30-year-old woman finds group chat on husband's phone where he calls her "The Warden," he brushses it off as "guy humor" when she confronts him: 'I never once told him he couldn't go out'

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    I found out my husband has a secret group chat where he calls me "the warden"

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    I am 30F, my husband is 32M. We have been married 4 years. Last weekend he left his iPad unlocked and I accidentally saw
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    his notifications. turns out he and three of his closest friends have a private group chat where they joke about their wives.
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    Except it wasn't funny. My husband calls me " the warden ". Screenshots of my texts reminding him to pick up
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    groceries. Comments like " the warden won't let me stay out late tonight ". Even jokes about me checking his phone ". II
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    The thing is, I never once told him he couldn't go out. I never demanded to see his phone. All those things he wrote were lies
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    just to look cool in front of his friends. When I confronted him, he laughed and said it's "just guy humor" and I was being too
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    sensitive. But I can't stop thinking that my husband would rather lie about me than just admit to his friends that we have a normal
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    relationship. Now I don't know what hurts more, the fact that he called me names or the fact that he needed to invent a controlling version of me to keep up his image.
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    notsure05 men like this always act soo0 surprised when their wives eventually get fed up with the lack of respect and leave them
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    This isn't 2005 anymore, no mature person thinks it's cool or funny to joke about your wife being a burden or a nuisance
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    cgm824 Brutal truth, a lot of men don't believe their partners will ever leave, right up until they're literally watching them walk out the door with packed bags.
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    Then they act shocked, like it came out of nowhere. Like it did not just come out of nowhere!
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    Easy-Concentrate 2636 I wonder what would happen if op told him that he's been exonerated and is now free to leave the jail.
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    Hot-Celebration-8815 Even in 2005, those jokes were cringe. I always thought, if you hate your wife, why are you with her?
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    notsure05 Someone didn't watch any of the popular sitcoms of the 2000s, which played out the "I hate my wife" jokes tirelessly lol Cringe to you, not to plenty in 2005 unfortunately
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    Unknown_User_009 Just a heads up, an ex did this and turned out he would cheat on me whenever he hung out with those same guys. This was to cover his cheating a as I was | "so horrible" to be around that they never ratted him out.
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    -aSADclown- Yep. Can also verify that this has happened to me. My husband would present me as this controlling, jealous, horrible person to people who had never
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    even met me to the point that they would encourage him to sneak around behind my back. He cheated on me with multiple women and presented me in the same light to them.
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    I would not take this husband's behavior as harmless or normal.
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    Ginger_Libra He doesn't respect you. Does he even like you?
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    Being asked to pick up groceries that equally contribute to your household is something that is beneath him.
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    Duskleaflet I agree with this. He's literally more concerned about entertaining his friends than considering your feelings even after you confronted him. That's literally not cool and it's just shows that he doesn't like you.

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