‘He actually got annoyed and said I was “gatekeeping” the dog’: Sister’s boyfriend insists on being a co-parent to her dog after five months, wants to split decisions and bills, and gets mad when told to back off

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  • AITJ for telling my sister I won’t pretend her boyfriend is a “co parent” to my dog

    I'm basically co-parenting him! Split the vet bill with me.
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  • So I'm 29F, single, no kids, I work from home and I have a 4 year old mutt who is basically my child.
  • My sister (26F) started dating this guy 5 months ago. He's fine, kind of performative, really into "being part of the family".
  • Recently he started doing this thing where he calls my dog "our little guy" and asks me what "our rules" are for him.
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  • I thought he was joking. Then last weekend we had brunch at my mom's and I mentioned I was taking the dog to the vet on Tuesday.
  • Sister's boyfriend goes "ok just send me the invoice, I can split it since I'm basically co parenting him now".
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  • I said no, he's my dog, I pay for him. He actually got annoyed and said I was "gatekeeping" the dog and that if I let him walk the dog and watch him sometimes then he should be included in decisions.
  • Sis backed him up and said it would make him feel more included. I told them both I'm not making a 5 month boyfriend a financial or decision making person over my pet.
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  • If they break up in 2 months what, I'm supposed to update him on vaccinations for the rest of his life.
  • Now they're saying I made him feel stupid in front of the family. AITJ for telling him he's not the dog's dad
  • hedwigflysagain NTA, he made himself look stupid. You didn't do anything. Your sister must be desperate for companionship to date him.
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  • Muted-Appeal-823 Well he's acting stupid, so feeling stupid seems entirely appropriate to me! WTF is wrong with this guy? That behavior is weird as hell. And what's wrong with your sister that she thinks it's ok??
  • KesselRun73 You made him feel stupid because what he's saying and doing IS stupid. Even if they were married, he still has no input on your dog. WTAF is going on with people today'? NTJ.
  • NationalBase3449 Sis's boyfriend if an idiot. You aren't 'gatekeeping' your dog, you aren't saying he can't have a dog of his own or saying he can't be a dog parent ever. Your dog, your rules. This is your dog. period. full stop. If sis's idiot were to say 'our house' because he stays there sometimes, would she or your parents be like, yup, you're a part owner now. NTJ and keep an eye on your pooch, idiot might be stupid enough to try to take him and claim ownership.
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  • NTJ repthe732 Your sister is dating a crazy person. I would be careful with him around your dog as it looks like he's trying to build a legal argument for ownership
  • KneelBefore Thighs Uh, NTA at all. This ain't role- playing game, bro. Dude's tryna "play house" with your dog like he's some Lego set piece. Hell no. Stand your ground, sis. Your dog, your rules. It's a living being, not some feel-good ticket for this guy to feel "part of the family". Hit the brakes on this nonsense before he starts asking for shared custody after the break up. Stay solid.
  • Asleep_Koala_3860 NTJ he's an idiot. Do you and your sister live together? Because I would keep that weirdo away from my dog
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  • PandoricaFire Sometimes (most often) when someone feels embarrassed, it is because they did something embarrassing. The correct response is 'Good. He did something embarrassing. That's what happens '
  • happy4clappy If this is real, I'm quitting the internet and possibly the world. Someone can't be this weird, right?

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