama that unfolded when these two post-traumatic individuals tried to figure out how they might get to live together. An unfortunately problematic decision that cost both of the people involved a lot of emotional energy.
 

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    I've been dating my (24F) boyfriend (26M) for a bit over a year now, and he really wants me to move in with him. The problem? My cat. My cat is 16, and dying. The vet says it would be unwise to hope for anything
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    past six months. I've had this cat since I was a child, he was there for me through everything. There are a few reasons I don't want to move: 1) moving is really stressful for cats, and I don't want to cause any
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    unneeded stress for my old boy. 2) my boyfriend has a fairly energetic Rottweiler, my cat has never been good with dogs (almost when he was two J years old, we had to amputate his leg it was so badly crushed/injured).
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    I understand my boyfriend wants me to be close to him, I want that too, but is it really so much to ask for a few months for my cat to pass away? It hurts me so much that he keeps calling me unfair and not committed in this relationship, I
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    am. But my longest friend is dying, and I want him to be comfortable. He doesn't seem to grasp how important my cat is to me. He has never liked cats, and even made the joke "when he's
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    gone I will finally be your number one man." I don't know how to handle this at all. Any advice is welcome
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    Update next day First off, let me say I'm still shaking so if this is a rambled mess I am sorry. All your kind words from yesterday made me cry, thank you all so much. I
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    thought I would give some back story to how my BF and I met. It was through a support group, as I mentioned. Growing up, (until age 7) I had a very ae dad. When I was 7 he tried to my mother and I, luckily the cops intervened
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    and they took him away. My mom charged him and he got put away. When the trial was done, we moved, and my mom gave me Moomoo (don't judge the name, I was 8), from a local shelter. I didn't fit in
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    at the new school, And moomoo was the best thing in my life. Back to the support group. I shared my story, and my BF confronted me after saying he also had a. e parents growing up, and we
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    bonded over our similar situations. I didn't realize how much control he had over me until recently. He convinced me to stop seeing my therapist, we also stopped going to group. He used to
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    tell me what to wear, how to style my hair (it's very curly, and recently I've been straightening it because he would always say it looked better). A few hours ago, I invited him over for lunch and to talk.
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    Luckily, moomoo was in my room sleeping. I told him what you guys said, saying that if it was his dog he would be upset. He blew up. He told me that wasn't the point. The point was I wasn't committed to him, or didn't care about
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    us. He started throwing things (a glass, some books I had lying about, and some picture frames). It was terrifying. I had never seen him this angry before, and I just reverted back to what I used to do as a kid. Curl up, cover
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    yourself as much as you can, stay quiet. Bless my roommate, who came home during this fit. She had brought the security guard because as she was walking in she heard the shouting/items breaking. My BF was escorted out, as he
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    left I just screamed "don't come back." I hope it sticks. I've blocked his number, and my landlady has been notified not to let him in, as have the guards. Next step is neighbours. I don't really know what to
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    do from here. I emailed my therapist, hopefully she will let me come back. My mom is on the way over right now, and my roommate is with me too. I'm so terrified. I didn't realize how much control he had over
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    me. I thought all his early behaviours was just because he had clingy issues from his own upbringing. I'm going to have a bath, relax, let my hair go curly again, and cuddle my baby. I'm really glad Moomoo was in my
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    room. Thank you all for the help. I didn't think any of this was wrong until you guys brought it up. I still love him, and feel bad for him. He had as 't upbringing too, and I'm sure he's messed up from it, but I'm going to try to move
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    on. After my cat dies, I'm going to move out from this place, to somewhere he doesn't know about. Thank you all again.
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  • Oh dang, this is a set-up for a most precarious and tense situation. You could hardly add any more tension to this situation without it toppling over and causing a whole lot of drama immediately. We can only wonder which factor in this mess is going to be the spark that ignites the whole thing…

  • Ok, now things are getting a little clearer, even if only in the sense that it is clear that there are going to be significant issues in this story. Two emotional support animals who have helped their hoomans through their trauma, now about to come up against each other in terms of importance. This cannot end well at all for anyone.

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