62-year-old grandmother makes 9-year-old grandson clean the entire kitchen after he accidentally spills some juice, mom confronts her for disciplining her son so harshly and considers banning her: 'Chores are one thing, punishment is another'

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    AITA for telling my MIL she's not allowed to discipline my son after she made him scrub her floors as punishment?

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    My son (9M) accidentally spilled juice on my MIL's (62F) kitchen counter. Instead of handing him a towel, she told him to "clean up the whole kitchen" as
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    punishment. He spent an hour scrubbing while she stood over him. He came home upset and said he felt "like a servant."
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    When I confronted MIL, she said she was "teaching responsibility" and that I coddle him too much. I told her that disciplining my child
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    is not her job and she crossed a line. She snapped back that if he's in her house, her rules apply.
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    My husband thinks she went overboard but says I shouldn't "ban her" from correcting him
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    entirely because "it takes a village." I feel strongly that chores are one thing, punishment is another.
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    AITA for saying MIL can't discipline my kid anymore?
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    Visual-Gas-3083 NTA. Teaching responsibility is fine, but punishment that crosses into humiliation isn't her role.
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    She's not the parent, and boundaries matter. Your kid deserves respect in every household.
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    HamRadio_73 Her house, her rules? OK, game on. See that your child never visits her again.
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    This. madgeystardust That would be the last time my kid was in her house.
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    Tight_Jaguar_3881 Me too. What a horrid grandmother. It was an accident.
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    Slurms_McKensei Hijacking top comment to say: Punishments cannot be things you want your kid to do as an adult habit. Exercise, cleaning,
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    writing/reading, anything that is good and productive should never be used to punish because they will become adverse to it.
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    Mean_Meet576 I agree with this comment. Clean up his mess, yes. Scrub the floor? No. A spill doesn't deserve a punishment. P.S. I'm a Mimi with a 10 year grandson.
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    DextersGirl Being made to clean as punishment (my family owned a motel so this was a whole thing) will force a human beings brain to associate cleaning with punishment. Trust me.
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    HoppMuzzle You're absolutely right to draw the line here. Teaching responsibility is one thing, but what she did crossed into
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    humiliation and that's not her place. Boundaries matter and your son deserves respect no matter whose house he's in.
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    Ima-Bott Simple solution, and you know what it is. Leave it at that. When she asks why no visits lately, tell her.
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    Savings Beginning7146 ngl, That's a good point! Sometimes a little distance is the best way to send a message without drama.
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    galacticprincess She punished him for an accidental spill. It would be different if he'd intentionally
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    trashed the kitchen. All she taught him is that accidents are not allowed and he'll be punished for them. That's sick IMO.
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    Successful_Voice8542 Super simple fix. Grandma can visit with your son at your house so you have control. Or he can see her at her house if you are in attendance. But she doesn't get
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    him alone any longer because "our discipline styles are different and I don't want him being left alone with anyone who will not abide by my decisions about how my child is treated."

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