‘Her boyfriend doesn’t live with us and technically should have no say': Roommate demands cat’s removal after boyfriend’s allergy drama, leaving pawrent caught between love, leases, and litter boxes

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Sarah Brown • Writer and Editor
Oct 7, 2025 4:00 PM EDT

In this fur-filled fiasco, one cat-loving tenant found herself caught in a hissterical standoff between her new feline friend and her roommate's sneezy boyfriend. Two weeks ago, she brought home the purrfect kitty. Sweet, cuddly, and totally unaware of impending drama. The roommate initially agreed to see how it goes in two weeks, but apparently meant exactly two weeks on the dot. Now, her boyfriend is claiming "severe" allergic reactions… even when he's not in the apartment. Sounds a little pawssuspicious.

This cat parent has gone above and beyond. Vacuuming, purifying, spritzing, and even buying allergy-reducing food that takes weeks to kick in. Meanwhile, the boyfriend refuses to try allergy meds, acting like Claritin is contraband. The roommate's demands for the cat's eviction have reached full catastrophe levels, but really, how much power does an off-site boyfriend have in a shared apartment?

In the end, it's a classic clash of roommates, boundaries, and one very adored cat caught in the middle. With patience and compromise, there's still hope for a peaceful paws treaty.

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    My roommate who I have 10 months left on the lease with is demanding I get rid of the cat | adopted two weeks ago because her boyfriend is allergic and is having "severe" allergic reactions even when he is not around my apartment or my roommate. She knew he was allergic before I adopted the cat and told me I
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    could get the cat if I took precautions to reduce the allergens. An expectation was set that we would see how things go for two weeks - I really meant a little longer than that but she took it literally.
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    I foolishly said that if in a a week or two after trying the stuff to reduce allergens then I'd see about rehoming the cat. I know this was dumb, and it was dumb for both of us to agree to this as I don't think I could ever actually get rid of a cat like that, especially one that is as sweet and cute and perfect as mine. Her boyfriend hasn't taken any allergy medication because he feels it's unnecessary.
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    So now my roommate basically texted me demanding that it's been two weeks and that it's not working out and that I have to get rid of my cat. My roommate says she doesn't want her boyfriend to be allergic to her and is asking when she can expect the cat to be gone. I've gone above and
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    beyond to limit the allergens - buying allergy-reducing food, allergy-reducing spray, air purifier, vacuuming regularly, buying claritin for the boyfriend · and I feel my roommates boyfriend should at least try taking allergy medication. He's acting like I'm asking him to take crazy illegal dr is, I think she's -
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    scared that he's not going to want to hang out with her anymore. It's creating a lot of tension and she's saying that I'm going back on our agreement.
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    However, I think she needs to wait longer because the allergen reducing food I have takes 3-4 weeks to even start kicking in, and I think her bf needs to try allergy meds. I don't want to get rid of her, she is also my ESA and I have legal documentation stating that. If I absolutely have
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    to I can move her to my boyfriends house who has no pets but I really don't want to and I think she's being a bit unreasonable since her boyfriend doesn't live with us and technically should have no say anyways. I acknowledge that there is a certain level of not coolness in me technically going back on our agreement, but neither of us should have even agreed to that. Would I be the a hole if I kept my cat?
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    Edit: I have a third roommate who is chill with the cat, and I forgot to add that his last gf apparently had a cat. So his allergies couldn't have been that bad
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    MtnNerd NTA the boyfriend doesn't live there. I would prepare to move out or get a different roommate though
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    blobfishhhhhh if bro hasn't even tried medicine then your roommate has no right to demand that of you. nta
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  • If the boyfriend doesn’t even live there, it’s a bit strange for him to be making demands. He’s practically a guest. Guests don’t get veto power over resident cats or cuddle privileges.

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    RealTalkFastWalk ESH. You because you agreed to terms you had no real intention of honoring, which led your roommate to say yes when she otherwise likely would have said no from the start.
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    Her bf does not live there though and so his allergies should not factor above your desire to have a cat (that otherwise would be acceptable to your roommates and in terms of your lease.)
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    xpoisonvalkyrie you already agreed to get rid of the cat after two weeks. (which was a major mess-up on your part) it's been two weeks. either rehome the cat, or risk a nasty roommate relationship for almost a year.
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    oaksandpines1776 NTA He is not a resident. They can go to HIS home instead of your place. Keep the kitty!
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    QuincyMade Look, just a guys opinion. But I think you may be being a bit insensitive here. The terms were the terms. And if you meant longer. You should've said that... I don't mean to come off cruel. But, I think you gotta honor your side of the deal. It's going to hurt your pride a little bit. But you said two weeks and the roommate agreed.
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    I'd be more lenient if the cat was already there. But it wasn't. You have to be courteous to your roommate. Even if it's just to appease her SO. Once again, it was an agreement in place about it.
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  • The real issue here seems to be the agreement itself. If it’s not resolved, it could cause roommate tension. Try sitting down with her to talk things through and find another solution. 

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    alrightyxxaphrodite YTA. You had a whole conversation and AGREED to the terms YOU helped set. This would be different if you hadn't outright AGREED. Do not make promises you have no intention of keeping.
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    FoodNo672 Does he live there??? My entire family is allergic and I have a cat. If they visit they know to take their allergy meds. If they stay for a few days they get a little stuffed up regardless. ☑NTA, though it wasn't wise to say you would rehome the cat.
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  • Maybe you could compromise by keeping the cat in another room when he visits, or he could just take allergy meds before coming over. Seems like a fair middle ground for everyone. 

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    Throwawaylife1984 So he has the allergy but doesn't want to treat it? Does he live there with you? If not, seems like a him problem.
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    SoSaysTheAngel NTA. He's not your roommate. He doesn't live there. What he's allergic to shouldn't be a factor in your life.
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