25-year-old woman calls out boyfriend for showing her online criticism of Taylor Swift's new album: 'She told me I'd ruined the album and Taylor Swift for her'

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Oct 22, 2025 10:00 PM EDT

Okay, I'll admit it. I'm a Swiftie. I wasn't for a long time, and then she won me over with folklore and evermore. I can't help it that I enjoy excellent lyricism and songwriting. Sorry! And I feel the need to say "sorry" about it because of the reputation (no pun intended) of her most ardent fans. She commands her fandom in a way that is terrifying to the masses. They are one of the most powerful armies in the world, and I'm being totally serious. They scan the whole internet for any passing mention of their queen, and they will tear naysayers to shreds. Not all of her fans are like this, but a lot of them are, and that can be a scary thing to face. 

With the release of her latest album, The Life of a Showgirl, it came with a tsunami of reactions online. Some negative, some positive, all of them very hard to ignore, at least if you have my media diet. So the thought that someone might miss out on this discourse is a little surprising to me. 

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  • But that's what happened to one woman who managed to avoid all the negative messaging surrounding the album, until her boyfriend pointed it out to her. But when he did, she quickly realized she wished he hadn't. But was he in the wrong for showing it to her, or was he justified in feeling miffed? Read on for the full story and see what you think. 

  • Was I wrong for showing my girlfriend some criticism of Taylor Swift's latest album after she asked for it?

    My girlfriend is a big Taylor Swift fan. Last weekend when we were cuddling I asked how she liked the latest album (she'd really been waiting for it to drop). She said it was good and asked me how I liked it. I said I hadn't gotten the chance to listen to it but I'd just asked because some people were
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  • flaming it on X. She asked me about what, I said I wasnt sure, just that I'd read it when it came across me. She insisted that she wanted to see the posts, so I just showed them to her. She read it, disagreed with a few of them out loud, tried to explain to me why they were wrong, and I just agreed with her.
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  • Last night when we were driving one of the songs in the latest album came up on her Spotify, and during it she told me I'd ruined the album and Taylor Swift for her. I thought she was joking but she was serious. AITA for having brought up all the criticism I came across to her?
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  • Commenters chimed in with responses and reactions.

    Prissy1997 18h ago Do you and her have bad blood now?
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  • floataboveit • 18h ago NTA. She sounds like a child. "You ruined for me" is not the way mature people speak.
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  • ALilCountryALilHood 17h ago Your girlfriend doesn't sound old enough to have a boyfriend.
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  • wesmorgan1 • 18h ago . She specifically asked to read the criticism. That's on her. You "ruined" nothing. NTA.
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  • No_Preparation_379 • 17h ago NTA and as a Swifty, I am saying NTA How old is your gf? She sounds very immature. Normal adults can handle criticism of something or someone they like.
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  • AbbreviationsOk79... 18h ago . Just want to make sure I understand correctly. Your girlfriend has had an album she enjoyed "ruined" because people she doesn't know a thing about said the album was bad..... she needs to touch grass and get a grip. She should also work on not allowing outside opinions to impact her point of view.
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  • NTA all you did was answer her question and she would've come across similar criticism because I saw fan pages talking negatively about the album
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  • lamIrene 18h ago • she told me I'd ruined the album and Taylor Swift for her. Uh...no, you didn't. If your questions and showing her what is being said online (after she insisted on seeing it) is enough to sway her opinion then, man...does she even have the ability to think for herself? LOL!
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  • gbriellek 18h ago TS fans themselves are flaming this new album. NTA, she was bound to run into the criticism at some point... and if she didn't then she's so far under the Swifty rock that anything but outright praise would "ruin" it for her.
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  • Typical2sday · 18h ago Wow, your GF does not have the strength of her convictions. NTA. She didn't need you to bring her the internet's reviews of TLOAS - they're literally everywhere. Is she 8? Are there parental filters on her browser and phone?
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  • BigBackeron • 18h ago Lol. When you said "she was asking for it" in the title, I thought you were being figurative, but after reading the post I see you meant it literally. NTA. Your opinion shouldn't have that much influence on her enjoyment of the album. If it did, she shouldn't have asked for criticism.
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  • Forsoothia • 18h ago NTA. Seems like her convictions aren't so strong if strangers on Twitter can ruin it for her.
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  • notsogood380 - 18h ago NTA, she literally asked to see it, and it's not your fault she can't handle hearing that her favorite pop star isn't universally adored.
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  • mhfp545 • 17h ago I read so much stuff like this on Reddit and I can't believe people have relationships like this. Upset over utter trivia for which OP is clearly not to blame. It just sounds absolutely exhausting.
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  • . lemonade_sparkle · 17h ago She needs to shake shake shake shake it off, shake it off
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  • clairejv 18h ago NTA. If the album was "ruined" for her when she read the criticism, that's not your fault. It's her fault for asking to see the criticism, and not being able to separate her own impressions of a work of art from others' opinions.
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  • reidybobeidy89 17h ago Should you be dating a middle schooler?
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  • Uubilicious_The_W... • 18h ago Fans are obviously fanatical and at this level, I would avoid all conversation about anything to do with it. NTA though. Your GF is being highly illogical in my opinion, but then that's fanaticism for you
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  • Hopeful-Material4... . 18h ago Some of my favorite movies in the world are ones my husband does not like ...and vice versa. His favorite band has only a few songs I like. Neither of us take that personally. She is weird for that. NTA.
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  • nasnedigonyat ⚫ 17h ago She doesn't sound old enough to date if this is how she handles interactions. I mean....like it if you like it. Hate if you hate it. Think it's mid AF if you think it's mid AF.
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  • Don't crash out bc the world doesn't share your opinion and conform to your expectations. She can't enjoy something bc she read that someone else didn't enjoy it....or is she saying she agrees with the criticism and now can't unhear that it's mid AF? Either way. NTA.
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  • SillyMoose25 • 17h ago NTA - I wouldn't consider Twitter my go to for nuanced music criticism, but it's really weird to blame you for ruining an album. If she liked it before why does it matter. If you only listen to the music the internet all collectively likes you'd be left with no music.
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  • Even if you take away all the different variants (and billboard cracks down on some of that anyways) it would still be spending its second at #1. Clearly a lot of people like this album. She could easily find internet takes that will match her original one.
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  • But also she doesn't need to like Taylor Swift. There are so many artists out there! If anything find what she liked about previous Taylor Swift albums and you can find others like it. Could be a fun thing to do as a couple.
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